So I was thinking the other day and found it particularly interesting how some actions can very easily be made into either a dominant act or a submissive act, simply depending on the mindset and attitude you approach it from.
For example, if a dom bathes his sub, he is doing it as an act of control, taking away her power to do it herself and she is submitting by letting him wash her. If a dom orders his sub to bathe him, he is still in control, she is serving him by doing this task for him and so she is still submitting by washing him. When he does it to her, he is stripping her of the freedom to do it herself, and when she does it to him, she is shouldering the burden of this chore in order to please him. The exact same action can hold these opposite aspects simply by changing the way you look at it.
It got me wondering, does everything work this way? Can any action become either dominant or submissive, depending entirely on the psychological approach to the action, or are there some things which are irrevocably one or the other?
For example, how would a sub need to think about it in order to make the seemingly inherently dominant act of facesitting into an act of submission? Would the mere fact that she was ordered to do it by her dom be enough to strip her of the sense of power and control that this action usually grants and instead replace it with a feeling of surrender?
What do you think?
For example, if a dom bathes his sub, he is doing it as an act of control, taking away her power to do it herself and she is submitting by letting him wash her. If a dom orders his sub to bathe him, he is still in control, she is serving him by doing this task for him and so she is still submitting by washing him. When he does it to her, he is stripping her of the freedom to do it herself, and when she does it to him, she is shouldering the burden of this chore in order to please him. The exact same action can hold these opposite aspects simply by changing the way you look at it.
It got me wondering, does everything work this way? Can any action become either dominant or submissive, depending entirely on the psychological approach to the action, or are there some things which are irrevocably one or the other?
For example, how would a sub need to think about it in order to make the seemingly inherently dominant act of facesitting into an act of submission? Would the mere fact that she was ordered to do it by her dom be enough to strip her of the sense of power and control that this action usually grants and instead replace it with a feeling of surrender?
What do you think?
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