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It has been a long time since we have spent any time at all discussing predators.... It was a post on the old Mother thread the day I first visited the boards that let me know I was in the right place...

I had been approached on line by someone who was very demanding of me... demanding that I comply to his orders... give him my email, give him my phone number, meet with him immediately... This person did not want to get to know me... He just wanted to make demands... He scared me and I am not easily scared.

It was such a relief to be here, find some reassurances here that I was okay in not giving in to this person's demands....

It seems to me lately that there is some predatory behavior being exhibited on this board... you know the kind I mean, unsolicited pm's, pointed comments, unwelcome advances where people just don't take no for an answer... and blatant sexual advances of the less that welcome sort...

I wonder if anyone else noticed.... it is just me?

Comments anyone?
 
LOL.....I thought I was the only one noticing it's blatent presence and put it down to the first signs of old age, though Master is much younger and also noticed it. Thanks for easing my mind Cellis. Don't know the solution though except to alert the less experienced this is not the normal way or the purpose of the board to be the personal hunting ground for a few.

Catalina :rose:
 
catalina_francisco said:
This is not the normal way or the purpose of the board to be the personal hunting ground for a few.
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What? No more hunting here? :(
 
catalina_francisco said:
LOL.....I thought I was the only one noticing it's blatent presence and put it down to the first signs of old age, though Master is much younger and also noticed it. Thanks for easing my mind Cellis. Don't know the solution though except to alert the less experienced this is not the normal way or the purpose of the board to be the personal hunting ground for a few.

Catalina :rose:
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No you are not alone... It have become extremely obvious. I just wanted people to know they have options to accept or deny such actions.

It is really rather sad... I have always thought of this as a safe place for everyone.
 
Good Morning:

All very interesting posts and like many other things, everyone has a different perspective. By reading them, I learn alot about myself, thanks.

My story (yessmiss will probably recognize me from orgasmdenial.com) is prett simple now, but getting here, well......

After much thought and soul searching I've come to the conclusion that my submissiveness come from a desire to improve the sex life of my marriage. My wife is not nearly as sexual as I am, so letting her be the boss helps her to open up. Don't get me wrong, I like being submissive with her but doubt that I'd be submissive with another women.

However, it is more than just sex play. It is pretty much 24/7, with the normal ups and downs of any relationship. As a stay at home dad, I cook, clean, do the laundry etc. We throw a sexual curve in which makes it much more fun. As an example, I frequently serve her breakfast in an apron, rub her feet nightly, iron her clothes while she watches tv. I get the attention I crave and she gets control.

I am hoping that she would tease me more often by touching me and make me satisfy her more sexually. Maybe in time.

I hope this helps others understand that there are many aspects to being submissive.
 
Welcome to Lit beckandcallboy... I hope you have an enjoyable journey.
 
Hi Cellis,

you said,

The Predators Among Us
It has been a long time since we have spent any time at all discussing predators.... It was a post on the old Mother thread the day I first visited the boards that let me know I was in the right place...

I had been approached on line by someone who was very demanding of me... demanding that I comply to his orders... give him my email, give him my phone number, meet with him immediately... This person did not want to get to know me... He just wanted to make demands... He scared me and I am not easily scared.

Perhaps I'm missing something, but what is it that elevates this person above the 'obnoxious or aggressive pest' category? individuals every woman unfortunately encounters?

I picture a 'predator' as being at least a little devious.

Given internet protections, false names, 'ignore' settings, ability to screen email, delete PMs unread, etc. what is it that makes this person scary?

(I agree that IF he knew personal data, he would be, but that doesn't seem to be the case.) I am not disputing your feeling, or even your assessment, but why do you feel in danger? it's simply not clear to me.

Hope you eliminate this jerk from your life by all electronic means feasible.

Best,
J.
 
cellis said:
No you are not alone... It have become extremely obvious. I just wanted people to know they have options to accept or deny such actions.

It is really rather sad... I have always thought of this as a safe place for everyone.
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I know what you're saying Cellis and Catalina. I have seen it, too.

And thankfully, this site provides tools to fend off that kind of unwanted attention when it occurs.
 
Pure said:
Hi Cellis,

you said,

The Predators Among Us
It has been a long time since we have spent any time at all discussing predators.... It was a post on the old Mother thread the day I first visited the boards that let me know I was in the right place...

I had been approached on line by someone who was very demanding of me... demanding that I comply to his orders... give him my email, give him my phone number, meet with him immediately... This person did not want to get to know me... He just wanted to make demands... He scared me and I am not easily scared.

Perhaps I'm missing something, but what is it that elevates this person above the 'obnoxious or aggressive pest' category? individuals every woman unfortunately encounters?

I picture a 'predator' as being at least a little devious.

Given internet protections, false names, 'ignore' settings, ability to screen email, delete PMs unread, etc. what is it that makes this person scary?

(I agree that IF he knew personal data, he would be, but that doesn't seem to be the case.) I am not disputing your feeling, or even your assessment, but why do you feel in danger? it's simply not clear to me.

Hope you eliminate this jerk from your life by all electronic means feasible.

Best,
J.
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Perhaps I did not state just how hard this person pushed... nothing elevated him above the obviously obnoxious... It was only that I was new to meeting people in this lifestyle... Had already had one error in judgement... and let's face it Pure... it was that "I am Dom... I command you to do as I say thing".

I would not have been as scared or spooked or whatever you want to call it today... Back then it was a frightening experience for me and I needed to know that was not necessarily the norm.
 
Hmm..

Yes, there are predators among us. Typically guys (well...all guys to my knowledge. Could be a rare exception somewhere).

