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A 32 year old woman who knew little or nothing about bdsm suddenly discovers it through a Dom. They start having phone sex everyday. Something strange happens on the 4th day. Her orgasm seemed to double in intensity and length. And she admits it was the best she ever had. The Dom rewards her for cumming so hard. He thinks about having her rest a night, but no, again she has a hyper-orgasm.

How do you explain this? Is it because the submissive part of her is now free and she can be who she was meant to be? And since that behavior was reinforced will it now become the norm? There was no change in my orgasms from nilla to Dom but I think women are more complex.
 
Because somebody finally told her it was OK to have a great orgasm? Or even more so, someone told her she HAD to have a great orgasm. Either way - its the 'permission to enjoy' that means so much. Its very freeing.
 
There was definitely a change in my orgasms from nilla to dom---now i look back on those feeble spasms and wonder why i even bothered with sex.
 
YES-there was a big change. mine are better, stronger, i can have more...huge improvement :)
 
didn't care to orgasm in the days of more vanilla sex, and don't care to orgasm now. if anything, i would say an orgasm since being in the lifestyle and being fully aware of my place and purpose, is even less pleasurable because there is so much constant proof that it is wrong.
 
ownedsubgal said:
didn't care to orgasm in the days of more vanilla sex, and don't care to orgasm now. if anything, i would say an orgasm since being in the lifestyle and being fully aware of my place and purpose, is even less pleasurable because there is so much constant proof that it is wrong.
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why is it wrong?
 
i'd say there's a difference. normal quickie orgasms are nice, but there's nothing like one that's drawn out over time, beginning with the first heavy breath illicited from a spanking and ending with the huge gasping wet release.
 
I noticed a change in mine... maybe it was the pent up waiting for permission, or maybe it was a part of me that was missing and I finally found it to feel more whole.
It is definetly a step (or dozen) above a vanilla orgasm in my opinion... and I'll never give them up! MINE !! :: covets ::
 
ownedsubgal said:
didn't care to orgasm in the days of more vanilla sex, and don't care to orgasm now. if anything, i would say an orgasm since being in the lifestyle and being fully aware of my place and purpose, is even less pleasurable because there is so much constant proof that it is wrong.
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It's wrong even if it's what your master wants?
 
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?postid=6733738&highlight=orgasm#post6733738

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?postid=6894030&highlight=orgasm#post6894030

In the interest of keeping the discussion on topic, i think the links above are self-explanatory. The questions are valid red, but they have been answered before and i'd hate to see this topic turned into an osg dissection. If she wants to answer again, so be it, but i'd like to see some on topic posts. Lets have some great discussion on whether nilla orgasms are of lesser intensity than BDSM orgasms.

Yes ... orgasms as a result of BDSM activity seem to reverberate on a deeper level than a vanilla induced orgasm. i think part of it is psychological. i'd even go so far as to say that orgasms produced through BDSM come (no pun) from a psycho-sexual place rather than just physical ... although, pain/intense pleasure can cause the opposite reaction, i.e., your mind is tapped and all sorts of emotional/mental floodgates are opened.

lara
 
The best orgasms we've ever had have always been with "YOU" ;)

Seriously, who is going to rave if orgasms are truly perceived as worse, bad and declining in intensity? They have the capacity to get better, particularly if previously not so hot, with every new relationship or further experience, 'nilla or kinky, frequent or almost never, dependent on where one's interests are, no?

Could be an awakening of her true and submissive spirit, it could be that having kinky phone sex for four days in a row is a really new, hot and naughty thing, for now. It's probably not as good as it gets either way, but the best of the present moment is always fantastic!

32 year old woman who knew little or nothing about bdsm suddenly discovers it through a Dom. They start having phone sex everyday. Something strange happens on the 4th day. Her orgasm seemed to double in intensity and length. And she admits it was the best she ever had. The Dom rewards her for cumming so hard. He thinks about having her rest a night, but no, again she has a hyper-orgasm.

How do you explain this? Is it because the submissive part of her is now free and she can be who she was meant to be? And since that behavior was reinforced will it now become the norm? There was no change in my orgasms from nilla to Dom but I think women are more complex.
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s'lara said:
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?postid=6733738&highlight=orgasm#post6733738

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?postid=6894030&highlight=orgasm#post6894030

In the interest of keeping the discussion on topic, i think the links above are self-explanatory. The questions are valid red, but they have been answered before and i'd hate to see this topic turned into an osg dissection. If she wants to answer again, so be it, but i'd like to see some on topic posts. Lets have some great discussion on whether nilla orgasms are of lesser intensity than BDSM orgasms.


lara
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I guess my post was just as on topic as your previous one was then. I have no interest or energy to dissect anything OSG says, nor do I feel the need to keep a record of each and every one of her previous coments so I can take her statements in the proper context. However, I do want to understand.

