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ninetiesbaby

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Hi there, I don't know if there was a similar thread/board to this. But I was looking any advice for a female virgin. I'm 24 years old female. I'm currently dating a guy for a few months, but we've known each other since freshman year in high school. We're both interested in getting to know each other sexually. He's not a virgin, but I am the virgin in question. I'm shy and unsure how to start. I'm afraid I will be too awkward, too scared that it will hurt, and make the experience suck. I'm sure the first time might not be the best but any advice?
 
One of the inmates in Orange is the New Black tells her son to lose his virginity to somebody that does not matter to him. That way when the right one comes along he will have game.

You asked about stories last year and now you are asking for Dr. Phil. What gives?
 
Ninetiesbaby,

Let me suggest you post the same question on a new thread in the 'how to' forum. Here on the General Board there's gonna be a whole lot of humorous playing around with this theme and it may not be what you are looking for. In 'how to' people will give you a very different set of responses.

But mine here while I'm on: Talk if you can with a good girlfriend of yours who is sexually active, about her first time. Talk to this young man too. If he cares for you, and has some experience himself, he will take care of you through this and make it supremely special. Hey girl, relax. Sex with a man you like a lot is gonna be delicious. You'll see. Take care, gorgeous. :)
 
Rainshine said:
Virgins. Crappy advice you can get for free wherever you turn.
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Pete's Advice to Virgins

1) Put the fone down. Yes, that means taking the ear buds out.

2) Dirty socks are only cool in porn.

3) Males should conserve their seed.
 
I'm going to make some assumptions here - including that your post and you is legit. At 24 years old, a member of a sex story/porn site, someone who has been involved in chat and taken the bdsm test that you have masturbated and hopefully, to orgasm. If you no longer have your hymen intact and have used insertable toys then most of your discomfort and anxiety is going to be sourced from first time participation in the sex act itself. If you do have your hymen intact and have not played with insertables, then you will have the additional concern of potential pain from the first time.

You've got a man that cares for you so that's a good thing. Your best best is to be honest with him. Tell him you're nervous, communicate when he does sexual things you like, and don't be afraid to tell him "a little bit to the left please" if need be. Guys like and appreciate the feedback. Most of them, the good ones at least, honestly care about if you are enjoying yourself.

Try not to put too much pressure on yourself.

I would encourage you to approach it with the mindset of exploring, having some fun and using it as an opportunity to get to know him and yourself better. He knows you're a virgin - I am assuming you have told him (and if not then you need to so he knows) - so he should know you will require a bit of extra care for your first time out.

Please do make sure he uses protection.

For the physical side of things, if you allow yourself to relax and enjoy it, give him honest feedback then you should be aroused so that you are lubricated enough that the discomfort should be minimized. Don't let him go in dry. That will lead to an unhappy experience for you.

We build sex up in our minds - and you've waited a long time - but the first time may be not be the greatest thing. It happens. First time you rode a bicycle I'm sure you fell and it wasn't the most fun. But after you got the hang of it, you had some fun with it. Sex isn't all that different really.
 
adrina said:
I'm going to make some assumptions here - including that your post and you is legit. At 24 years old, a member of a sex story/porn site, someone who has been involved in chat and taken the bdsm test that you have masturbated and hopefully, to orgasm. If you no longer have your hymen intact and have used insertable toys then most of your discomfort and anxiety is going to be sourced from first time participation in the sex act itself. If you do have your hymen intact and have not played with insertables, then you will have the additional concern of potential pain from the first time.

You've got a man that cares for you so that's a good thing. Your best best is to be honest with him. Tell him you're nervous, communicate when he does sexual things you like, and don't be afraid to tell him "a little bit to the left please" if need be. Guys like and appreciate the feedback. Most of them, the good ones at least, honestly care about if you are enjoying yourself.

Try not to put too much pressure on yourself.

I would encourage you to approach it with the mindset of exploring, having some fun and using it as an opportunity to get to know him and yourself better. He knows you're a virgin - I am assuming you have told him (and if not then you need to so he knows) - so he should know you will require a bit of extra care for your first time out.

Please do make sure he uses protection.

For the physical side of things, if you allow yourself to relax and enjoy it, give him honest feedback then you should be aroused so that you are lubricated enough that the discomfort should be minimized. Don't let him go in dry. That will lead to an unhappy experience for you.

We build sex up in our minds - and you've waited a long time - but the first time may be not be the greatest thing. It happens. First time you rode a bicycle I'm sure you fell and it wasn't the most fun. But after you got the hang of it, you had some fun with it. Sex isn't all that different really.
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Good advice!
 
ninetiesbaby said:
Hi there, I don't know if there was a similar thread/board to this. But I was looking any advice for a female virgin. I'm 24 years old female. I'm currently dating a guy for a few months, but we've known each other since freshman year in high school. We're both interested in getting to know each other sexually. He's not a virgin, but I am the virgin in question. I'm shy and unsure how to start. I'm afraid I will be too awkward, too scared that it will hurt, and make the experience suck. I'm sure the first time might not be the best but any advice?
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Stop pretending to be a girl online.
 