I could go into some large psychological analysis but I think they look to the wrong things. Many people are bound by emotions that govern them. These people tend to be criminals. A lot of guys on Lit just PM a woman with nothing more than "Oh i'd love to fuck u please give me ur phone number so we can have phone sex." But there are some who demand more. I dunno...maybe the whole idea of subs and slaves gets to these guys so much that they really believe there are women out there who will do anything for a total stranger. How to fix it? That I don't know.
 
Re: Hmm..

deepstare said:
...guys on Lit just PM a woman with nothing more than "Oh i'd love to fuck u please give me ur phone number so we can have phone sex." But there are some who demand more.
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I'm going to say it again... I have never received a PM like that from a stranger.
 
Re: Hmm..

deepstare said:
Yes, there are predators among us. Typically guys (well...all guys to my knowledge. Could be a rare exception somewhere).

I could go into some large psychological analysis but I think they look to the wrong things. Many people are bound by emotions that govern them. These people tend to be criminals. A lot of guys on Lit just PM a woman with nothing more than "Oh i'd love to fuck u please give me ur phone number so we can have phone sex." But there are some who demand more. I dunno...maybe the whole idea of subs and slaves gets to these guys so much that they really believe there are women out there who will do anything for a total stranger. How to fix it? That I don't know.
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There are more predatory women at Lit than perhaps you have noticed. I would venture to guess the this unwanted behavior comes from almost as many women as men. It is most definately not a gender exclusive phenom.
 
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A Desert Rose said:
There are more predatory women at Lit than perhaps you have noticed. I would venture to guess the this unwanted behavior comes from almost as many women as men. It is most definately not a gender exclusive phenom.
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I have to agree.

Also, I would caution anyone on line to use common sense and also, would add that being an asshole doesn't necessarily mean someone is a predator.

Admittedly, I have noticed a lot of both, from time to time, here and elsewhere on line.

I think for many of us, the anonymous nature of lit helps us to be more open and more direct than we may feel able to be in real time. But then, there is a group of individuals who, rather than view the internet as a tool to take down the barriers of image and reputation and use it as a tool by which to be rude, inconsiderate, intolerant and assholish!
 
I've yet to find out what the buzz about this shit is really about other than a long time ago, cell was approached by an asshole. Would someone reach down and find a pair and explain this blatent presence in plain English?
 
i'm probabaly just dense, or perhaps naive, but i haven't noticed anything like this going on around here. sure, there's the random "want join instant sex chat?" message that comes in from time to time (i save the best ones) but other than that, i feel pretty safe here. am i just missing obvious red flags?
 
I actually was not confining my observations to PM's....there are those that you know will come along when a new female face comes on the board and almost without exception, make some suggestion openly about more personal contact which is obvious is not just being friendly. And let's not forget just a matter of months ago one of these succeeded in collaring one of these ingenues in less than a week of her joining the forum, and without ever meeting her.

Catalina :rose:
 
catalina_francisco said:
I actually was not confining my observations to PM's....there are those that you know will come along when a new female face comes on the board and almost without exception, make some suggestion openly about more personal contact which is obvious is not just being friendly. And let's not forget just a matter of months ago one of these succeeded in collaring one of these ingenues in less than a week of her joining the forum, and without ever meeting her.

Catalina :rose:
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I remember that...pretty nutty stuff, wasn't it?
 
ADR said, seconded by Miss T,

//There are more predatory women at Lit than perhaps you have noticed. //

I've been here two years and haven't run into one. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong? :) . I recall one near-psychotic clinger, but aside from that, nothing. :(
 
Catalina said
/when a new female face comes on the board and almost without exception, make some suggestion openly about more personal contact which is obvious is not just being friendly./

I don't call that predatory, just being a brazen asshole. The woman who falls for or succumbs to "I am your master, kneel and be collared" is the same one who, upon meeting a guy at bar or even a busstop, and hearing him say, "come with me to my place so we can fuck; you're mine," will respond with, "yes, I'll come; since you say so, I'm yours."

Other than posting "This guy's an asshole," if the commands are publicly posted, how do you protect such a person?

J.
 
Pure said:
Catalina said
/when a new female face comes on the board and almost without exception, make some suggestion openly about more personal contact which is obvious is not just being friendly./

I don't call that predatory, just being a brazen asshole. The woman who falls for or succumbs to "I am your master, kneel and be collared" is the same one who, upon meeting a guy at bar or even a busstop, and hearing him say, "come with me to my place so we can fuck; you're mine," will respond with, "yes, I'll come; since you say so, I'm yours."

Other than posting "This guy's an asshole," if the commands are publicly posted, how do you protect such a person?

J.
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I call it predatory because I see the new poster and know that as soon as the particular predators I am thinking of come online and find the 'new blood', they will make their customary suggestions, sometimes online, sometimes off, sometimes both, and that even when ignored do not necessarily back off. They remind me of charks circling the fishing boat waiting for the catch to be cleaned, anything that comes within range is open game...is not what I, and many, like to see on a discussion board which clearly tries to dissuade such behaviour and intent. Is as repulsive as the drunk in the bar who won't take 'no' for an answer, all the time seeing himself as somebody the woman should feel honoured to have been pestered by.

Catalina :rose:
 
Pure said:
ADR said, seconded by Miss T,

//There are more predatory women at Lit than perhaps you have noticed. //

I've been here two years and haven't run into one. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong? :) . I recall one near-psychotic clinger, but aside from that, nothing. :(
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I see them all the time. Female predators are a little more subtle in their approach but are quite easily recognized by other women. Men, in general, seem to be clueless until it's too late.
 
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