About "earning" it and Outside perspective.
I think I agree that "earn" might be the best word available in English.
There is a huge problem, in my opinion, with anything even close to "deserve", so, the opposite may just be the best descriptor.
In my experience and therefore in my opinion, I have needed to earn a level of trust from any pyl I have ever scened with. How did I earn that trust? I have no idea. And further. I suggest that what I did to gain that trust was different for each of them.
With respect to outside perspectives, feminism and mysogenistic behaivor...
I am certain that there are some people who look at our kink/fetish/pick your term and see nothing short of an atrocity. I'm certain, because I had Christmas dinner with them last year! In truth, their opinion is based in ignorance, in the case of my markedly anti-feminist cousins, their sole understanding of what we do was based on a very biased -in this case, Christian Fundamentalist- viewpoint. Trying to educate them of the realities... Not a winning proposition for anyone.
At the same time, I was very recently approached by a markedly feminist friend, a real alpha female type, with questions about my kink. (I don't broadcast my involvement, by I don't hide it actively either.) That she was interested shocked me at first, but when she explained why she was interested, it made sense. She is a very accomplished woman, a senior executive with s major software developer, corner office, respect and authority and married to a very milk toast liberal guy who has never been witnessed standing up to her.
Her interest is no different from the male executives who need to just not be in charge for a moment.
Last edited by LiamHDunn : 11-27-2017 at 10:47 AM.
Reason: Fixed typos and Trimmed the wordiness.