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Old 06-10-2006, 05:50 PM   #1
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Mine doesn’t always work….

My cock often has a mind of its own. It has always been that way. It gets hard in the middle of the night when I’m asleep. It demands to be played with when I’m working on a paper for work. It gets drippy when I thumb through porn magazines. I expect that also happens to other men as well. In fact, I know it does because I hear other men talk about it happening.

There are other things about cocks that I don’t often hear men talk about, that is when it won’t do what I want it to do. Mine doesn’t always work the way I want it to work. Some on the reasons it doesn’t work are in my head – the one on top of my shoulders. I have difficulty cuming when a woman gives me a blow-job – but I can fully let go if it is a guy sucking away. I know the reason and it is not a gay/straight thing, we might talk about it later. 15 years ago I was plagued with a 3 year run of premature ejaculations – did that ever piss off my partners. I was able to learn how to solve that. I love BDSM, but have never cum is a play scene, even the time I was offered a silver tray to cum on.

So, as you can see, mine doesn’t always work. I am now OK with my cock having a mind of its own (more or less). It has helped to have learned that many other men have control issues with their cocks.

So I offer a place to talk about it here if you want to take the risk. This is not safe place because it is not private, but have a go none-the-less. If you what something posted but don’t want it connected to you, PM it to me and I’ll post it.

I would love this to be a positive place to discuss all the ways cocks have displayed behaviors that you would not tolerate in a sub/bottom – and the ways you have dealt with such misbehavior.

So, I ask, does your cock always work the way you want?


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Well hell if I can talk to it about it with some of the ladies here on lit, then why should I have an issue posting it.

I have only had 2 lover and I can count how much sex I have had on without using all 8 fingers and 2 thumbs. Being give oral or having sex is just ok with me, during both activities my mind wonders and I have to really try and focus on what I am feeling. This isn't the problem though, during sex I can achieve an orgasm, but if I masterbate its not an issue.

Maybe it is because I at times can masterbate more then 2 times a day, or maybe its something mental that is stopping me from it?? This is sorta a none issue now as I may not seek release unless I get permission from M'lady before hand. I personally think that if I have enough sexual tension built up, if and when I am allowed to have sex I will cum. If this doesn't solve the issue then I am back to square one and at a complete loss as to the trouble.
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My cocks always work when and how I want them too. LMAO!!!

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Well hell if I can talk to it about it with some of the ladies here on lit, then why should I have an issue posting it.

I have only had 2 lover and I can count how much sex I have had on without using all 8 fingers and 2 thumbs. Being give oral or having sex is just ok with me, during both activities my mind wonders and I have to really try and focus on what I am feeling. This isn't the problem though, during sex I can achieve an orgasm, but if I masterbate its not an issue.

Maybe it is because I at times can masterbate more then 2 times a day, or maybe its something mental that is stopping me from it?? This is sorta a none issue now as I may not seek release unless I get permission from M'lady before hand. I personally think that if I have enough sexual tension built up, if and when I am allowed to have sex I will cum. If this doesn't solve the issue then I am back to square one and at a complete loss as to the trouble.
Thanks for taking a risk posting here, L J. One thing I know about myself is that I cannot cum when I'm in "sub" space - after years (40+) of training that my cum is dirty, no matter how I no longer I feel that way most of the time, when a sub my shame surfaces and the squirt does not cum. I'm hard, I'm excited, it just does not shoot. As a Top it is a totally differently story. It is a deep seated issue with females and pleasing them. Oh well.

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It just make intercourse a less fun activity to engage in, but I make up for it with my desire to please her to multi orgasms.
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Actually I meant dildos that are made and men's cocks I use both.

I was just trying to be funny, didn't mean anything bad by it, btw.

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It just make intercourse a less fun activity to engage in, but I make up for it with my desire to please her to multi orgasms.
if you could change anything about how she is acting or the place you are at while making love, or any other thing such as more or less light, more or less time, any change at all - what might it be?
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if you could change anything about how she is acting or the place you are at while making love, or any other thing such as more or less light, more or less time, any change at all - what might it be?
Maybe its a mental thing because it casual sex, I was not in any really commited relationships with either one and I was kinda thinking of following the sex after marriage precept. I am at a loss as to the reason for the inabliity durning sex but not masterbation. M'lady and I are going to keep trying to get past this as she wants to be the first woman I can orgasm during sex with, but then again she wants to mark lots of first with me.

Its not the woman, or the light issue, the beds were very comfortable. As for time, one time I think it was 10 mins+ of hard fucking, that left me breathless and still not enough stimulation. I would almost work the issue from the point of being able to masterbate with them watching, which is hard for me, then gradutate up to cumiming during sex with them.
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Contrary to popular belief, the human erection is an involuntary reaction rather than voluntary.
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Why can't it be both??
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Contrary to popular belief, the human erection is an involuntary reaction rather than voluntary.
that is what this is all about, it doesn't always do what I want, and sometimes it does things I don't want.
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Why can't it be both??
why ask why? I have tried that and have not yet received an answer. So I just try to learn how best to deal with what's up - or not "up" as the case may be....
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I'd like to hear more from others male and female.

