How to ask Mom if I can fap in her room?

sffewfeferf

PineappleKevin said:

Do you think this is ok? Do you think my Mom would understand my fetish? I would tell her that I'm not sexually attracted to her. I don't want to freak her out or anything.

Click to expand...

Talk to her. In big, wide ranging circles so you can spot any verbal or visual clues that say, "No darling, that's not a very good idea," and run the fuck away before anything really dumb happens.

Also, maybe stop pretending you're not turned on by her. The clue here is you want to masturbate in her room, with her there - just pointing that out.

But she already sounds pretty cool about the fruit of her loins doing what he has to do.

The worst or best that can happen is she says 'yes' or 'no' - you need to establish your own sliding scale.

The best or worst that can happen is you get to fuck mom, or a hand job. Again, you need to establish your sliding scale of consequences and overall sensibility.

Or, go read some Romance instead of Incest for a change, and buy her some flowers. That's probably a better idea. She's your mom, for fuck's sake, flowers are nice.

electricblue66 said:

Talk to her. In big, wide ranging circles so you can spot any verbal or visual clues that say, "No darling, that's not a very good idea," and run the fuck away before anything really dumb happens.

Also, maybe stop pretending you're not turned on by her. The clue here is you want to masturbate in her room, with her there - just pointing that out.

But she already sounds pretty cool about the fruit of her loins doing what he has to do.

The worst or best that can happen is she says 'yes' or 'no' - you need to establish your own sliding scale.

The best or worst that can happen is you get to fuck mom, or a hand job. Again, you need to establish your sliding scale of consequences and overall sensibility.

Or, go read some Romance instead of Incest for a change, and buy her some flowers. That's probably a better idea. She's your mom, for fuck's sake, flowers are nice.

Click to expand...

I'm not turned on by her. I've never fantasized about her or anything. I just like the idea of masturbating while someone else was in the room. So it doesn't even have to be my Mom. Like even if it was my Mom's friend, then it would be cool too.

Being watched is one thing. Being watched by your mom is another. I should think that would easily fall under the category of incest.

Maybe instead, you should try doing it in your own bed with the window coverings open. Someone is bound to see you.

Jada59 said:

Being watched is one thing. Being watched by your mom is another. I should think that would easily fall under the category of incest.

Maybe instead, you should try doing it in your own bed with the window coverings open. Someone is bound to see you.

Click to expand...

Yeah technically it does fall under the category of incest, but is it really that bad? I'm not thinking of my mom naked or anything. And I don't even want her to look at me.

Plus it already has happened before. I have done it while she was in the same room. So its not like I want to try something new that hasn't happened before. It was incidental then. The only difference this time is that I want to ask her if I can do it.

Do you really think this is crossing the line of incest? I don't want to cross that line because once you do, you cannot go back.

Being a mother can at times be a thankless calling, full of sacrifices and unconditional love.

There is the North American Gray Partridge for instance, which can lay a clutch of eggs numbering in the high teens to low twenties.
Not even a Mother’s Day card.

The noble salmon, struggling upstream against current and magnificent odds, knowing certain death awaits. Her final act of love, performed while her flesh, ravaged by her perilous journey and falling away, attracting hungry predators from sky and shore, is depositing eggs for some rando salmon fella to spunk on. Exhausted and wasted from this ultimate sacrifice, she perishes and never gets to see her fry become parr, or go to school.

Now too, consider the weight of the cross beared by the unfortunate woman referenced in the OP, mother of the inconsiderate pineapple, who finds herself unwillingly exposed to the ham-fisting fantasies and kinks of her indelicate adult child.

Motherhood, truly the hardest job in the universe.

Wow that was pretty harsh. That's the reason why even I want to ask her in the first place. If she's not comfortable with it, then I'll never bring it up again. Seriously why am I being defamed her?

PineappleKevin said:

Wow that was pretty harsh. That's the reason why even I want to ask her in the first place. If she's not comfortable with it, then I'll never bring it up again. Seriously why am I being defamed her?

Click to expand...

you said: "I once even masturbated while we were in the same room. We were on vacation and were sleeping on the same bed. Late at night I started watching porn the laptop and was masturbating. She noticed what I was doing and I told her '' Can you please turn the other way? I'm kinda busy here. ''. She just turned the other way and said '' Ughh alright do what you have to do. '' She wasn't uncomfortable or anything, she just left me to it."

