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Old 11-25-2017, 03:27 AM   #1
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How to ask my GF to send me nudes ?

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Me and my partner stay apart due to work and i miss her being with me especially when i want to fuck. To help me with this i thought may be her nudes will tease me and make me feel the same way but even after telling her she doesn't send it.
What should i do and how can i convince her to send me nudes of her ?
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Old 11-25-2017, 09:13 PM   #2
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Hey!
Me and my partner stay apart due to work and i miss her being with me especially when i want to fuck. To help me with this i thought may be her nudes will tease me and make me feel the same way but even after telling her she doesn't send it.
What should i do and how can i convince her to send me nudes of her ?
If you've asked and she won't send them then there's nothing you can do but respect her wishes on the matter.
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Old 11-25-2017, 09:17 PM   #3
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Love is great and nudes make it even better unless of course, you break up and then there are a lot of pictures you really wish did not exist.
Not that I think you might break up, but why put her in that position?
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Old 11-25-2017, 11:26 PM   #4
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If you've asked and she won't send them then there's nothing you can do but respect her wishes on the matter.

its only her wish all the time....hahaha
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Old 11-25-2017, 11:26 PM   #5
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Love is great and nudes make it even better unless of course, you break up and then there are a lot of pictures you really wish did not exist.
Not that I think you might break up, but why put her in that position?

she has slept with 3 guys, i don't think nudes will make any difference now
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Old 11-25-2017, 11:30 PM   #6
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she has slept with 3 guys, i don't think nudes will make any difference now
What does the number of men she has slept with have to do with providing nude pics?

A is not equivalent to B.
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Old 11-25-2017, 11:34 PM   #7
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What does the number of men she has slept with have to do with providing nude pics?

A is not equivalent to B.
Yeah, I'm a bit perplexed about the logic of that statement too.

There are lots of reasons women don't like taking/sending nikkid photos of themselves. Maybe try a saucy phone call instead? Trust me, if you're in the zone, it's a pretty good substitute for sex as a contact sport.
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Wow, a whole three guys?
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Old 11-25-2017, 11:54 PM   #9
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Yeah, I'm a bit perplexed about the logic of that statement too.

There are lots of reasons women don't like taking/sending nikkid photos of themselves. Maybe try a saucy phone call instead? Trust me, if you're in the zone, it's a pretty good substitute for sex as a contact sport.
I think he thinks sleeping with three guys is a lot and makes her loose? So ergo she should be willing to be his personal porn star and provide nudie pics for him to jack off to in her absence.

The phone call is a much better option and doesn't provide anything that could be compromising for her in the future.

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Wow, a whole three guys?
Apparently that makes her a whore.
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Old 11-26-2017, 12:01 AM   #10
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I think he thinks sleeping with three guys is a lot and makes her loose? So ergo she should be willing to be his personal porn star and provide nudie pics for him to jack off to in her absence.

The phone call is a much better option and doesn't provide anything that could be compromising for her in the future.



Apparently that makes her a whore.
Yeah once a woman has slept with three guys, what does it matter if billions of people see pics of her on the internet?

Plus let's be real: she has slept with three guys that the OP knows of.
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I think he thinks sleeping with three guys is a lot and makes her loose? So ergo she should be willing to be his personal porn star and provide nudie pics for him to jack off to in her absence.

The phone call is a much better option and doesn't provide anything that could be compromising for her in the future.



Apparently that makes her a whore.
Maybe it's a lot more guys than he's slept with? I guess these things are all relative.
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Maybe it's a lot more guys than he's slept with? I guess these things are all relative.
True, maybe the OP has only slept with one or two guys?
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Yeah once a woman has slept with three guys, what does it matter if billions of people see pics of her on the internet?

Plus let's be real: she has slept with three guys that the OP knows of.
Kinda boggles the mind doesn't it?

Well she does want a gang bang... so ya know how that goes.
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In his defence, it is kind of sweet that he'd rather have photos of her than look at porn.
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Kinda boggles the mind doesn't it?

Well she does want a gang bang... so ya know how that goes.
I mean who doesn't want a gang bang these days?

