As a former dancer and someone who still frequents clubs from time to time, I offer my advice to any woman who may be interested in going to a "gentleman's club":
- The best advice I can give a newcomer: research clubs in your area before going. Don't just "drop in". I say this because first impressions make a big impact. There are a lot of great clubs, but there are some duds too. If you Google the club's name and don't find a website or at least a Facebook page, chances are you don't want to go there anyway. This is also a good way to figure out if a club is couples/ladies friendly, if they have a dress code, if they have anything special about them like feature shows, amateur nights, or costume parties for certain holidays. Summoning the courage to go to club is stressful enough without having to walk away from the experience disappointed. Trust me, I've been there.
- Don't be nervous! Girls in strip clubs are treated with respect and courtesy and dancers want to make them feel comfortable. Dancers are always happy to accommodate them regardless of their own sexual orientation. This isn't because all strippers are gay/bi-sexual, but because when people are having a good time, they spend more money. Guys seeing a girl getting a lap dance from a dancer gets them riled up -- and when guys get riled up, they get dumber with their wallets.
- Your mileage will vary depending on where you live. Laws for adult oriented businesses are regulated at a state level. Therefore, some states are stricter than others. States like Ohio, Michigan, Texas, and Kentucky are among the strictest while Pennsylvania, Illinois, Nevada, and Maryland tend to be the most lenient. Some states have no touching, some states have no alcohol, some states require pasties, some states don't care. If you are unsure of the laws, look up a club in your state that has a FAQ section or email. They are usually more than happy to answer your questions. Also, just because a state has a law, doesn't mean everyone follows them.
- Etiquette: There are a few simple things you can do to make a dancer's night easier. First of all, if a girl asks you for a dance the absolute worst thing you can say is "maybe later". If you have no interest, just say so. You won't hurt their feelings and they will appreciate you not wasting their time when they come back to you again and again. Be honest! If you are unsure, simply say, "I'm unsure because (insert reason here)". They will be MUCH more understanding and may help you decide. Another simple thing: avoid clothing with open zippers, large buttons, or other rough surfaces like jackets. Those things scratch and hurt when grinding bare skin against it. If you are sitting near the main stage DO NOT "turkey neck". What is turkey necking? This is when a person sitting by the stage leans forward in their chair and prop their elbows on the stage itself. One, it makes you look like a chump. Two, you're not going to get a better view. Three, it's possible you can get kicked in the face if a girl is spinning on the pole. Just don't do it!
- Above all else, treat dancers like you would like to be treated. They are performers and entertainers who's objective is to sell you a fantasy. They are not there to fulfill your sexual desires. Things can get very heated at times, especially in VIP rooms, but don't go into it expecting "more" to happen. Sometimes they happen naturally, other times not. Dancers are only human, after all.
As a former dancer and someone who still frequents clubs from time to time, I offer my advice to any woman who may be interested in going to a "gentleman's club":
- The best advice I can give a newcomer: research clubs in your area before going. Don't just "drop in". I say this because first impressions make a big impact. There are a lot of great clubs, but there are some duds too. If you Google the club's name and don't find a website or at least a Facebook page, chances are you don't want to go there anyway. This is also a good way to figure out if a club is couples/ladies friendly, if they have a dress code, if they have anything special about them like feature shows, amateur nights, or costume parties for certain holidays. Summoning the courage to go to club is stressful enough without having to walk away from the experience disappointed. Trust me, I've been there.
- Don't be nervous! Girls in strip clubs are treated with respect and courtesy and dancers want to make them feel comfortable. Dancers are always happy to accommodate them regardless of their own sexual orientation. This isn't because all strippers are gay/bi-sexual, but because when people are having a good time, they spend more money. Guys seeing a girl getting a lap dance from a dancer gets them riled up -- and when guys get riled up, they get dumber with their wallets.
- Your mileage will vary depending on where you live. Laws for adult oriented businesses are regulated at a state level. Therefore, some states are stricter than others. States like Ohio, Michigan, Texas, and Kentucky are among the strictest while Pennsylvania, Illinois, Nevada, and Maryland tend to be the most lenient. Some states have no touching, some states have no alcohol, some states require pasties, some states don't care. If you are unsure of the laws, look up a club in your state that has a FAQ section or email. They are usually more than happy to answer your questions. Also, just because a state has a law, doesn't mean everyone follows them.