My input as a mom of a 30 year old guy who would never attempt to masturbate in front of me out of respect for me as his mom..... Your mom tried to tell you she isn't comfortable with it. Sure, she is open with you as that is more normal these days.... but that does not mean she wants this from you. It does not mean she is OK with you going at in with her in the room or the bed. More likely she remembers being your age & recalls what it is like to need to get relief so she extends a measure of motherly tolerance.

I think this is what other people are trying to tell you. You are being disrespectful to your mom each & every time you do this. Why be so inconsiderate of your mom... who is clearly also providing a roof over your head despite your being over the age of 18.

If you want an audience, find a friend.

Adrraiya said:

you said: "I once even masturbated while we were in the same room. We were on vacation and were sleeping on the same bed. Late at night I started watching porn the laptop and was masturbating. She noticed what I was doing and I told her '' Can you please turn the other way? I'm kinda busy here. ''. She just turned the other way and said '' Ughh alright do what you have to do. '' She wasn't uncomfortable or anything, she just left me to it."

My input as a mom of a 30 year old guy who would never attempt to masturbate in front of me out of respect for me as his mom..... Your mom tried to tell you she isn't comfortable with it. Sure, she is open with you as that is more normal these days.... but that does not mean she wants this from you. It does not mean she is OK with you going at in with her in the room or the bed. More likely she remembers being your age & recalls what it is like to need to get relief so she extends a measure of motherly tolerance.

I think this is what other people are trying to tell you. You are being disrespectful to your mom each & every time you do this. Why be so inconsiderate of your mom... who is clearly also providing a roof over your head despite your being over the age of 18.

If you want an audience, find a friend.

Click to expand...

I agree its disrespectful to do it without her permission or if it makes her uncomfortable, which I why I don't want to do that. The last thing I want to do is spoil our relationship.

Also she wasn't uncomfortable during that vacation. I know this because it happened a second time during that vacation, where we both were in the room working on our own computers. I just went to another part of the room and started doing it while she was working on her computer. I didn't tell her I was doing it. Midway through, She just looked at me and laughed because she noticed what I was doing. So she thought the situation was funny.

So she's never been offended or uncomfortable. I'm only asking this question here to find out if she'll understand my behavior. She knows I have social anxiety issues so can't easily get a girlfriend and she knows I'm sexually frustrated.

PS, I added an extra paragraph to my original question as an update. Dunno if that info will be helpful or not.

PineappleKevin said:

Hi I'm a 23 year old guy. I live with my Mom. She's single and been divorced for 14 years.

Click to expand...

I remember having a 23-year-old lad living with me. Loved him dearly, still do, but it was a great day when he moved out and found his own place.

Before I proceed, I just want to make it clear that we do not have an incestuous relationship. We're not attracted to each other like that... I have this fetish, where I get turned on by the emotion of shame and humiliation. Like if someone were to see me completely naked and with my dick in my hand, it turns me on, because I know I'm in a vulnerable and exposed state.

Click to expand...

This is an incestuous relationship. You're using your mom for sexual gratification.

And, frankly, when an adult male is stroking his dick in the presence of a woman who hasn't invited that exhibition, it's NOT the guy who is in a "vulnerable state".

And I sometimes keep my room door wide open while I masturbate to porn. I masturbate while I'm completely naked. Sometimes my Mom happens to walk by and notices what I'm doing. She doesn't stop and stare though, she just notices me masturbating and just pays it no mind.

Click to expand...

No, you don't know that. There is a world of difference between "doesn't mind" and "doesn't visibly react".

So my Mom has seen me naked and masturbating. She's never really had any problem with it. She's never told me to shut my door or anything, but she's not sexually turned on by me either. She simply has no problem with it.

Click to expand...

Are you telepathic, or is this merely what you want to believe?

She thinks masturbation is healthy and its fine that I do it.

Click to expand...

Pooping is healthy and it's fine that everybody does it, but that doesn't mean I want people taking a shit in front of me.

I once even masturbated while we were in the same room. We were on vacation and were sleeping on the same bed. Late at night I started watching porn the laptop and was masturbating.

Click to expand...

She noticed what I was doing and I told her '' Can you please turn the other way? I'm kinda busy here. ''. She just turned the other way and said '' Ughh alright do what you have to do. '' She wasn't uncomfortable or anything, she just left me to it.

Click to expand...

