Originally Posted by TabuPrincess
The question popped into my head recently. Would you rather have an intense soul shattering one time casual sexual experience, or consistently good sex in a long term relationship?
That is a great question. I would like both as well. I think the casual experience could be something that happened with a good friend. It tells you a bit about yourself if you are able to have that kind of experience in a one time casual setting. To me, it means I was able to fully relax, enjoy myself, and trust my partner. If that is true, then for it to happen again that is the recipe for me. I need a partner I am very comfortable with and trust. Regular and consistently good sex in a long term relationship is much easier with the right partner too.
So if I had such a good time with someone in a one time casual experience, I would try to find out why and maybe consider spending more time with that partner. It may lead to having both of the above.