How to give a hand job?

gmenn said:

Google "klixen handjob"

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Thanks!

Jada59 said:

The funny thing about this stupid video (and it was just words on the screen but no pics) was this woman claimed she had gone out with "Brian". She liked Brian and wanted him to be her boyfriend but she didn't want him to think that she was a slut so she told him that she would give him a hand job rather than sleep with him. Funnier still was that this hand job took place in Brian's .......



....I don't know about the TV stuff. I quit watching TV some time ago so I guess I am rather out of the loop there. I just see this as something that attempts to play on the fears of women. Most likely younger ones who haven't been with many men.

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Nobody will ever give me $37 for this 2nd hand (oooh a pun) information but here goes:

I’ve heard that if you place one hand on his member, then put his hand over yours and ask him to show you his rythem, a happy ending is assured.

But for practical advice, if you wear rings, take them all off first if you expect prolonged contact

Gamine67 said:

Nobody will ever give me $37 for this 2nd hand (oooh a pun) information but here goes:

I’ve heard that if you place one hand on his member, then put his hand over yours and ask him to show you his rythem, a happy ending is assured.

But for practical advice, if you wear rings, take them all off first if you expect prolonged contact

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Yeah. I have done that sometimes. Didn't think about the rings. Thanks!

You do need to be careful with an uncut one. There is a very delicate bit of skin that can get damaged if treated too vigorously. I speak from experience. Yes, pull it up and down, revealed and covered, that feels good, but gently please.

IntactDick said:

You do need to be careful with an uncut one. There is a very delicate bit of skin that can get damaged if treated too vigorously. I speak from experience. Yes, pull it up and down, revealed and covered, that feels good, but gently please.

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I have yet to experience one of those but thanks for the advice!

Jada59 said:

Do they even make that stuff any more? When I acted on stage, we used Crisco for makeup remover. A big tub of that was far less expensive than cold cream. Hell on skin though. I'd always break out from it, no matter what I used afterwards to wash it off with.

I personally love coconut oil if I need lube. Any excess is absorbed right into the skin.

But is it true that lube will make the guy cum really fast? Somebody told me this. I suppose that could vary from person to person.

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It makes me cum really fast. If I last a long time, my wife will get some lube and Its over very quickly.

Erosfan said:

It makes me cum really fast. If I last a long time, my wife will get some lube and Its over very quickly.

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Watch him first.

I am assuming that men pleasure themselves differently. Some, like me, spend more time on the head than stroking the shaft. Stroke to get precum flowing, then put it to use on the head. A bit of saliva helps. Lube works too but at least for me not necessary.
Watch him and follow his lead.
Watch hand job videos. Maybe try some restraints. Tie his wrists to his body and go for it. Feel him getting close and STOP. Swirl some precum around the head. Smile at him and let him know that he will cum when you are ready for him to cum. Climb on him and treat him to a pussy slide. Be mindful of his level of arousal level and don’t go too far. Maybe climb up and plant some pussy on his face.
Take your time and let him rest while you tease him with a finger and a little more precum.
Now remember many if not all men become intensely sensitive when and after ejaculating. Be gentle but continue to stroke his shaft and every other stroke his glans. Watch some “ruined orgasm” videos and you will get the idea. Then when he is really begging you to stop, clean mb up on him and fuck him like you really mean it. He might just cum again.

Jada59 said:

I just got something in my email. Clearly they are trying to sell me something that I won't be buying but the woman in the video is claiming that men can't stand for us to give them hand jobs because we don't know how to do them. She claims that they are painful for them to receive and that they will put up with the pain then lie to us and say that we did a good job.

Mainly she is droning on using fancy terms for different ways to stroke them. And of course we would have to purchase something to learn about the sock technique or the twister. So... Guys?

Is it true? Most women haven't a clue? If so, what we doing wrong? And what should we be doing?

In thinking about, most of the men I've been with did not seem to want a hand job, and if I did give them one, they rushed me through it and had me do the opposite of what I wanted to do. I wanted to just slow down and explore them to see what felt good.

Instead, they would sort of grab my hand, force me to grip their cock really hard. No lube. And then they just wanted me to squeeze hard and rub my hand up and down the shaft really quickly and make them cum as quickly a I could. Frankly that wasn't very enjoyable for me and it didn't seem enjoyable for them. But they did seem to be relieved when it was over.