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/ugh
ugh: used to indicate the sound of a cough or grunt or to express disgust or horror
http://www.dictionary.com/browse/ugh used as an exclamation expressing disgust, aversion, horror, or the like
https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/ugh
the written form of the sound people sometimes use to express a strong feeling of disgust at something very unpleasant
https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/ugh#dataset-british
used to express a strong feeling of disgust (= disapproval and dislike) at something very unpleasant

This is not a word that people use when they're comfortable with the situation.

Anyways off late I have considered asking my Mom if I could take my laptop to her room, and fap to some porn on it. She doesn't have to look at me. She doesn't even have to pretend like I'm there. She can just continue minding her own business. She works on the computer a lot. So I thought while she's working on the computer, I could just watch some porn on her bed.

Do you think this is ok?

Click to expand...

No.

Do you think my Mom would understand my fetish? I would tell her that I'm not sexually attracted to her. I don't want to freak her out or anything.

Click to expand...

Have you considered not inflicting your sex life on her?

[UPDATE: I forgot to say this. There was one time where I took one of my Mom's panties to my room and used it to get off. My mom came into my room the next day and found it. She just asked '' Why are my panties under your pillow? ''. I then lied and said it was my ex-girlfriend's panties. She didn't believe it though.

Click to expand...

Woman in "able to recognise her own underwear" shock.

The next day she asked me again '' Why were my panties under your pillow? Are you attracted to me? ''. She wasn't freaking out or anything, she just sounded casual and a perplexed. I said '' Noo! I just like panties in general because they turn me on. '' She said '' Oh ok haha, for a minute there I thought you had a thing for me. ''. So yeah my Mom was able to understand this and she wasn't freaked out by it. So would she be freaked out by my favor?]

Click to expand...

Where are you getting "wasn't freaked out" from?

Nothing about this situation is okay. Most likely scenario is that your mother is tolerating your behaviour because she's out of her depth and afraid of how you might react if she tells you to knock it off. Wanking in front of one's mother is so massively out of the norm that there's no social script for how to handle this.

Anxiety sucks and masturbation for sexual gratification is fine, but jerking off in front of people who haven't invited it is not okay.

Neat summary, love the run away quickly gif.

For the OP - Bramble's analytical breakdown is a more structured way of saying, "Buy her flowers, she's your mom."

I think the consensus from this thread is no. Close your door. If she's interested or wants to bring you a cup of tea, she'll knock.

This would be a lot easier to take if you wanted to fuck your mother. At least I can (almost) wrap my mind around that.

I know she doesn't have a problem with it, because she's never told me. We have a really open relationship and we talk about everything. If she was offended, she would have told me. We tell each other absolutely everything. Trust me when I say '' very open relationship ''. She's asked me questions about my penis, how much porn I watch, and she's made fun of the times she's seen me masturbating. She's not attracted to me, but she's really open about these sorts of things.

BTW I don't invite her into my room while I do it or anything like that, I just leave the door open whether she walks by or not. I don't even know if she's going to walk by. She sometimes sees me, and has no problem with it.

And also I don't want to do it in front of her. I'm just talking about doing it in the same room, even if its in two different parts of the room and neither of us are looking at each other.

And my mom is not afraid of '' How I might react. '' She's very upfront and direct and not afraid to give me a piece of her mind.

Also the reason I'm living with her is because I'm stuck in a rut at the moment (career wise). My mom knows about this and is supportive and we're trying to find a way to get myself out of the rut.

Bramblethorn said:

I remember having a 23-year-old lad living with me. Loved him dearly, still do, but it was a great day when he moved out and found his own place.



This is an incestuous relationship. You're using your mom for sexual gratification.

And, frankly, when an adult male is stroking his dick in the presence of a woman who hasn't invited that exhibition, it's NOT the guy who is in a "vulnerable state".



No, you don't know that. There is a world of difference between "doesn't mind" and "doesn't visibly react".



Are you telepathic, or is this merely what you want to believe?



Pooping is healthy and it's fine that everybody does it, but that doesn't mean I want people taking a shit in front of me.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/ugh
ugh: used to indicate the sound of a cough or grunt or to express disgust or horror
http://www.dictionary.com/browse/ugh used as an exclamation expressing disgust, aversion, horror, or the like
https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/ugh
the written form of the sound people sometimes use to express a strong feeling of disgust at something very unpleasant
https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/ugh#dataset-british
used to express a strong feeling of disgust (= disapproval and dislike) at something very unpleasant

This is not a word that people use when they're comfortable with the situation.



