That's great, and so familiar....other than when I cum, the orgasm is as good as most any.
Hands free orgasm: mental physical or kegels?
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That's great, and so familiar....other than when I cum, the orgasm is as good as most any.
This, to me, is, and always has been, the ultimate goal behind my own forays into Dominance and submission.
I understand (very well, thank you) that some just flat need the toys and other accouterments to get there. And I have no problems with them seeking that. Life is far too short to not seek pleasure wherever, however, and with whomever it becomes possible. And, yes. I have used those accoutrements myself, thank you.
But, for me, the ultimate submission of my partner has always been the surrendering of her orgasm to me. I should not have to even ask for it, much less demand it. If she is truly mine, then she will know and will gift it to me with perhaps no more command than the sight of my eyes locking onto hers, the sound of my voice saying her true name.
And, yes, I have attained that a few times with a few lovers. And even a few that I was never physically intimate with.
However, I also hasten to add that even with Love, it wasn't a constant thing over the entirety of our time together. I could and did achieve it with her, many times. One Christmas party with her co-workers when I tormented her from across a crowded room and almost broke her mind (according to her) as she was mixing and mingling and trying to not give a hint that her eyes had just met mine and she'd had a flashback to what we'd been doing just before getting dressed... But, there were also times when life, building that life together, did get in the way a little. Times when she found it difficult to allow me to caress her heart, mind, and soul fully and completely.
***shrug***
Don't get me wrong. I'm not knocking the physical. Not at all.
I'm just saying that, if and when I can achieve it with someone, it is the ultimate surrender for her to allow me cause her an orgasm through thinking about me, through loving me, through the connection that we share. Even, or perhaps especially, when I'm not even physically present. Even... No. Especially when she doesn't actually want to.
Yes, I'm big into consent physically. Very much so. According to some, even too much so.
But, yes. The idea that I brought her submissive to a shuddering orgasm without ever touching her, or even indicating with more than a pause and meeting of the eyes that I wished it... or hearing my rumbling voice... or even just reading my words that I have written...
I try to assuage that small non-consent that I crave that her mind at the least must have offered itself up to me. Or her heart. Or her soul. In the best circumstances, all three gave me the key to unlock her body.
If you don't believe it's possible, then I'm not sure what to say. Maybe it isn't possible for everyone to obtain that sweet surrender or total domination with each other. Maybe for some, there is too much resistance to such total submission or complete domination that they can not let go and let it happen. I can only wish that if it is possible for you as you read this, that you will find what, or whom, you need for it to become more real than just an idle conjecture in a thread on Lit on a sleepy Saturday afternoon.
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This^ also is a good point. It is about surrender and trust. For someone to be that much in control of you, your pleasure, and orgasm they have to be let in, inside your head. I feel it is not something you just do one day, it is gradual. Just like earning someone's trust, it takes time.
I can see how it can occur with no physical intimacy. That is how strong our minds are. In my experience it does start with physical, touching, holding, physical sex, and D/s play. Then as the connection gets stronger the mental can be more then the physical with pleasure coming from a look, a thought, or word.
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I’ve only had two hands free ejaculations while awake. The first was unintentional and happened while watching a vid. The second happened intentionally to see if I could do it. I had my cock tucked up in my waistband, under my belt for pressure and then I “throbbed” it to completion. I think it was the male equivalent to a kegel exercise. In any case it was an intense orgasm both times. The embarrassment of the first time was interesting but I’ve never had anyone control me like that. The accomplishment of the second time was nice for obvious reasons. I think it would be fun to intentionally cum in my pants for someone ether by command/request or as a result of intense foreplay.
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When I was in my 20's, I was a bit of a stoner.
A few times late at night, I would get really high, lay naked in bed with the lights off, and just imagine an ex, or other really hot girl blowing me, or riding me. After a while, and rock hard, I would be able to almost feel the sensations.
One time in particular, I could swear I was on the edge of cumming with zero touch, but I got impatient and used my hand to finish.
I miss those days... I came sooooo much back then, and my boners could cut diamonds!
I think the sole reason that I couldn't achieve total mental orgasm was that I simply masturbated too much. Had I taken a few days or a week off, I probably could have easily got there.
I plan to try again soon, they are legalizing medical marijuana in my state very soon....
A few times late at night, I would get really high, lay naked in bed with the lights off, and just imagine an ex, or other really hot girl blowing me, or riding me. After a while, and rock hard, I would be able to almost feel the sensations.
One time in particular, I could swear I was on the edge of cumming with zero touch, but I got impatient and used my hand to finish.
I miss those days... I came sooooo much back then, and my boners could cut diamonds!
I think the sole reason that I couldn't achieve total mental orgasm was that I simply masturbated too much. Had I taken a few days or a week off, I probably could have easily got there.
I plan to try again soon, they are legalizing medical marijuana in my state very soon....
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If you can imagine it, I think you can make yourself cum. I know some people like the narration of a woman, especially if she has a very sexy voice. She describes a scene, you see it in your head, and eventually you cum on her command.
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My dream. If only I could hear her voice, it could caress me as much as anyone else's physical touch.
I might say the hopeless romantic died in me 20 years ago, but to be truthful, a woman holds that key and only she alone can unlock my soul. Until then, I'm only a plaything for others.