Ack! I have to shut off this video. $37. Nope. And she seems to be spewing lies with her "Stroke of Genius". Ha! Nope. I'll just ask here.

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Okay, I admit that “Stroke of Genius” raised a smile

I can guess what the Sock and the Twister are going to be - the first sounds like two hands with fingers laced and cock between palms, and the second alternating hands twisting diagonally around the shaft (which does feel good but needs lube). But really, wouldn’t it be more fun to play for an afternoon and find what we both enjoy? Sure, I can show you how I do it, but actually I’m more interested in what you’d do. Not least because it may well feel better. And don’t forget how much any guy loves to see your hand touching his cock - it’s visual stimulation too.

Handjobs can be anything, from a quick way to please your partner in the morning when you have no time for more, via role play and dress-up all the way to a dominatrix with a leather glove teasing some poor guy with orgasm denial. As vanilla or as dark as you like. But, personally, I doubt any guy’s cock has ever twitched with excitement at the words “Honey, I’m going to give you the sock tonight.” Dress up as a nurse with a nice big pot of lube, on the other hand, and I’m putty in your hands. Stiff putty, but putty nevertheless.

Enthusiasm is the key. Show him how much you’re enjoying it and he will enjoy it even more. Same with blow jobs.

Trigger_Warning said:

Enthusiasm is the key. Show him how much you’re enjoying it and he will enjoy it even more. Same with blow jobs.

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Hand jobs

Jada,

It will vary with the man. Hopefully, he will be open to you asking what he likes and honest in his response. For me, I have always liked a light, slow touch with lube that gradually becomes faster and a little firmer, but never a tight grip. Obviously, that is different from most of the other people who have responded. I am the same way with oral sex.

Bigspurt said:

I am assuming that men pleasure themselves differently. Some, like me, spend more time on the head than stroking the shaft. Stroke to get precum flowing, then put it to use on the head. A bit of saliva helps. Lube works too but at least for me not necessary.
Watch him and follow his lead.
Watch hand job videos. Maybe try some restraints. Tie his wrists to his body and go for it. Feel him getting close and STOP. Swirl some precum around the head. Smile at him and let him know that he will cum when you are ready for him to cum. Climb on him and treat him to a pussy slide. Be mindful of his level of arousal level and don’t go too far. Maybe climb up and plant some pussy on his face.
Take your time and let him rest while you tease him with a finger and a little more precum.
Now remember many if not all men become intensely sensitive when and after ejaculating. Be gentle but continue to stroke his shaft and every other stroke his glans. Watch some “ruined orgasm” videos and you will get the idea. Then when he is really begging you to stop, clean mb up on him and fuck him like you really mean it. He might just cum again.

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Oooh! You know what I like to do!

bill4672a said:

Jada,

It will vary with the man. Hopefully, he will be open to you asking what he likes and honest in his response. For me, I have always liked a light, slow touch with lube that gradually becomes faster and a little firmer, but never a tight grip. Obviously, that is different from most of the other people who have responded. I am the same way with oral sex.

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What the heck did she do to him?

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Well, so much can go wrong, but hard, dry rubbing on delicate skin could be an answer.

If she was really rough, she maybe tore his penile frenulum?

Jada59 said:

Is it true? Most women haven't a clue? If so, what we doing wrong? And what should we be doing?

In thinking about, most of the men I've been with did not seem to want a hand job, and if I did give them one, they rushed me through it and had me do the opposite of what I wanted to do. I wanted to just slow down and explore them to see what felt good.

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I don't have a video to sell you, but I would agree that most women have no idea what they're doing when they give a guy a handjob. Rather unwittingly, you revealed part of the reason why in your next paragraph when you say, "I wanted to just slow down and . . ."

I would suggest most guys don't know how to finger a woman to an orgasm, either. Not to a really good, toe-curling orgasm and for similar reasons, they go at it from the point of view of what they want to do.

Think about it like this, when you're giving a guy a handjob or fingering a girl, you're basically masturbating them to an orgasm. Problem is, when you do-it-yourself, you make all the subtle little adjustments you need as you go along. You need more pressure? It's there. Need it faster? Slower? In circles? Up and down? You adjust.

