Collars and significance

This is a topic that Holly has been kicking around for a few days, thinking about posting, and it was brought to mind because of the thread about contracts. We want to post our thoughts about collars and then see what others see them as. We both sorted through a large number of the threads on the board and didn't see anything that quite fit what we are looking for, so we're starting a new one ... but if anyone has a thread that is what we are lookign for, please let us know & we'll go look there as well.

To us, collars can be many things. As Holly posted in the contracts thread, the training collar that our boy currently has is approximately the equivalent of an engagement ring in the "nilla" world. If things go on as they are right now, we will give him a tag (this is what makes it the 'engagement ring' to me), and then we will have a Collaring Ceremony, probably private with just a couple of our D/s friends, and then have a party to celebrate. This collar will be the official permanent attachment.

We also have play collars that we put on the boy that don't signify much of anything other than we like the way collars look on him.

-Miss Karen & Miss Holly-

Well, I know people are looking at the thread ... but no one is giving any opinions or links to other places to look ... hmmm.....

for my Master and i, the collar means complete ownership...complete commitment...a symbol that in every sense of the word, i am His. we didn't have any collaring ceremony or any such formal elaborate thing...He simply put it around my neck, and looked into my eyes...i said "thank you, Daddy"...and i think i might have giggled a bit from pure giddy joy. and that was all. very simple but very serious and real.

ownedsubgal said:

for my Master and i, the collar means complete ownership...complete commitment...a symbol that in every sense of the word, i am His. we didn't have any collaring ceremony or any such formal elaborate thing...He simply put it around my neck, and looked into my eyes...i said "thank you, Daddy"...and i think i might have giggled a bit from pure giddy joy. and that was all. very simple but very serious and real.

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That is a beautiful image ... and exactly as it should be, in our opinion.

For us, it wasn't quite as ... dramatic as that:

After an anfternoon of driving him absolutely nuts, we asked the boy if he still wanted to be ours. He asked if that was an offer, then jumped right in, and we gave him our training collar.

one of the stories i posted on lit is about my being collared...it is one of those things that you remember every second of for the rest of your life. well to me it was *shrug*

That is how it should be

SweetDommes said:

That is a beautiful image ... and exactly as it should be, in our opinion.

For us, it wasn't quite as ... dramatic as that:

After an anfternoon of driving him absolutely nuts, we asked the boy if he still wanted to be ours. He asked if that was an offer, then jumped right in, and we gave him our training collar.

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i'm sure that if i survive the training period the permanent collar will be a formal affair, with a few local "kinksters" in attendance

my thoughts on collars are, a training collar is the compatablity test, if you make it thru that, you can go on to the permanent arrangement, and to me the permanent collar has the same moral and spiritual connotations as a wedding ring, and wedding vows.

You know I think that some people view this as just a kind of exercise... not binding, not legal in any respect... and but to me I view the collar as a commitment of the highest sort.

While I know I belong to Himself and everyone else does as well... the collar transcends the knowing into the being... from just belong to being His...

Our idea of collaring was we wanted one only, and that it was binding for life. He came through the customs door at the airport, dropped everything and took me in his arms for a passionate embrace and kiss, raising more than a few eyebrows, and as he kissed me for the first time, he fastened the collar around my neck. I was dizzy just from the kiss, the collar added to my joy. 16 months later we are still living in bliss and amazement we found each other from opposite hemispheres and opposite sides of the world.

Catalina

The collar is just as symbolic to me as my wedding ring. It means more of a commitment to our relationship and what it means to us. Collaring is very special to that couple and it means a total devotion to your relationship as well as your DOM.

wow ... I'm so glad that people are finally posting here ...

This is the kind of thing we wanted to hear (... see ... whatever). We have decided to 'stage' the collars, each step bringing us closer to the collar that has his nameplate riveted to it (but shhhhh... don't tell him that's what his Collar will be ). If we had talked more online first, we might not be moving quite so slow, but well ... it's moving rather faster than any of us thought it would, so ... we're forcing ourselves to slow down a bit - we've all three had failed attempts in the past, so we'd like to prevent any more heartbreak/heartache ...

I think the commitment and symbolism behind a collar goes above and beyond a wedding ring for some reason. I dont particularly have much respect for wedding rings, they are just a piece of jewlery you are told you must exchange as you make not much more then a legal commitment to someone. A collar holds no legal commitment to you or the other person, its from the heart/soul that your choice is made...you are able to walk away at anytime...nothing holds you there but your devotion. Marriage on the other hand has to many bindings that are not as simple to walk away from and i often see ppl stay because its easier rather then because they want to. I havent seen much of that in D/s relationships *shrug*. So to me a collar and accepting one is one of the biggest hardest commitment to make, but the most rewarding.