I've been with men that can't cum from fucking or BJ's. I think it has a lot to do with guys know how to get themselves off best. As good a pussy/mouth feels it's just not the same.

i have a hard time cumming WITH someone, and cannot cum from fucking alone.

I think it takes practice to get to knwo your partner. I'm looking forward to more practice with my partner.
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This requires use of my memory skills, but...

Sometimes, during foreplay, I'll be alternately hard and soft. It's a little distracting, truth to tell. we'd be cuddling, kissing, grinding, and me with the "now you see it, now you don't" wood. Worried that I might be sending her the message that Im not into her or something, that sort of thing can really mess up a mood.

meh.

I got one penis, one tongue, eight fingers, and two thumbs. Eleven out of twelve things that work how I want when I want isn't a bad ratio, in the long run.
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Sometimes, during foreplay, I'll be alternately hard and soft. It's a little distracting, truth to tell. we'd be cuddling, kissing, grinding, and me with the "now you see it, now you don't" wood. Worried that I might be sending her the message that Im not into her or something, that sort of thing can really mess up a mood.

meh.

I got one penis, one tongue, eight fingers, and two thumbs. Eleven out of twelve things that work how I want when I want isn't a bad ratio, in the long run.
Thanks for dropping in. Mine does that same thing. My ex thought it meant that I was not turned on. It just was not the case. I have reached the point with a lover that I just must say "give him some direct attention and just see what he does" - well I don't usually refer to my cock in the third person, but I hope you get the idea.

The only problem for me is the fact that it is a huge step to directly ask for sexual stimulation.



but not always "up"
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I'd just signed off when a stray thought hit me, in the room where most of us guys do our best thinking.

Is it possible we're sending our penii (pretty sure the Latin pluralization is correct here) a subconscious message?

During the foreplay, for example, are we subconsciously telling our penis "Nope, not time to pay attention to you yet; you only need a few minutes; besides, I'm playing with something else now." ?
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Of course it won't do what we want, when we want, or how we want. It's got a mind of it's own, and mine sure as hell won't explain to me ... never has, not when I was 14 and cuming in my pants because Rosalyn Gabbert had boobs, and not now when life has gotten much more complex and entertaining.

Right now mine isn't talking to anyone except a gurl he calls "Pussy." He is madly in love with her and spends all of his time thinking about her. When she is in the vicinity he wakes up, stands up, speaks up. When she leaves, or I take him somewhere, he does the penile equivalent of and drowses off, no matter how pleasant or interesting the view may otherwise be.

He used to like porn. He used to like women, pretty much in general. He used to plain like sex, most anytime, anywhere. Now, all of a sudden, he's become crusader rabbit and is focused on Pussy like she was the holy grail of his destiny.

I tend to support his obsession. Cause when the two of them get together, EVERYONE has fun!

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I got one penis, one tongue, eight fingers, and two thumbs. Eleven out of twelve things that work how I want when I want isn't a bad ratio, in the long run.
I hear that!

Oh, and Billy Joel is the man.

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I'd like to hear more from others male and female.

I've been with men that can't cum from fucking or BJ's. I think it has a lot to do with guys know how to get themselves off best. As good a pussy/mouth feels it's just not the same.

i have a hard time cumming WITH someone, and cannot cum from fucking alone.

I think it takes practice to get to knwo your partner. I'm looking forward to more practice with my partner.
Are you sure these guys aren't gay?
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Are you sure these guys aren't gay?
I don't understand the point of the question....
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I don't understand the point of the question....
Uh well, the point is that if a guy doesn't come from fucking a girl or from getting a blowjob, he's probably gay.

But I wasn't asking you anyway.
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Uh well, the point is that if a guy doesn't come from fucking a girl or from getting a blowjob, he's probably gay.

But I wasn't asking you anyway.
Two points.

One, this whole thread is about cocks that don't necessarily do what their owners want or expect them to do, a topic that can lead to quite a bit of angst over their sexuality to begin with, and get them a lot of aggro from their SO, into the bargain. Heck, there's some figure; I'll have to do the research, but some startling percentage of men who admit that they can't come unless they're masturbating or being masturbated.

You absolutely can't tell gay or straight from penis behavior. (Well, maybe if a guy only gets hard in the locker room at his gym, or when he sees another hard-on, that might be a sign, but even that's a stretch.) So posting something like that in this thread is borderline on trolling, unless you genuinely weren't aware of such facts.

Two, by posting in a thread on a public forum, you're inviting comment and question from any and all who have an ability to post here, so it really doesn't matter who you were specifically addressing. If you only want one response, PM the person you want the response from.
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Uh well, the point is that if a guy doesn't come from fucking a girl or from getting a blowjob, he's probably gay.

But I wasn't asking you anyway.
thank for giving your point of view
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