Gentle guy seeks kind lady to exchange bondage fantasies

Hi,

I'm seeking a kind, friendly lady of any age who enjoys moderate bondage fantasies and would be prepared to share them freely with me in both directions.

I'm a gentle, caring guy but I've discovered that I have a kink for consensual play around exerting firm control over a woman. One of my strongest needs is to validate that it's okay for me to experience these types of desires. I'm really not a monster: even my most extreme dreams assume a sensible setup and an underlying relationship based on mutual trust, respect and understanding, but with a shared desire to "play it rough".

I'm going to make the presumption that there's someone reading this post who might fit the bill, and whom I am therefore going to refer to from this point on as "you".

I must mention that I'm married (and very happily so). In this case, that's a positive opportunity rather than something to tiptoe around. My wife doesn't "get" my fantasies, but she isn't disgusted by them either. She understands that they're a driving force for me, and she's happy for me to explore them with others, perhaps even with a view to finding someone who can help to make them work for her too. If things go well, then I'd be delighted to have the opportunity in due course to introduce you to my wife and add you to our shared friends.

I'd like to emphasise that I'm not looking for quick thrills. I'm seeking a long-term good friend, albeit one with a particular shared kink. As such, I want to take plenty of time to get to know you, confirm some chemistry, and build mutual trust and respect. Once we've established that foundation, then I'd like to move on to friskier chat and perhaps some roleplay with a bondage theme (other suggestions are most welcome!). I hope that it's not too jarring for me to be clear and open from the outset about that as my intended line of development.

It's vital to me that things quickly feel right between us so that I can relax, let down my defences and reveal my thoughts to you (and vice versa). To save us both wasted time, I'll tell you politely if I don't feel comfortable. I'd like to encourage you strongly, though, to get in touch with me if you find yourself empathising with what I've written here. A good emotional connection is very important to me, so that's a great indication that we're going to get on.

I'm crossing my fingers that I might hear from someone who would like to get to know me better along these lines. For more information about me, please check out my profile, my past postings, my audio introduction (see my signature), or just ask me!

Many thanks for reading this far.

MF
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Feedback

It's not often that Litsters who post Personals adverts report back on their progress, so I thought I'd do so here. Hopefully it will address some perceptions (or misconceptions) about the Litster population and the Personals threads.

I haven't been inundated by responses, but I received three very high quality replies from Litster ladies who are lovely, kind and bright. They had all clearly taken the time to understand where my posting was coming from, and to frame their responses in terms of their own experiences. I'm really happy about this.

Luckily, these three ladies (you'll know who you are!) have different and complementary perspectives on the topic that I introduced. It's early days, but I'm very much hoping that I can stay in touch with them all, as each has something different and compelling to offer (and hopefully I can offer something unique and positive back to each of them too).

One observation that I'd like to add is that none of the three ladies who replied to me is a prolific contributor on Lit threads. This confirms my belief that there are a lot of silent, lurking Litsters who read the forum threads but are very selective about when they choose to break cover. I feel flattered that my posting was able to gain the attention and interest of the three ladies who responded to me.

Whilst I'm now happily busy in dialogue from the replies that I've received, I wouldn't wish to put off anyone else who would like to respond -- I don't have a maximum quota on good friends! I promise that I'll reply to any approaches that I receive, even if it's just to give a polite acknowledgement.

Thanks once again to the wonderful ladies who have taken the trouble to write to me. I appreciate it greatly. I also offer my gratitude to those who provide, operate, maintain and moderate this Literotica forum, and thereby enabled me to make these new contacts.

Cheers to all -- and a happy holiday weekend to those in the US!

MF
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