I aim to reach YOU of all Lit women here,

and that seems pretty damned difficult. Maybe the YOU I look for does not exist, but I find that hard to believe. My hang-up may be as simple as this: I am a fairly ordinary fellow, but I look for a fairly special woman. And only one particular woman on this planet finds what I offer you special enough to long for getting to know me. And now the seemingly impossible I must accomplish is catching your attention.

So how might an attention catcher for exactly you look like?

Not like an attention catcher at all. You'll have to see my ad and think "wow!" all by yourself. Trouble is, we are talking about a very special catalyst here, and I don't know what it is.

Maybe the catalyst could be the immense challenges involved in you and me falling for one another? Could work, providing you are a woman who loves challenges. Or if you were immensely curious, you'd want to figure out, what kind of fellow writes ads like this. OK, curious and loving challenges, not a bad characterization of you. Women like that certainly do not grow on every tree.

But you'd need a further motivation, I figure. Some idea of what awaits you, when you PM me back. "Lack of boredom" is about all that comes to my mind, providing you go for my peculiar sense of humor and what-not-else.

OK now, we got it: you should fear boredom like the plague, enjoy facing challenges, and be immensely curious. And on top of that be a woman with a few voids in your life, seeking companionship with a man.

Now all we need is YOU running into this ad and reading it. And that is what I am hoping for, on this very special Sunday.

Dude really?

UgliestSon said:

Dude really?

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I still don't know, what you are talking about, UGLY. But when I consider what you usually write, when you bother people posting here, your two-word post seems almost a compliment.

Might be searching in the wrong place

I think you need something in your life to fill a void. And you are hoping to find a women on Literotica that has the same void. And you are hoping that against all odds what she needs is you and what you need is her. It is theoretically possible that you could find that here but I doubt it. A lot of us are hear for fun but not trying to fill a gapping hole in our real life. I hope that almost everyone on Literotica views this as more of a hobby than something to fill a gapping hole in their life. My husband and boy friends fill my gapping hole.

I am pretty sure that if there is a perfect women on Literotica that wants to live in your void then your life is going to be lonely. Well, based on your user name it sounds like that has already happened.

I really hope you can find what you need. I am thinking that maybe you need to fill a gapping hole.

thanks for your response to my ad, Shelly.

Mainly I appreciate you bumping the ad with it. Your work as a hobby psychiatrist is less appreciated. I wonder, why you felt compelled in the first place, to posit a bunch of guesses about my motives for posting and about my character defects, as you perceive them. I know the ad I wrote does not contain any of the conjectures you speculate about. I am sure that actually reading an ad you want to comment on would have allowed you to understand it better.

Another reason why I chose to ignore your comments: when a woman is lucky enough to get her gapping hole filled regularly, and not only by one man but by two, she should never kid herself into believing that she is able to understand men, who are not in as lucky a position as you are. I bet if you had to make it thru life as a man, and if you were not privy to all sorts of privileges, available for you and your peers, you would talk differently.

But you may well be correct in your assumption, that I won't find the woman I look for via the Lit Personals.

Sorry but just based on your user name alone, I would be put off. Lonely people are not attractive to me and neither are married men seeking women. Yeah, I do talk to married men. But they don't go around advertising that fact.

As for the rest of what you posted... Good luck!

some reflections – finally – on longing vs. lonely

My thanks go to both of you, Jada and Shelly, for motivating me to think. Think about a poor user name I had chosen for myself. In reality, what I should have called myself is "a_longing_husband", because that is something else entirely from someone who feels lonely.

I have several acquaintances and friends, with whom I interchange thoughts and ideas, so considering myself a lonely person is way off. But I do miss intimacy with one woman, erotic but not limited to erotica only.

I face the latter part of my married life in the form of "no more sex", more or less. And I am not prepared to accept this for myself. Just like countless others rebels like me. And for me the only practicable way out of my dilemma, is a mail relationship with "an erotic pen-pal". By far not what I'd rather want and desire, you can believe me. But in my situation the only practicable solution for my particular problem.

And fortunately, for two people with alert minds and lots of fantasy in their heads, such a mail relationship can become a workable substitute for RL companionship. It may not work for Jada and Shelly, but it has worked for me. Not as long as I had wanted, but what did happen were feelings of happiness. On BOTH sides, so I claim.

What my ads aim for is one woman, who feels and thinks – and YES, who longs for – what I seek here. Nothing more and nothing less.
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***** she should never kid herself into believing that she is able to understand men, who are not in as lucky a position as you are. I bet if you had to make it thru life as a man, and if you were not privy to all sorts of privileges, available for you and your peers, you would talk differently.*****
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Might not want to hold your breath waiting for an influx of women from that nonsense.

KristaK said:

***** .....*****
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Might not want to hold your breath waiting for an influx of women from that nonsense.

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I have NOT been holding my breath Krista; as you can see I wrote an additional post in the mean time.