Wanna play with us? M/F couple, active in UK scene, seeks sparky F sub

We are Mindfondler and Tinglebliss. We are a well-established M/F couple in the UK kink scene, where we have been active together for the last three years. We're based in the suburbs of London, but we travel further afield for events and meet-ups.

Ours is a strong, stable and long-running relationship. We play happily together, but we've identified a gap that we'd like to fill. We've discovered that we enjoy playing with others and in small groups. We've had great fun double-domming and double-subbing casually (Tinglebliss switches, so she may play a dominant or submissive role depending on the dynamic that she feels with another woman). So, we'd like to find a regular play partner.

We recognise, though, that finding a play partner isn't like filling a job vacancy. The special chemistry that makes people "click" is magical and therefore difficult to pre-define in writing. So, we won't attempt to do that here. Instead, we'll rely on those reading this advert to sense the possibility of a connection from these words, our profiles and our other Lit postings. It's also important before committing too heavily that we are all able to spend some time "circling each other" to establish a good connection and level of trust. For us, casual play is okay, but openness and intimacy are crucial for truly fulfilling play.

Having said that we won't give a "shopping list", we would still like to specify a few prerequisites:

• BDSM experience is not necessary, but you need to bring some ideas of what you're interested in. We've found from past experience that "I like the idea of everything" isn't a helpful starting point.
  
• Fun is the main objective for us. Mindfondler is not a strict and surly type of dominant: he doesn't mete out punishments (though funishments are a different matter! ) and we can expect to laugh a lot together (even during play!).
  
• You need to be prepared to come along to kink events with us (e.g. munches, workshops, play parties). We understand that's a big step for many people, but we'd do everything possible to make it a comfortable one.
  
• We don't favour heavy impact play in itself (although if that's your interest, then we can probably find you someone who does!). Our style is currently more focussed on mental play (e.g. anticipation games), gentle sensual play and torturing with excessive pleasure.
  
• We are open to many possibilities, depending on what we find together. They range from us being a stepping-stone for people who are curious about the community (we've done that many times and we have a network of great friends whom we can introduce to you), through occasional play partners, to close friends and more. Again, we're not being more specific here because we're open-minded and it would be presumptuous for us to specify up-front a potential relationship.
  
• We will make you blush! That's why it's so important for us to have a foundation of trust, respect and the ability to laugh together (and mostly with each other, rather than at each other ). With that in place, we'll happily indulge in embarrassment and mild humiliation games, if that's a kink for you too.

We will be happy to go into more details with anyone who shows an interest. Please send either or both of us a Private Message (to Mindfondler or to Tinglebliss). Alternatively, talk to us in Lit threads!

You can read more about our journey into kink here. If you haven't done so already, check out our profiles (see our named links at the top of this post), our signatures (which contain further links) and our past postings.

Thanks for reading this far! You have hereby earned yourself the right to a free drink and cake, if and when you choose to meet us.

Mindfondler and Tinglebliss

A week has flown by since I posted this! Time flies. *hands out a stopwatch*

I'm bumping now it in the hope that it might attract more attention near the top of the list.
Oh, and anyone who spots my nearly invisible writing here wins a special prize: the secret codeword is "penguin".

Our original batch of cake (see above) may have gone stale now, but our interest remains fresh.
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I'm giving this thread another bump in the hope that it attracts fresh eyes.

Tinglebliss is starting to think that we're wasting our time, but I still firmly believe that I, she or we have a great deal to offer to the right person, if only we can find her.

Go on... surprise her (and me)!
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It's Tinglebliss here, bumping our advert one more time!

Just to say that MF and I have opened up our relationship so that we can explore these new avenues. We're open-minded people and we're both happy and excited for each other about this. So, please do get in touch with either of us if you're fairly local and interested!

Tinglebliss and I have just received some wonderful words of support in our related thread in the personals forum, which I'd like to quote here as encouragement from someone who knows us fairly well:

LucianaGrace said:

If I might be so bold...

For any subs/sub-curious individuals out there, I can vouch for the authenticity and generosity of both Mr and Mrs MF. They are both extremely compassionate and nurturing souls, and I know for a fact that this transfers to every aspect of their lives. They are the kind of people who will guide but also learn beside you. They truly are beautiful people.

So if you’re teetering on the edge of bravery to message them, I’d encourage that you do. You have nothing to lose by reaching out. Be brave...you never know what bliss you’ll find.

- Lucy

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Thanks again, Lucy.
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