And for the record my opinion on the subject is pretty well alined with BlueSugar's, except for the whole coveting and not giving them up thing.
 
Personally, I dont think there is a difference in the orgasms, just a difference in who you are having them with.

But I will admit that there is a psychological boost that you get when you are doing as you are told.

I've become much better at orgasming on command.
 
Though I've found there are physical and psychological advantages to orgasm control, denial, what have you, I'm the only one who can manipulate my body enough to prolong and intensify an orgasm. Yeah, I'm happy when I come when he wants me to, but physically, I do it best on my own. *shrugs*
 
sigsauer/redelicious...as has been said, orgasms just are not something i enjoy or have ever enjoyed. but there is a significant difference between how i experienced them before entering the D/s lifestyle, and how i experience them now. though orgasms always made me feel....awkward, uncomfortable, unnatural, selfish....now i still feel all those same things when i experience orgasm, times 100. for me this comes from a much deeper knowing and understanding of my proper place as a woman, as a submissive, and as a slave.

to stick on the subject of more or less intense orgasms since entering the lifestyle, i would definitely vote "less". now will wait and see if i'm the only one.
 
I have to vote 'more'. Definitely. Bring em on.

For me, it's become more enjoyable simply because I don't have to feel unsatisfied. Vanilla sex, while it gets the job done, doesn't get the job done with a bang. It always left me feeling like.. 'well. That was nice, but I could have been buffing my nails.'

Now, it's the freedom to enjoy being submissive, enjoy his grip on my hair, his teeth on my skin, his hand on my ass... that lets me have a delicious orgasm every time. And it pleases him plenty to see that he does it to me, that it's his touch that makes me lose control.

My .02 cents. Yum.
 
s'lara said:
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Yes ... orgasms as a result of BDSM activity seem to reverberate on a deeper level than a vanilla induced orgasm. i think part of it is psychological. i'd even go so far as to say that orgasms produced through BDSM come (no pun) from a psycho-sexual place rather than just physical ... although, pain/intense pleasure can cause the opposite reaction, i.e., your mind is tapped and all sorts of emotional/mental floodgates are opened.

lara
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i agree. its just..different. more intense. who knows-maybe its just that i feel i have permission from him to really enjoy it. but its a lot different. a lot of times i get all giggly and euphoric afterwards now. that happened with vanilla sex but not nearly as much.
 
OK I'm gonna agree with OSG as I have had less. The reason being I use my cock more as a tool of my dominance. Meaning I slow down and withhold my release to enjoy the more emotional high I get watching my submissives submit with me inside them. The release is not as important as the thrill I reciece watching the submission unfold before me. It's hard to explain but I tried and hope makes sense.
 
ownedsubgal said:
sigsauer/redelicious...as has been said, orgasms just are not something i enjoy or have ever enjoyed. but there is a significant difference between how i experienced them before entering the D/s lifestyle, and how i experience them now. though orgasms always made me feel....awkward, uncomfortable, unnatural, selfish....now i still feel all those same things when i experience orgasm, times 100. for me this comes from a much deeper knowing and understanding of my proper place as a woman, as a submissive, and as a slave.

to stick on the subject of more or less intense orgasms since entering the lifestyle, i would definitely vote "less". now will wait and see if i'm the only one.
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Ty OSG for your response. It, combined with the links that S'lara provided, helps me to understand your perspective better. I get that his pleasure is the only thing that matters in your relationship with him, and whether or not you orgasm is not something he even troubles himself with. Am I getting that right?

If so it makes perfect sense to me.
 
snoozebutton said:
I use my cock more as a tool of my dominance. Meaning I slow down and withhold my release to enjoy the more emotional high I get watching my submissives submit with me inside them.
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I do the same as well. On the other hand, I also generally play as a threesome, and my lover (who is not submissive) prefers to be fucked hard. And I certainly cum from that.

So for me, it evens out. Generally.

Orgasm for me is a release -- but the lead up to the orgasms are generally far more interesting in D/s play. Add in the fact that I love watching two gorgeous women together. And the whole complex emotional thing is just... amazing.

So all in all, D/s sex is the best. But the actual orgasm (for me) is pretty much a muchness.
 
snoozebutton said:
OK I'm gonna agree with OSG as I have had less. The reason being I use my cock more as a tool of my dominance. Meaning I slow down and withhold my release to enjoy the more emotional high I get watching my submissives submit with me inside them. The release is not as important as the thrill I reciece watching the submission unfold before me. It's hard to explain but I tried and hope makes sense.
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that sounds a bit like my Master. :) He likes to hold off his own sexual release as long as he can stand it, because he says he enjoys the feeling of being aroused so much. also i think the fact that he is quite a bit meaner and colder of heart when he is extremely horny than he is when he is pleasantly satiated.
 
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