- Etiquette: There are a few simple things you can do to make a dancer's night easier. First of all, if a girl asks you for a dance the absolute worst thing you can say is "maybe later". If you have no interest, just say so. You won't hurt their feelings and they will appreciate you not wasting their time when they come back to you again and again. Be honest! If you are unsure, simply say, "I'm unsure because (insert reason here)". They will be MUCH more understanding and may help you decide. Another simple thing: avoid clothing with open zippers, large buttons, or other rough surfaces like jackets. Those things scratch and hurt when grinding bare skin against it. If you are sitting near the main stage DO NOT "turkey neck". What is turkey necking? This is when a person sitting by the stage leans forward in their chair and prop their elbows on the stage itself. One, it makes you look like a chump. Two, you're not going to get a better view. Three, it's possible you can get kicked in the face if a girl is spinning on the pole. Just don't do it!
- Above all else, treat dancers like you would like to be treated. They are performers and entertainers who's objective is to sell you a fantasy. They are not there to fulfill your sexual desires. Things can get very heated at times, especially in VIP rooms, but don't go into it expecting "more" to happen. Sometimes they happen naturally, other times not. Dancers are only human, after all.
Don't know why I never thought of this! I have to try it. Of course, it might be hard to keep my hands to myself.
As a former dancer and someone who still frequents clubs from time to time, I offer my advice to any woman who may be interested in going to a "gentleman's club":
- The best advice I can give a newcomer: research clubs in your area before going. Don't just "drop in". I say this because first impressions make a big impact. There are a lot of great clubs, but there are some duds too. If you Google the club's name and don't find a website or at least a Facebook page, chances are you don't want to go there anyway. This is also a good way to figure out if a club is couples/ladies friendly, if they have a dress code, if they have anything special about them like feature shows, amateur nights, or costume parties for certain holidays. Summoning the courage to go to club is stressful enough without having to walk away from the experience disappointed. Trust me, I've been there.
- Don't be nervous! Girls in strip clubs are treated with respect and courtesy and dancers want to make them feel comfortable. Dancers are always happy to accommodate them regardless of their own sexual orientation. This isn't because all strippers are gay/bi-sexual, but because when people are having a good time, they spend more money. Guys seeing a girl getting a lap dance from a dancer gets them riled up -- and when guys get riled up, they get dumber with their wallets.
- Your mileage will vary depending on where you live. Laws for adult oriented businesses are regulated at a state level. Therefore, some states are stricter than others. States like Ohio, Michigan, Texas, and Kentucky are among the strictest while Pennsylvania, Illinois, Nevada, and Maryland tend to be the most lenient. Some states have no touching, some states have no alcohol, some states require pasties, some states don't care. If you are unsure of the laws, look up a club in your state that has a FAQ section or email. They are usually more than happy to answer your questions. Also, just because a state has a law, doesn't mean everyone follows them.
- Etiquette: There are a few simple things you can do to make a dancer's night easier. First of all, if a girl asks you for a dance the absolute worst thing you can say is "maybe later". If you have no interest, just say so. You won't hurt their feelings and they will appreciate you not wasting their time when they come back to you again and again. Be honest! If you are unsure, simply say, "I'm unsure because (insert reason here)". They will be MUCH more understanding and may help you decide. Another simple thing: avoid clothing with open zippers, large buttons, or other rough surfaces like jackets. Those things scratch and hurt when grinding bare skin against it. If you are sitting near the main stage DO NOT "turkey neck". What is turkey necking? This is when a person sitting by the stage leans forward in their chair and prop their elbows on the stage itself. One, it makes you look like a chump. Two, you're not going to get a better view. Three, it's possible you can get kicked in the face if a girl is spinning on the pole. Just don't do it!
- Above all else, treat dancers like you would like to be treated. They are performers and entertainers who's objective is to sell you a fantasy. They are not there to fulfill your sexual desires. Things can get very heated at times, especially in VIP rooms, but don't go into it expecting "more" to happen. Sometimes they happen naturally, other times not. Dancers are only human, after all.
I hope next time she does 
^Wow! it seems you've had so much fun! Sounds like a wonderful first experience. I'm glad everything went to your favor and you enjoyed the shows. Though with your generosity I thought the girl you hired could pay more 'special' attention to you