Now try doing that to me. Go ahead. Read my mind. Guess the subtle little change I need to make it better, I dare you!

No, it's not that big of a mystery. Mistake #1 most people make would be forgetting that it's not as much about the technique of how their hand is moving as much as it is about what else is happening, too. Are you kissing, too? Whispering sweet, sexy nothings in their ear at the same time? Is everyone in a comfortable position? Are you paying attention to how they moaned when you started to go faster or slower?

I remember Mrs. Duckman trying to give me handjob one night. I told her, "I like lots of lotion. The slippery, the better." For whatever reason, she decided when enough lotion was enough. When I said, "More lotion," she refused.

"It's too messy!"

Guess who didn't get off that night? No, I wasn't pouting or holding out on her. It's just that "her" technique wasn't doing it for me and she didn't want to adjust to MY needs.

Imagine someone fingering your clit and they insist on pressing too hard, or, they really like to move up and down when you prefer it side-to-side. Or, you're riding that swelling wave towards a wonderful orgasm, you're nearly cresting, you're almost there, and they decide to change their stroke! Maybe they accidentally make a good choice, but more than likely, your wave crashes without cresting and you're back to trying to find your thrill with the new stroke. The same thing applies to guys, too.

Best advice? Watch him do it, several times. Kiss him while he does it. Play with his balls as he does it. Participate until you get a good feel for how he likes it. That's how I learned that Mrs. Duckman really likes it if you grab her left nipple in a very specific way just as she reaches her peak. Get her close, keep her on the edge, then grab that nipple just so and you'll send her into orgasmic heaven.

I have always preferred hand jobs over blow jobs. Something about watching that hand stroke me.... dang. I’ve had a guy do it once and I liked it, but having a woman do it ... holy cow...

And feel free to help her. Her hand on my cock with my hand on hers is such the turn on

The very best way to give a handjob is with your mouth. You can optionally use your hands in concert with your mouth or go ahead and give a hands-free mouth-only handjob .

Think of it like a handshake, but with your mouth.

BuckyDuckman said:

I don't have a video to sell you, but I would agree that most women have no idea what they're doing when they give a guy a handjob. Rather unwittingly, you revealed part of the reason why in your next paragraph when you say, "I wanted to just slow down and . . ."

I would suggest most guys don't know how to finger a woman to an orgasm, either. Not to a really good, toe-curling orgasm and for similar reasons, they go at it from the point of view of what they want to do.

Think about it like this, when you're giving a guy a handjob or fingering a girl, you're basically masturbating them to an orgasm. Problem is, when you do-it-yourself, you make all the subtle little adjustments you need as you go along. You need more pressure? It's there. Need it faster? Slower? In circles? Up and down? You adjust.

Now try doing that to me. Go ahead. Read my mind. Guess the subtle little change I need to make it better, I dare you!

No, it's not that big of a mystery. Mistake #1 most people make would be forgetting that it's not as much about the technique of how their hand is moving as much as it is about what else is happening, too. Are you kissing, too? Whispering sweet, sexy nothings in their ear at the same time? Is everyone in a comfortable position? Are you paying attention to how they moaned when you started to go faster or slower?

I remember Mrs. Duckman trying to give me handjob one night. I told her, "I like lots of lotion. The slippery, the better." For whatever reason, she decided when enough lotion was enough. When I said, "More lotion," she refused.

"It's too messy!"

Guess who didn't get off that night? No, I wasn't pouting or holding out on her. It's just that "her" technique wasn't doing it for me and she didn't want to adjust to MY needs.

Imagine someone fingering your clit and they insist on pressing too hard, or, they really like to move up and down when you prefer it side-to-side. Or, you're riding that swelling wave towards a wonderful orgasm, you're nearly cresting, you're almost there, and they decide to change their stroke! Maybe they accidentally make a good choice, but more than likely, your wave crashes without cresting and you're back to trying to find your thrill with the new stroke. The same thing applies to guys, too.