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I think it's both mental and physical. I am able to have a hands free orgasm from squeezing my thick thighs together. I've also woken up in the middle of the night in mid-orgasm with no recollection of what I may have been dreaming about, if anything. I always wake up soaking wet and with a throbbing clit in the morning, a feeling I adore lol. If anyone, male or female, wants to discuss this further, pm me.
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I've never orgasmed without physical stimulation. My ex swore he'd made it happen with other women and seemed frustrated I couldn't get there. It always made me wonder if she actually had orgasmed or if she was feeding his ego... hmmm...
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My wonderful girlfriend can cum in many different - by my sucking her nipples, kissing her rosebud or licking her rmpits, but she has on occasions cum simply from thinking herself into the right state of mid, helped - I hope - by what I say to her.
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I've cum quite a few times by rhythmically squeezing my thighs together too, & that's definitely both a mental & a physical experience, always starting with the mental aspect. I use that technique in public settings when a more overt physical method wouldn't be socially acceptable. Trying to adequately control the physical signs of my arousal during it is always a struggle, though, especially during the latter stages, & a skill that I haven't quite mastered.
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Hi. I am new, and thought I would chime in about this. I have experienced handsfree orgasms. alone, and under someone's guidance. Given my situation, most of those guided ones were in a car, and it is always safer to drive with both hands on the wheel.
What brought me to climax was the way he got deep into my head, and said those words that set me on fire. The combination of terms, and his tone, of degradation and humiliation, lit me up!
To be specific on the mechanics of it, I simply pressed my mons into my seat, grinding even. That would do the trick.
What brought me to climax was the way he got deep into my head, and said those words that set me on fire. The combination of terms, and his tone, of degradation and humiliation, lit me up!
To be specific on the mechanics of it, I simply pressed my mons into my seat, grinding even. That would do the trick.
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fascinating. it's the relationship that sets the whole thing up. It's what builds the car. The triggers are the keys. How you do it physically is just a natural thing. You thrust and push out the orgasm he has placed in you, when he tells you to.
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You have your senses on high alert jada. Your mind and body seem to be as one sexually. Your experiences and imagination have allowed you to bring the pleasure involuntarily. Omg! reading this account is a fetish! Thank you.
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Your profile is exquisite Josie. It's understandable that you haven't found a proper dom because your sexuality is at another much higher level than most. Plus the fact that most who claim to be dominant aren't.
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Well said! It is a natural process to be followed. Maybe not exactly the same for everybody but generally speaking as you have outlined. Thank you!
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Awesome ES. I love it when my body surprises me but I can only imagine how you must have felt. Becoming as one during sex is so wonderful.
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Relaxation is the key! I have edged without touching after listening to audio files that completely relaxed me.
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sweet! and so true. A good starting point might be the moment during foreplay where you feel her become submissive to you. When passion's back and forth with no indication of who is dominant or who is submissive, suddenly you feel her going into submission physically at first but then as time goes on, mentally as wellThis, to me, is, and always has been, the ultimate goal behind my own forays into Dominance and submission.
I understand (very well, thank you) that some just flat need the toys and other accouterments to get there. And I have no problems with them seeking that. Life is far too short to not seek pleasure wherever, however, and with whomever it becomes possible. And, yes. I have used those accoutrements myself, thank you.
But, for me, the ultimate submission of my partner has always been the surrendering of her orgasm to me. I should not have to even ask for it, much less demand it. If she is truly mine, then she will know and will gift it to me with perhaps no more command than the sight of my eyes locking onto hers, the sound of my voice saying her true name.
And, yes, I have attained that a few times with a few lovers. And even a few that I was never physically intimate with.
However, I also hasten to add that even with Love, it wasn't a constant thing over the entirety of our time together. I could and did achieve it with her, many times. One Christmas party with her co-workers when I tormented her from across a crowded room and almost broke her mind (according to her) as she was mixing and mingling and trying to not give a hint that her eyes had just met mine and she'd had a flashback to what we'd been doing just before getting dressed... But, there were also times when life, building that life together, did get in the way a little. Times when she found it difficult to allow me to caress her heart, mind, and soul fully and completely.
***shrug***
Don't get me wrong. I'm not knocking the physical. Not at all.
I'm just saying that, if and when I can achieve it with someone, it is the ultimate surrender for her to allow me cause her an orgasm through thinking about me, through loving me, through the connection that we share. Even, or perhaps especially, when I'm not even physically present. Even... No. Especially when she doesn't actually want to.
Yes, I'm big into consent physically. Very much so. According to some, even too much so.
But, yes. The idea that I brought her submissive to a shuddering orgasm without ever touching her, or even indicating with more than a pause and meeting of the eyes that I wished it... or hearing my rumbling voice... or even just reading my words that I have written...
I try to assuage that small non-consent that I crave that her mind at the least must have offered itself up to me. Or her heart. Or her soul. In the best circumstances, all three gave me the key to unlock her body.
If you don't believe it's possible, then I'm not sure what to say. Maybe it isn't possible for everyone to obtain that sweet surrender or total domination with each other. Maybe for some, there is too much resistance to such total submission or complete domination that they can not let go and let it happen. I can only wish that if it is possible for you as you read this, that you will find what, or whom, you need for it to become more real than just an idle conjecture in a thread on Lit on a sleepy Saturday afternoon.
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Being highly open to suggestion you should explore this more hal!
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you should do that and also allow someone to do that with you or rather to you
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With me it is the dominant voice. Either male or female. Not just in tone but in the words they use to control me. I like to Dom too. I love control regardless
