Deep and consistently , I can't climax if my partner isn't being consistent
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Deep and consistently , I can't climax if my partner isn't being consistent
That sounds really nice.. tender, slow, teasing, prolonging, never eneding.....
Not really a fan. I always think it will be a good idea but feel uncomfortable when it happens. I would rather be in a position of submission. I feel like I should want it.. but I've had it done like 3 times in the past year and I do not care. I would much rather suck his cock.
It's not that I don't like it- it just brings up bad feelings, I guess, now that I think of it. A few things:You are the first woman I've heard of that didn't like it at all. Maybe you haven't had the right person lick it the way it should be licked? But then again maybe it's just not your thing. I don't think you will have many men that would complain that you would rather suck his cock.
It's not that I don't like it- it just brings up bad feelings, I guess, now that I think of it. A few things:
1) it feels good but I feel guilty for something being all about me and it makes me feel self conscious, uncomfortable, and feel pressure to finish quickly which then stresses me out and it doesn't work at all. SO I avoid it for that.
2) It took a while to even really let my husband do it in the first place because I had 2 people do it before which were bad experiences. First was a girl when I was 12 (she was a few years older) who I had an affair with. I experimented with her once and she blackmailed me to continue. I did not enjoy it and I am not really attracted to girls so I felt very awkward. I told her I didn't want this done but she wanted to and insisted.. The other was the first guy I slept with and he treated me awful and would never listen to no. When he went down on me, it wasn't for my pleasure- it was a method of control. He would lick right on the most sensitive part before I could even have a chance to get aroused. I would tell him it was so intense it hurt and he just grinned at me in a creepy way that scared me pinned my legs down and continued, faster even when I started to cry. I hated it. I told him I didn't like it, but he would do it anyway. The truth is, he technically raped me a few times too but I didn't want to see it that way at the time so I told myself things to make it my fault.
So all of that is why it took so long to try it in the first place but in the end it didn't matter. All of that aside, I don't feel comfortable receiving anyway. Not just with sex- I hate presents on birthdays, Christmas, baby shower... all makes me feel very awkward and I honestly just feel uncomfortable. I can't handle people doing anything for me. I like to do things for people, not the other way around. Just the way I am. Hence why I derive 10X more pleasure from giving head then receiving it.
Sorry for the long overly detailed post.
I think I commented on what happened to you on the regrets thread and I can see why this is uncomfortable for you. I'm sorry you had to go though that.
You deserve to have someone give something to you from time to time. It's great that you like to give, I just hope that those you give to appreciate you.
I find most people who receive don't appreciate, but that's ok. They don't need to. Even giving is a selfish thing really- I receive good feelings from it. It's not like I get nothing out of it.
Thank you for your comment. You are sweet.
I'm ok with my past. And, I mean, that's what it is- passed. It makes me appreciate my present and future and not take things for granted. I don't think you can really know what it's like to be really happy unless you have been really unhappy. That's my rationalization and I am sticking to it.
It's not that I don't like it- it just brings up bad feelings, I guess, now that I think of it. A few things:
My first fiance' had the same bad experience (ex-boyfriend), and she could not shake that memory. If I was REALLY persistant, and we were more than a little buzzed, she could take it. She was not comfortable with it otherwise, and never climaxed from oral.
The @$$holes that ruin (too strong a word) scar, women for the rest of us need a good beating.
I like long tongue strokes from above my clit down to my hole, and I love teasing--licking my clit fast and hard, then backing off and tickling me lightly with tongue.