"Hey honey, the gang's all here - let's do that bang!"
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In his defence, it is kind of sweet that he'd rather have photos of her than look at porn.
Call me an optimist, but I say why not strive for both?
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Old 11-26-2017, 05:29 AM   #17
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i couldn't find any idea in your conversation. thanks
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Old 11-26-2017, 07:25 AM   #18
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she has slept with 3 guys, i don't think nudes will make any difference now
You don't get to make that call. It's her body, her reputation, she's the one who gets to decide what risks she will and won't take. If you don't understand that, then no wonder she doesn't feel safe sending you nudes.
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Old 11-26-2017, 07:32 AM   #19
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You don't get to make that call. It's her body, her reputation, she's the one who gets to decide what risks she will and won't take. If you don't understand that, then no wonder she doesn't feel safe sending you nudes.
wow she lets me make tape but not nudes...thanks
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I mean who doesn't want a gang bang these days?

"Hey honey, the gang's all here - let's do that bang!"
It's like fireworks every time.
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wow she lets me make tape but not nudes...thanks
Once again: she gets to decide what she is and isn't willing to do. It doesn't matter whether YOU think nudes aren't a big deal. Obviously she's decided that they are for her.

Put it this way: suppose your girlfriend decided that what she really really wants to do is nail you in the arse with a great big strap-on. Would you want her pestering you about it, telling you how it's really not a major thing and you're being irrational about this, and asking random internet strangers to help persuade you to take it up the bum?

Or would you want her to accept that "no" means "no"?
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Old 11-26-2017, 12:10 PM   #22
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Once again: she gets to decide what she is and isn't willing to do. It doesn't matter whether YOU think nudes aren't a big deal. Obviously she's decided that they are for her.

Put it this way: suppose your girlfriend decided that what she really really wants to do is nail you in the arse with a great big strap-on. Would you want her pestering you about it, telling you how it's really not a major thing and you're being irrational about this, and asking random internet strangers to help persuade you to take it up the bum?

Or would you want her to accept that "no" means "no"?
i know my limits and what's her to do anything with me also i thought people here would present some ideas and not tell me i should take no. I know no means no only nothing else
if it would have been yes then why would i ask you people..so stupid.
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So basically you were hoping for some hints on coercing her into something she's fairly clearly said she doesn't want to do.

Did you try asking her why she doesn't want to? Maybe it would be a useful moment to gain some insight into the feelings of someone you ostensibly care about. (Not because you could then convince her otherwise.)
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Hey!
Me and my partner stay apart due to work and i miss her being with me especially when i want to fuck. To help me with this i thought may be her nudes will tease me and make me feel the same way but even after telling her she doesn't send it.
What should i do and how can i convince her to send me nudes of her ?
You told her you want nudes and she doesn't send you any.

Q1: What should I do?

A1: You should ask her directly to send you nudes instead of just casually telling her that nudes might make you happy. If you ask directly and she says no or anything but yes, what you should do is accept her answer respectfully. If getting nudes from your girlfriend is a deal breaker to you, then you'll have a choice to make about staying in the relationship.

If she says she likes the idea but isn't sure yet...

Q2: How can I convince her to send me nudes of her?

A2: Ask her what reservations she has and if there is anything you can do to help come up with a plan that works for both of you. In general, the way to convince someone of something is to be respectful of their starting position on an idea and then work with them to address any concerns or questions they have, and doing so in a way that is not pushy and shows you view their input on the situation with respect. All of that requires some good old-fashioned open and honest communication. Effectively, talking to her about it is the only way it's going to happen. There's no magic advice we can give you.


Oh I almost forgot, maybe she sent nudes to one of the other three guys she fucked? If so, maybe they can forward them along to you with her permission? I don't know, I'm just spitballing here.
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Old 11-26-2017, 12:48 PM   #25
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So basically you were hoping for some hints on coercing her into something she's fairly clearly said she doesn't want to do.

Did you try asking her why she doesn't want to? Maybe it would be a useful moment to gain some insight into the feelings of someone you ostensibly care about. (Not because you could then convince her otherwise.)
she denies it because of her shyness not that she is bother about future breakups or don't trust me also there is no coercing involve at all, ask for more details before making any statement.
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