Fearful.

bouquiniste

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It's funny - I've met a great many delightful women here owed to the advertisement which I recently placed under the title: "Fearless." Oddly - despite having made clear that what I was seeking was the chance to pursue a Loving relationship ending in Lifelong commitment, the overwhelming majority of those who responded were already in a committed relationship, and yet they were here seeking something which they believed they couldn't get at home.

"Something which they believed they couldn't get at home." Does it strike you as odd in any way that someone already in a relationship - someone who freely admits that they Love their spouse, their Partner their Lover - finds it impossible to ask their Partner to provide for their wants and needs - in the same fashion in which they would provide those things in return?

I suppose that the fear of rejection plays a vast part in this. "Inconceivable," Vizzini might say - and Vizzini would be right. To presume that one's Lover wouldn't provide what was needed or wanted by someone whom he or she Loved - and who Loved in return - or to presume even the faintest possibility of rejection, is just that: inconceivable.

Most of those here seeking something from others, are already aware of their wants, their needs and their desires. They're one single step away from a journey toward fulfillment - the single step of saying to their Lover, "I need this," or, "I want that." A single declarative sentence, or a single question, is all that stands between them and their wants and their needs - and that spoken to someone they Love, and who Loves them in return.

If you're Married, or in a Loving relationship of any kind, and you're still here seeking what your Lover isn't providing for you, ask yourself why. Ask yourself honestly and fearlessly if you've communicated your needs and desires unabaashédly, and given both yourself and the one you Love, the opportunity to be - to and for one another - all that you wish for in Life.

Go home tonight and lay all your fears aside. Tell him or her exactly how you feel and what you need. Ask what you can do for your Lover to make their Life more joyful, more fulfilled and more like the Union of Hearts which you sought when you committed yourself each to the other. Be fearless.
 
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