Best advice? Watch him do it, several times. Kiss him while he does it. Play with his balls as he does it. Participate until you get a good feel for how he likes it. That's how I learned that Mrs. Duckman really likes it if you grab her left nipple in a very specific way just as she reaches her peak. Get her close, keep her on the edge, then grab that nipple just so and you'll send her into orgasmic heaven.

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On a serious note this is absolute gold above. Both in what to do and why. I don't think you said so explicitly but it's going to vary in what technique is used full based on The Edge individual guy. Something that you learn with one isn't going to be that useful with the next. Exactly the same as it is with women.

That said there is nothing wrong with foreplay and exploring and seeing what sort of responses you get to whatever idea you have with your partner and playing with them and their bits. Just don't assume that it's going to be a hand job to completion if you want to do it in your time with some nice smooth gentle sensual teasing. Call it hand teasing and not a hand job and you might get him off just because Dick's are contrary that way.

A bit 9f a tangent, but bear with me:

I've told the story and the reasons why elsewhere and here but my ex-wife was the first blowjob that I got and the only source of blowjobs for nearly two decades. She's rather enthusiastic about them and her technique is a living breathing porn show.

The second girl I ever got a blowjob fom did it completely "wrong." I don't think I still have it but I actually videoed the moment. At the time I was very much in director mode and trying to get the angle correct and her technique "improved"

This was a pretty compliant girl and she had no objection whatsoever when I would reposition her face and stick my dick in her actual mouth and she would bob up and down obediently for a while but eventually she would pull it out and just start lapping at it like a cat at a bowl of milk. It really wouldn't have made any difference to her technique whether I had a cock lying flat against my belly or whether it was just a really giant clit it was basically the same technique. Nothing that even looked like a blowjob.

At some point when I had plenty of footage in the can as it were , and realized that I wasn't going to teach her proper technique and got out of my head and started paying attention to how her tongue actually felt on my cock I suddenly realize that her technique was freaking awesome. I was pretty sure that I knew what technique my dick needed but I was completely wrong. Turns out there's more than one way to skin a cat.

A guy if he is wanting to get off and you're sort of close but just not quite right is going to have more objections to your technique then he is if you are completely different than what he does when he does it himself. And it is seen as more of a Prelude to whatever is going to happen next and not the goal of getting them off. If your goal is to get him off as quickly as possible you're going to have to mimic his technique and more likely than not it's going to have to be fast.

There's an actual problem that happens with men called idiosyncratic masturbatory technique. I assume the same thing goes for women but I don't know. Basically what happens is you get used to jerking it off and it becomes hard to get off in normal sex because you can't rub your dick in a pussy as fast as you can jerk it yourself ...something about speed matters with handjobs.

Que said:

The very best way to give a handjob is with your mouth. You can optionally use your hands in concert with your mouth or go ahead and give a hands-free mouth-only handjob .

Think of it like a handshake, but with your mouth.

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Ok, that cracked me up.
Carry on!

If you look at the vast majority of porn where the guy cums on a woman's mouth/face/breasts, how does it happen?

You'd think the guy would have the lady do it, but instead, the vast majority of time the guy has the lady pull her mouth away, and he strokes like crazy.

So that should tell you a lot. When it's time to cum, it needs to be held with a firm grip (not too painful) and stroked rapidly.

Prior to that, it needs a firm grip and stroked lovingly.

If you pull too much in either direction, it can hurt.

Personally, I think handjobs are underrated because I love the feeling of a woman's soft hands.

But a lot of women don't squeeze or stroke hard enough (hence what I mentioned about porn, where guys stroke themselves to cum)

A hand job can be wonderful

I was the recipient of a wonderful hand job while at university

Yes, 'K' used her mouth too. While she did lick and suck on my cock, she mostly used her mouth to tell me all sorts of things. Her sexual past, prior lovers, her attraction for me and how she was going to do me.

All the while, her entire being was fully focused on me. In my opinion, why a hand job can be so incredible. Even while my member was being stroked and teased, Ms K was fully engaged with me

I'm now a mature man and i still look back fondly at our evening together as being epic

Ms Jada59, I don't think you need to throw your money away on a video / CD. Just a little practice and a few hours to idle away

Let me know how I can help . . .

Jada, you dirty girl. I do love your threads!

Don't over-think this. Enjoy yourself, it will come naturally with a little "handling" experience.