Saint Peter said:
One of the inmates in Orange is the New Black tells her son to lose his virginity to somebody that does not matter to him. That way when the right one comes along he will have game.

You asked about stories last year and now you are asking for Dr. Phil. What gives?
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Dr. Phil would pop that cherry in a New York minute.
 
ninetiesbaby said:
Hi there, I don't know if there was a similar thread/board to this. But I was looking any advice for a female virgin. I'm 24 years old female. I'm currently dating a guy for a few months, but we've known each other since freshman year in high school. We're both interested in getting to know each other sexually. He's not a virgin, but I am the virgin in question. I'm shy and unsure how to start. I'm afraid I will be too awkward, too scared that it will hurt, and make the experience suck. I'm sure the first time might not be the best but any advice?
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If you were really in to this fellow, you'd have let him pop your cherry six years ago.

I say break up with him, and find a man who actually turns you on.

You're welcome. :)
 
ninetiesbaby said:
Hi there, I don't know if there was a similar thread/board to this. But I was looking any advice for a female virgin. I'm 24 years old female. I'm currently dating a guy for a few months, but we've known each other since freshman year in high school. We're both interested in getting to know each other sexually. He's not a virgin, but I am the virgin in question. I'm shy and unsure how to start. I'm afraid I will be too awkward, too scared that it will hurt, and make the experience suck. I'm sure the first time might not be the best but any advice?
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Hold an aspirin between your knees until you're old enough to understand and accept the responsibility for the possible consequences of doing so.
 
Don't let the pervert anywhere near you. If he wants sex he can marry you first.
You held out this long, Don't let the bum talk you into this crap.
As soon as you have sex with him no other man will want to touch you.
 
Thanks for the advice

My bad for posting in the wrong board. I appreciate all the helpful advice though. Thank you.

I'm not looking to sell my virginity.

I know it's kinda sad that I'm seeking online crappy advice. But I'm from a conservative religious family, so asking my mom for advice is out of the question. She had an arranged marriage with my dad. My sister's first boyfriend had to get engaged with her in order to date her. My friends are also similarly from religious backgrounds and also virgins but unlike me they're waiting to get married to have sex. I don't want to get married just to have sex.

So wading through online trolls and helpful comments are all I've got.

Thanks again, enjoy the rest of your day.
 
ninetiesbaby said:
My bad for posting in the wrong board. I appreciate all the helpful advice though. Thank you.

I'm not looking to sell my virginity.

I know it's kinda sad that I'm seeking online crappy advice. But I'm from a conservative religious family, so asking my mom for advice is out of the question. She had an arranged marriage with my dad. My sister's first boyfriend had to get engaged with her in order to date her. My friends are also similarly from religious backgrounds and also virgins but unlike me they're waiting to get married to have sex. I don't want to get married just to have sex.

So wading through online trolls and helpful comments are all I've got.

Thanks again, enjoy the rest of your day.
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It is unusual to find a young lady nowadays who wants to preserve her virginity. But I can understand why there are ways and means.

What you have is very very precious, and the first time when your hymen is broken is a very special experience, I have broken a few, and have always found them great full, and wanting more. As to how it feels, you must find out from another girl who has. I can only say that the lucky male should be careful, understanding and not go at it like a bull in a china shop:)
 
Virginty

ninetiesbaby said:
My bad for posting in the wrong board. I appreciate all the helpful advice though. Thank you.

I'm not looking to sell my virginity.

I know it's kinda sad that I'm seeking online crappy advice. But I'm from a conservative religious family, so asking my mom for advice is out of the question. She had an arranged marriage with my dad. My sister's first boyfriend had to get engaged with her in order to date her. My friends are also similarly from religious backgrounds and also virgins but unlike me they're waiting to get married to have sex. I don't want to get married just to have sex.

So wading through online trolls and helpful comments are all I've got.

Thanks again, enjoy the rest of your day.
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It is unusual to find a young lady nowadays who wants to preserve her virginity. But I can understand why there are ways and means.

What you have is very very precious, and the first time when your hymen is broken is a very special experience, I have broken a few, and have always found them great full, and wanting more. As to how it feels, you must find out from another girl who has. I can only say that the lucky male should be careful, understanding and not go at it like a bull in a china shop:)
 
people have been losing their virginity
for almost 2 decades now....
and whilst still a once in a lifetime experience...
few have died in the process...
some have experienced a few precious moments of pain...
a woman in iowa found jesus embedded in the paint swirls of her uncle's bedroom ceiling...
and
almost 99.892% of the de-virginated returned to active copulation
within minutes - hours - days...

your story is captivating
especially in these parts
but it is not an especially unique one...

saint peter, it is told, was a virgin once...

so was mary...
see where it got both of them?
 
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