Question for those leaving personals ads

SassySheDevil said:

I have a question for those of you who leave personals ads. First let me say I am turning off my PMs because this isn't a ploy to get you to PM me, and face it, some of you don't read, and just PM any living, breathing female

So because I have to interject humor first... (picture doesn't seem to be working)
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disclaimer, this is not all men and mean to be funny. I love men


I know I have asked this type of question before, but it got moved and lost (and this one probably will too, but isn't as effective in the playground)
So two parts actually. 1st. There are so few people who actually take the time to write up a well thought out ad, and actually give the reader something to go on. Many just leave the least amount of words possible and hope for the best., and just end up saying something witty like "I'm horny, come help" or "I'm home alone, come watch me jerk off" The question here is. How successful is this type of ad? I would think it bombs, but yet so many keep doing it, even after dozens of women come along and make suggestions for filling out profiles, telling a little about yourself, or interacting in such places as the playground so the ladies get to know you.

So please be honest.. Does this ever work?

Take the messenger threads, it always ends up being a sausage fest because women are often not looking for the same things as men, and if they dare leave a user name, they get bombarded with messages (I made this mistake) But I have been told by a couple of the guys who do post on those threads that they do get the occasional random message from women, which I admit shocked me.

Second question. For those of you who do leave well written ads, and take the time to mingle or talk to women, do you still think you get as few replies as those who leave simple "come cyber with me" type messages?


I really don't want to say this is only men. I know women leave personals sometimes, but if they do, they are so bombarded, that they often can't keep up.

I see mens frustrations when leaving ads with no replies, and I often will go in and tell a guy if I think he's left a well written ad, in hopes of bumping his thread for him.

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"STOP THE INSANITY, SASSY!"


You have to know by now there is no rhyme, nor reason, to this place.

Hell, I half expect a Jabberwocky to poke it's head out of one of the threads..

RubenesqueAphrodite said:

"STOP THE INSANITY, SASSY!"


You have to know by now there is no rhyme, nor reason, to this place.

Hell, I half expect a Jabberwocky to poke it's head out of one of the threads..

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cunnilingual2 said:

Does this work? Nope. Never. Nada. Quit posting them a long time ago. I'd get just as many replies if I dropped trou and posted a close up of my balloon knot with the caption "Free Lunch, Ladies."

But I'm not bitter. Really.

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jsmiam said:

I try to leave well thought out ads. On the occasions where someone replies, I'm glad they did, but the smart and realistic thing to do is say that it requires great luck to get a nice responder.

I don't leave the "Let's do it' type ads, so I have nothing to compare it to. My guess is female impersonators make up at least a sizable portion if the responders? The one I met had such a cute adams apple! Sure, I was disappointed that her rare religion forbid her from revealing any frontal nudity, but boy did she like giving oral and receiving anal sex!

(yes, I'm joking.. Wish I didn't have to explain that.. )

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Kinkenglish said:

(Throwing my hat in the ring, don't know why)
This is all so true and maybe should be a sticky at the top of the personals..

For men it is born of desperation I suspect .. But woman say it, again and again, hang around in the playground...like souls attract each other...and be patient

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SassySheDevil said:

I think this is why I keep asking it. No matter how many times women have offered advice, it's rarely taken. Also the ones that endlessly bump their threads. If it's not getting replies, maybe it's time to try another approach.
So I wonder if more women just reply in PMs and I'm just not seeing it. Maybe it works and I'm crazy.
None of the people I've talked to over the years were because of the type of ads asking for some sort of help in getting off.

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Cumdenier said:

<snip> there's too many men masquerading as women on here <snip>

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Cumdenier said:

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Over three years I received a few replies, a couple that led to something amazing and extrodinary. I think the magic is the instant connection. And that connection is hard to find, although addictive.

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Jamiegeo said:

My own very recent experience lead to my understanding that the ads posted maybe viewed by NON members/general boogling public from all around the world which means that regardless of the wording the ad, (although primarily intended for lit memberships attention) is responded to primarily by people that have no interest or knowledge of or in 'Lit' at all..
Kik,skype,yahoo threads etc..
Interesting thread Sassy..

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jsmiam said:

My time on lit is similar to the way I watch tv, in an avoid commitment sort of way, and a minute here, a moment there, rarely for long sessions, so I don't find fault in using ads. They work with great patience, thats about it. Passing judgment that its desperation, would be like sporadic user who isn't online 24/7 passing judgment on someone who is.

Its a porn site with tablecloths. Cloth ones! Although... Some corners of the site, maybe they should be plastic.. And disposable?

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averagesizeguy said:

I can't remember if I've left an ad thread, as I take extended leaves of absence when I start getting bored with the forum, or the real world requires more of me. I'm sure that if I did, it didn't go anywhere with the ladies. I can say that most of the conversations with lady Litsters that has gone anywhere have been from when they have found a post of mine (usually in the Playground) that they enjoyed. I'd say a man's best bet, based on my experience, is to have fun in the forums they enjoy most. Then enjoy whatever comes from it.

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coacheric said:

<snip> I'm as bad as some of the women in telling new members that an empty profile and let's fuck don't go to far around here.

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Penuche said:

A couple of times, I've combined comments like that with a link to the asshat thread, so that the newbie can see why they need to avoid sending unrequested "me so horny - do me now" PMs.

My reasoning is that you can't stop somebody deliberately acting like a prick, but you might be able to stop them accidentally doing so and getting put on ignore after a few posts.

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LWulf said:

I have tried the direct approach and the suave approach and I'll say I get about as many returns with either one. The fact of the matter is; by and large, ALL the systems for hooking up usually nets zero percent. Yes, there are the rare random encounters and groups of people and yada yada yada...

For the select clique who get together, ads work. For the majority of men else-wise; nope.

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EroticRomanticMan said:

I SSD. Hug!!! I have been here a long time. I started when the chat room actually worked. I learned in that room that the best approach was just to come looking for fun and friendly tease. I may have posted one ad on my first day on the boards but quickly realized that the approach that netted me the most friends was the one I used in the chat rooms. I have made some great friends here. Some have gone and some are still here. There have been a select few that have been more than friends. Some lasted for a long time. I think that Averagesizeguy has the same approach as I and that it works for both. I also come and go quite a bit due to my line of work and outside pressures. It takes time and patience to make connections but when a great connection happens it is amazing!

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SassySheDevil said:

As someone who has over 5000 posts. do you think that your messages come because you are obviously being social, so the people who do respond, respond because they can see what kind of person you are (by some degree) in the way you interact?
I feel like those who do interact, or take the time to talk to, or get to know the women of Lit, have better responses, but this is why I"m asking if that is true.

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LWulf said:

okay,
a) to whom are you trying to seek answers from; the person who is trying to connect solely by the internet or someone seeking to meet in real life?

b) All my point was that you should ask the inverse of your question as well. To the men of lit who take your advice and post yada yada yada... Do they connect with women or at the end of the day, or month or year, do they feel like they are in the same boat as when their approach was blunt and crude?

While you may get some positive results (in either group) I think you will predominantly see a trend that most get negative results. If that is the answer, then you have your answer why guys are crude and blunt; Why be suave which takes a lot of effort, when you can be blunt and net the same results?

Personally, I have never done a (serious) ad on lit, so all of my basis is based on other social forums etc.

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