Originally Posted by nebtounge
My wife recently told me she is bi/lesbian and I can tell. If we are having sex and talk about her with another woman she just gets dripping wet! I actually find it very sexy and often imagine her with another girl and me watching or us playing together.
She feels guilty though and is afraid to try anything new. I'd love to find a way to meet someone who she can flirt with and maybe we can play with. We are totally new to this though and have no idea how to meet someone single who might be playful and into this kind of thing. Any suggestions on how to meet someone and take the proactive approach of helping make a connection between my wife and someone new for her to enjoy?
This one comes up quite a bit. Some considerations:
M/F couples looking for a Hot Bi Babe to play with are sometimes nicknamed "unicorn chasers" because there are so many more couples than there are HBBs. This doesn't mean what you're looking for is impossible, but you do need to be careful not to limit your options any further than necessary.
The fantasy is finding a beautiful bi woman who's attracted to both of you, doesn't have any other commitments, and wants exactly as much contact as you do, whether that's a one-night stand or a long-term connection.
The reality is a real person who already has her own preferences that probably don't align exactly with yours; rather than imagining perfect compatibility you'll have to work out something that suits all of you, and given the supply/demand situation it's quite likely that you and your wife will need to be flexible.
Why does she need to be single? It doesn't sound as if you and your wife are looking to offer her a long-term emotional commitment, so why is it a problem if she's getting that elsewhere? (I'm not advocating getting mixed up in cheating, BTW - but there are quite a few HBBs out there in relationships that give them permission to play elsewhere.)
Is this about your wife exploring her attraction to other women, or is it about you enjoying a threesome? It's quite possible that you might find a lady who's interested in your wife but not in you, and perhaps not even in having you watch. Either way, be honest about what you're looking for; it's very bad manners to invite a woman for F-F play and then expect her to be cool with a threesome.
Would you consider playing with another couple? Or is this a One Penis Policy thing? Some guys are cool with their wife sleeping with other women because they don't view that as a threat to their manhood or their relationship; some of those guys end up very unpleasantly surprised when they discover that F-F sex is just as real a thing as M-F.