No.



Have you considered not inflicting your sex life on her?



Woman in "able to recognise her own underwear" shock.



Where are you getting "wasn't freaked out" from?

Nothing about this situation is okay. Most likely scenario is that your mother is tolerating your behaviour because she's out of her depth and afraid of how you might react if she tells you to knock it off. Wanking in front of one's mother is so massively out of the norm that there's no social script for how to handle this.

Anxiety sucks and masturbation for sexual gratification is fine, but jerking off in front of people who haven't invited it is not okay.

Click to expand...

I know she doesn't have a problem with it, because she's never told me. We have a really open relationship and we talk about everything. If she was offended, she would have told me. We tell each other absolutely everything. Trust me when I say '' very open relationship ''. She's asked me questions about my penis, how much porn I watch, and she's made fun of the times she's seen me masturbating. She's not attracted to me, but she's really open about these sorts of things.

BTW I don't invite her into my room while I do it or anything like that, I just leave the door open whether she walks by or not. I don't even know if she's going to walk by. She sometimes sees me, and has no problem with it.

And also I don't want to do it in front of her. I'm just talking about doing it in the same room, even if its in two different parts of the room and neither of us are looking at each other.

And my mom is not afraid of '' How I might react. '' She's very upfront and direct and not afraid to give me a piece of her mind.

And how am I doing it without her permission? This is the whole reason why I want to ask her in the first place. I've never gone into her room without her permission and done it.

Also the reason I'm living with her is because I'm stuck in a rut at the moment (career wise). My mom knows about this and is supportive and we're trying to find a way to get myself out of the rut.

indiesoul said:

THIS.

Click to expand...

Care to explain when exactly I did that? No really elaborate. Because in the vacation incident, I had done it only after she went to sleep. I had turned to my side of the bed was watching porn because I was horny. I didn't go in front of her and whip out my thing did I? She woke up herself minutes later. Now the fact that she woke up had turned me on, sure, but still I was just doing my own thing. And she was ok with it, because she later laughed about it. If she was offended, she would have slapped me the moment she found out.

So please tell me where exactly I went wrong?

PineappleKevin said:

Care to explain when exactly I did that? No really elaborate. Because in the vacation incident, I had done it only after she went to sleep. I had turned to my side of the bed was watching porn because I was horny. I didn't go in front of her and whip out my thing did I? She woke up herself minutes later. Now the fact that she woke up had turned me on, sure, but still I was just doing my own thing. And she was ok with it, because she later laughed about it. If she was offended, she would have slapped me the moment she found out.

So please tell me where exactly I went wrong?

Click to expand...

You should have gone into the bathroom.

twister947 said:

This would be a lot easier to take if you wanted to fuck your mother. At least I can (almost) wrap my mind around that.

Click to expand...

Wow that's weird. Because that's actually crossing the line. How does it matter what's going on in my head? All I want to do is politely ask her if I can masturbate in her room. If she says no, then I'll never bring it up again. If she says yeah, then woo hoo.

Honestly why are people having such a hard time with understanding this!? I'm not trying to disrespect my Mom in any way. My Mom knows I'm sexually frustrated because of all my issues and I was wondering if she'd understand that.

Jada59 said:

You should have gone into the bathroom.

Click to expand...

I can't take the laptop into the bathroom. And my Mom did not have any problems with the fact that I was masturbating on my side of the bed. She was cool with it. The fact that she turned away when I asked her to, simply indicates that she's not interested in me sexually. But she's comfortable enough to be in the same bed while I was doing it. So again I don't know what I did wrong.

Yeah maybe my relationship with my Mom is a little weird. We're more open than most mothers and sons. She's often asked me '' How big is your penis when its erect? ''. Not in a sexual way, she's just curious. But that's not a question that most Mothers would ask their sons in a such a casual way. We're just a little weird like that. But she's never once told me that my behavior was inappropriate. She once even walked into my room while I was masturbating and said '' Don't do this now because I have a friend coming over to the house. ''.

PineappleKevin said:

Also the reason I'm living with her is because I'm stuck in a rut at the moment (career wise). My mom knows about this and is supportive and we're trying to find a way to get myself out of the rut.

Click to expand...

Your career rut, did it come about from polishing the ol’ dolphin at work?

