Sex after 50

Divorced male here. 52 years old, so just entering the ‘older’ phase of my life. On anti-depressants and BP meds (but I am HWP) so I take Cialis. No problems getting it up. But it is a bitch to get off. Just can’t come. Is this the new normal?

I don’t date younger women, in fact I date one gal who is my age. She has issues with dry vagina and thin tissues. Guess this is what it comes to? (No pun intended)

Jeffs362 said:

Divorced male here. 52 years old, so just entering the ‘older’ phase of my life. On anti-depressants and BP meds (but I am HWP) so I take Cialis. No problems getting it up. But it is a bitch to get off. Just can’t come. Is this the new normal?

I don’t date younger women, in fact I date one gal who is my age. She has issues with dry vagina and thin tissues. Guess this is what it comes to? (No pun intended)

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I'm 53 and doing what I can to manage my blood pressure and everything else my Doc tells me to watch. Even so, my performance isn't always up to par in the bedroom. So, yeah ... getting older sucks. Can't speak to the female half of the equation though. I married a spring chicken who is still rocking my world and doesn't seem to be going through "the change" yet. Although between uterine fibrosis and endometriosis she's earned her stripes.

Jeffs362 said:

Divorced male here. 52 years old, so just entering the ‘older’ phase of my life. On anti-depressants and BP meds (but I am HWP) so I take Cialis. No problems getting it up. But it is a bitch to get off. Just can’t come. Is this the new normal?

I don’t date younger women, in fact I date one gal who is my age. She has issues with dry vagina and thin tissues. Guess this is what it comes to? (No pun intended)

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64 male here, still horny as all hell. A bitch getting off just means I can go for hours. Does not make the wife happy, but others have not complained. wink, wink!
Older women can be dryer. My wife's gyno suggested the "Mona Lisa" procedure.

I've been seeing a guy in his 50s for a while. We usually spend somewhere between 15 hours and two days together, pretty much entirely having sex. He cums maybe twice, maybe once, maybe not at all. This is NOT problem for me because he's decided it's not a problem for him - it's just not about the end game, but about all the super-cool stuff you can do on the way. And we're both old enough and experienced enough to be able to come with plenty of ways of entertaining ourselves.

It is indeed all about the journey, but sometimes crossing the finish line is pretty sweet.

I think I get across that line enough for the both of us ... and then some. Luckily he's someone who take pride in his work.

It's the antidepressants that make it hard to have that orgasm. I've been on them for...a long time. I'm still horny as hell, but it take forever to get off. And the beta blocker I take makes it hard...er...difficult to get it up.

finally an encouraging thread! i'm 65, NEVER had a problem getting it up till 5 yrs. ago after a heart attack. i'm on a whole slew of medications and my dr. seems to think i'm doing par for the course. he prescribed an antidepressant that made me totally impotent so we canned that, i just started prozac and seem to function. i figured the vascular dilator rx would have good side benefits for my dick but that doesn't seem the case. i started to have problems cumming in my 50's but no one i was fucking ever complained about that.
i've also noticed that i shoot less cum and with less force. i chalk that also up to age and my dr. agrees.

getting old sucks and not at all well!

rae121452 said:

finally an encouraging thread! i'm 65, NEVER had a problem getting it up till 5 yrs. ago after a heart attack. i'm on a whole slew of medications and my dr. seems to think i'm doing par for the course. he prescribed an antidepressant that made me totally impotent so we canned that, i just started prozac and seem to function. i figured the vascular dilator rx would have good side benefits for my dick but that doesn't seem the case. i started to have problems cumming in my 50's but no one i was fucking ever complained about that.
i've also noticed that i shoot less cum and with less force. i chalk that also up to age and my dr. agrees.

getting old sucks and not at all well!

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I was taking prozac when I first went on the ADs. The doctor told me it might lower my libido. It just the opposite, it increased it to the point I just couldn't stand it and she switched me to Paxil. That was better. Now still on Paxil and I have the same libido but I now have to drive to New Jersey to get off. Maybe I'll ask to be put back on prozac.

Zeb_Carter said:

I was taking prozac when I first went on the ADs. The doctor told me it might lower my libido. It just the opposite, it increased it to the point I just couldn't stand it and she switched me to Paxil. That was better. Now still on Paxil and I have the same libido but I now have to drive to New Jersey to get off. Maybe I'll ask to be put back on prozac.

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I'm lucky that my hand is in the same zip code with me. No travel necessary. <rim shot>.

In all seriousness, I don't have other drugs managing blood pressure (etc) and don't have mental health issues (except kids <ta-dum>).

