I am Mindfondler
and my wife is Tinglebliss
(click on links to reach our individual profiles). You can listen to us introduce ourselves to you here
Tinglebliss and I have been happily married for more than twenty years and active together in the UK scene for the last two years. We've now reached the point where we wish to extend our repertoire of play (both together and individually) and we've agreed to open up our relationship to selected others to accommodate that. We are realistic that there probably isn't one "unicorn" who can fulfil all of our dreams, so we're posting this advert jointly as an opening for discussion with anyone who thinks they might fit with any part of what either or both of us seek.
Our friends in the BDSM community who are aware of our quest have commented that Tinglebliss and I offer exceptional stability, sensitivity and supportiveness to a sub who values those qualities. That aligns with our perceptions of ourselves and our preferences for "softer" styles of BDSM play. We enjoy having fun, even when it's to the transient discomfort of the sub, and we want everyone to be able to laugh about it before, during and after play.
I identify as a Sensualist Daddy Dom, whereas Tinglebliss is currently in a period of exploration in which she switches between various dominant and submissive roles depending on the dynamic that she feels. There are opportunities for us to play part-time as individual dominants, in Daddy/Mummy roles or double domming/subbing scenarios. We have our own ideas on how these could work, but we're also open to other suggestions that an imaginative sub might wish to bring to us.
It's very important to us both that a loving and caring friendship is part of the deal. Tinglebliss and I are generous with our affection, but that commitment takes us to vulnerable places, so it must operate in both directions. Aside from playing, I expect us all to spend a lot of time getting to know each other: chilling together and opening our minds and hearts freely. It'll be much easier for us to explore mutually rewarding play scenarios once we've established that level of trust and understanding.
I've written more about my own specific preferences for a female sub in my previous personals advert
. Like me, Tinglebliss is seeking a female sub for her own explorations. It's not necessary to be bisexual, though, as much of our play is sensual rather than sexual.
You can read more about my thoughts on kink by listening to my audio recordings: MF's guiding philosophy for D/s play
and MF's guide to BDSM terminology
. You can also check out my other audio recordings and my photos in my Lit thread
If anything here appeals to you, then please feel free to get in touch with either of us: Mindfondler
(messaging links). Others see us as very approachable and we can be found regularly at events in and around London. Ideally, we'd like to find someone local who is prepared to meet us in person early on, as we find it unwieldy to maintain three-way dialogue only via 'phone and instant messaging.
Thanks for reading!