I’m sure you didn’t invite anyone into your cubicle or anything, just sat at your desk with the door open, tugging your twig and berries. Plus, it was during your lunch break.

I know you know everyone was cool with it, because most everyone who looked in didn’t say anything.

Even H/R had no problem, right? They asked you about the frequency you’ve been pounding the peni at the office, and about the weird browser history on your computer, but they were totally cool with it, yes?

another thread along the same lines?

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1474572

PineappleKevin said:

Wow that's weird. Because that's actually crossing the line. How does it matter what's going on in my head? All I want to do is politely ask her if I can masturbate in her room. If she says no, then I'll never bring it up again. If she says yeah, then woo hoo.

Honestly why are people having such a hard time with understanding this!? I'm not trying to disrespect my Mom in any way. My Mom knows I'm sexually frustrated because of all my issues and I was wondering if she'd understand that.

Click to expand...

I’m still getting caught up with all your incestuous flapdoodles here, and just I wanted to check - did you mean to type ‘tissues’ here?

Preview of page 7 of this thread:

Kevin: "Is it technically considered incest if I want to have sex with my mother, but I want to only because she is a conventionally attractive woman, and not because she is my mother? That means it's totally ok, right? If I ask her politely, then it's fine, yes?"

PineappleKevin said:

I know she doesn't have a problem with it, because she's never told me. We have a really open relationship and we talk about everything. If she was offended, she would have told me. We tell each other absolutely everything. Trust me when I say '' very open relationship ''. She's asked me questions about my penis, how much porn I watch, and she's made fun of the times she's seen me masturbating. She's not attracted to me, but she's really open about these sorts of things.

BTW I don't invite her into my room while I do it or anything like that, I just leave the door open whether she walks by or not. I don't even know if she's going to walk by. She sometimes sees me, and has no problem with it.

And also I don't want to do it in front of her. I'm just talking about doing it in the same room, even if its in two different parts of the room and neither of us are looking at each other.

And my mom is not afraid of '' How I might react. '' She's very upfront and direct and not afraid to give me a piece of her mind.

And how am I doing it without her permission? This is the whole reason why I want to ask her in the first place. I've never gone into her room without her permission and done it.

Also the reason I'm living with her is because I'm stuck in a rut at the moment (career wise). My mom knows about this and is supportive and we're trying to find a way to get myself out of the rut.

Click to expand...

PineappleKevin said:

Wow that's weird. Because that's actually crossing the line. How does it matter what's going on in my head? All I want to do is politely ask her if I can masturbate in her room. If she says no, then I'll never bring it up again. If she says yeah, then woo hoo.

Honestly why are people having such a hard time with understanding this!? I'm not trying to disrespect my Mom in any way. My Mom knows I'm sexually frustrated because of all my issues and I was wondering if she'd understand that.

Click to expand...

This here is why your wee porkies have more holes than your most treasured wank sock.

PineappleKevin said:

I can't take the laptop into the bathroom. And my Mom did not have any problems with the fact that I was masturbating on my side of the bed. She was cool with it. The fact that she turned away when I asked her to, simply indicates that she's not interested in me sexually. But she's comfortable enough to be in the same bed while I was doing it. So again I don't know what I did wrong.

Yeah maybe my relationship with my Mom is a little weird. We're more open than most mothers and sons. She's often asked me '' How big is your penis when its erect? ''. Not in a sexual way, she's just curious. But that's not a question that most Mothers would ask their sons in a such a casual way. We're just a little weird like that. But she's never once told me that my behavior was inappropriate. She once even walked into my room while I was masturbating and said '' Don't do this now because I have a friend coming over to the house. ''.

Click to expand...

Normal people wouldn't ask about your cock size. I don't care who they are. They also wouldn't walk into your room while you were masturbating. If they were bothered by it they would likely knock on the door and tell you to be more quiet. Sounds like you live in a dream world!

indiesoul said:

If any of this is true, your mom is the vulnerable victim here. When you are presented with reasons why this is not okay, you are justifiying it, adding information and victim blaming to convince yourself that this kind of abuse was okay.

Sleep in your own bed. Shut the door. Leave your mom alone.

Click to expand...

If my Mom had a problem with what happened during that vacation, don't you think she would have told me? Don't you think she would have told me to go and do it in the bathroom?

My Mom's not afraid of me in any way. She's always spoken in her mind and we've been in several fights before.