Edited to fill in various blanks: I am taking Tamsulosin (FloMax), which causes my prostate to relax in order to promote better urine flow. It has changed my ejaculations in amount and force. The little blue pill makes me take longer to orgasm (not necessarily a bad thing) but my testosterone therapy picks up the slack on drive.

Jeffs362 said:

Divorced male here. 52 years old, so just entering the ‘older’ phase of my life. On anti-depressants and BP meds (but I am HWP) so I take Cialis. No problems getting it up. But it is a bitch to get off. Just can’t come. Is this the new normal?

I don’t date younger women, in fact I date one gal who is my age. She has issues with dry vagina and thin tissues. Guess this is what it comes to? (No pun intended)

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As someone else has said, it's the anti-depressants that are delaying orgasm. I completely understand. I've never had a problem with clinical depression, but I took a cocktail of Pamelor and indocin for the nerve pain from a case of the shingles. I guess that was rather depressing though. This wasn't in my "senior years" either mind you, but at the age of 35 and it still made orgasm difficult. I'd get hard as a rock and could bang away on my first wife, and bring her off multiple times (not that she minded) and still not get over the top myself.

BTW, I never had an external rash with that case of shingles as it attacked the vestibular nerve off my left ear causing vertigo and unilateral pain (on one side only) in my head that would knock me to my knees. Took my GP, an ENT, and finally a neurologist to make the diagnosis. The Pamelor made me stutter as well which was not a good thing in my profession where verbal communication skills were a must. I was never so happy as when I came off that crap.

Now, fit and very trim again at age 60 with no BP issues (114/61 when I got my flu shot this morning), I occasionally take an ED drug (Cialis or Viagra) but really as an enhancement on "special play nights" since I generally have no problem with getting or maintaining an erection. I also recently swore off the use of Cialis, and disposed of my remaining supply, as the well known side effect of leg pain just became too much to tolerate. I can put up with the stuffy nose and slight headache of Viagra but the leg pain from the Cialis was affecting both my sleep and fitness program.

In my somewhat limited experience with men over the age of 50, all had various difficulties achieving erection at times for various reasons except the one who used Viagra. I think it is part of aging. However, I greatly enjoyed my experiences with all of them, and they seemed to as well...

None of them were on antidepressants, but the deleterious effect of these drugs on reaching orgasm is well documented.

quietlylooking said:

In my somewhat limited experience with men over the age of 50, all had various difficulties achieving erection at times for various reasons except the one who used Viagra. I think it is part of aging. However, I greatly enjoyed my experiences with all of them, and they seemed to as well...

None of them were on antidepressants, but the deleterious effect of these drugs on reaching orgasm is well documented.

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I feel the longer it takes for me to achieve orgasm the better it is for the woman who, has basically an unlimited amount of orgasms to experience in the time it takes me to have one. Besides I love giving women pleasure even at the expense of my own.

Jeffs362 said:

Divorced male here. 52 years old, so just entering the ‘older’ phase of my life. On anti-depressants and BP meds (but I am HWP) so I take Cialis. No problems getting it up. But it is a bitch to get off. Just can’t come. Is this the new normal?

I don’t date younger women, in fact I date one gal who is my age. She has issues with dry vagina and thin tissues. Guess this is what it comes to? (No pun intended)

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I wouldn't be complaining if you could go at it for hours, that can be a side effect of the Cialis thatmany men actually enjoy. As for your partner, has she spoken to her doctor about specialist creams that are applied intenally which should certainly help you both. Women do not need to suffer during the menopause nowadays. Hope you can continue to enjoy a healthy sex life for many years.

Jeffs362 said:

Divorced male here. 52 years old, so just entering the ‘older’ phase of my life. On anti-depressants and BP meds (but I am HWP) so I take Cialis. No problems getting it up. But it is a bitch to get off. Just can’t come. Is this the new normal?

I don’t date younger women, in fact I date one gal who is my age. She has issues with dry vagina and thin tissues. Guess this is what it comes to? (No pun intended)

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You're joking? t makes no logical sense. If you are on sex forums you must have a horn.

I'm sixty with some health issues but do as my doctor tells me. I'm reasonably fit and still randy as hell.

My erections aren't as hard and sometimes don't last long enough. Sometimes I cum too quickly but there are other ways of getting my partner to orgasm. It doesn't matter I don't shot as much sperm when I ejaculate - this pleases my wife.

We have great sex and still able to have time to enjoy swapping with our swap couples very often. It is all taken at a leisurely pace. In truth, sex hasn't been better just a little slower.