Thank you, Shade.
In my eyes, this is exactly what he is, which is why I chose his quote for my sig. He is a very smart man who has done extensive research, and if his site were of any interest to you, then upon reading his information, you would probably have given him the same credibility as I have. It doesn't resonate with you, so be it. I don't feel invalidated by that. I believe and support his views immensely. I stand by my feeling of validation from him. I need nothing else in addition to that.
It did help me. It helped me to recognize myself in someone else's eyes. It also helped me accept and be proud of me. It helped me push toward leaving an unhealthy relationship where I thought what we were living was D/s. It was not.
Then no matter what else he did some good. It is so easy for submissives to not get who we are and find ourselves in abusive relationships until we find something that gives us the strength to see who we are. Been there