Jada59
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I believe it is.
Some years ago, I was in a diabetes support group. I didn't feel it necessary but my then husband and I were in marriage counseling at the time and the counselor felt it would be good for me.
What wound up happening was that the people in the group came to me after the session one day and said that they wanted to meet up with me afterwards. Why? The counselor was always in a down mood and seemed to do nothing but complain and warn us of dangers. Telling us what not to eat or drink and to beware of this or that. It was all I could do to sit through the group especially when the leader would hand out things she printed from the Internet that I knrw not to be true or suspect at best.
The people in the group said that they liked the fact that I was always happy despite my diabetes and other medical problems. So we'd spend an hour or two at a coffee shop after our meeting and they said that being around me put them in a much better mood.
And after I moved to another state, several of them wanted to keep in contact with me so we did either via snail mail or the Internet. Some of the people in the group were elderly and had no computer.
Now I can't say that I'm constantly chipper. That would be a bit weird. Sometimes I'm in pain or don't feel well and when I'm like that, I try to stay away from people until I'm in a better mood.
But... I can usually manage find something good or humorous in any situation. I have even left medical people in stitches. I had a very long labor and my daughter's head was molding to my cervix so she wasn't coming out. I was in pain as I had refused any pain meds but I asked to stand up because gravity! And then said I would make chocolate milk if she'd come out. The nurse laughed and asked how I planned to do that? I pointed to my overnight bag and said that I put some chocolate in there. When that didn't work, I put a stuffed animal between my legs and said, "Come out and you can have this!" I was the one in distress and yet I kept everyone laughing.
The way I see it, we can decide what we focus on. I try to focus on positive things. I've had others get upset with me because I don't get upset. Yesterday my daughter got all bent out of shape over what she thought was another person showing me disrespect. In reality, the other person had no clue what they had done. I mention the incident to them but not in an angry fashion, because I didn't have all the facts. Turned out that the person was in a hurry, not paying attention and didn't even realize what they did. They put the situation right, then all three of us had a laugh.
And today, my friend kept going on and on about how livid she was about ____. She gave me a variety of scenarios in her life and how livid she was and how she was always blowing up at people. And she does do that. I've seen her do it. Thankfully she hasn't done it to me! I keep wanting to tell her, "You're a Libra! You're all about balance and you're out of balance!" I just can't understand why someone would choose to keep blowing up over the same things again and again. She never seems to change the situation. It's like a constant repeat over and over again of her wallowing in self pity and complaints. I did wind up getting her to laugh her head off by reading her a humorous review of a product on Amazon. So she *can* be happy. But... Why does she choose not to?
Bottom line... I think we can choose happiness if we want to. What do you think?
Some years ago, I was in a diabetes support group. I didn't feel it necessary but my then husband and I were in marriage counseling at the time and the counselor felt it would be good for me.
What wound up happening was that the people in the group came to me after the session one day and said that they wanted to meet up with me afterwards. Why? The counselor was always in a down mood and seemed to do nothing but complain and warn us of dangers. Telling us what not to eat or drink and to beware of this or that. It was all I could do to sit through the group especially when the leader would hand out things she printed from the Internet that I knrw not to be true or suspect at best.
The people in the group said that they liked the fact that I was always happy despite my diabetes and other medical problems. So we'd spend an hour or two at a coffee shop after our meeting and they said that being around me put them in a much better mood.
And after I moved to another state, several of them wanted to keep in contact with me so we did either via snail mail or the Internet. Some of the people in the group were elderly and had no computer.
Now I can't say that I'm constantly chipper. That would be a bit weird. Sometimes I'm in pain or don't feel well and when I'm like that, I try to stay away from people until I'm in a better mood.
But... I can usually manage find something good or humorous in any situation. I have even left medical people in stitches. I had a very long labor and my daughter's head was molding to my cervix so she wasn't coming out. I was in pain as I had refused any pain meds but I asked to stand up because gravity! And then said I would make chocolate milk if she'd come out. The nurse laughed and asked how I planned to do that? I pointed to my overnight bag and said that I put some chocolate in there. When that didn't work, I put a stuffed animal between my legs and said, "Come out and you can have this!" I was the one in distress and yet I kept everyone laughing.
The way I see it, we can decide what we focus on. I try to focus on positive things. I've had others get upset with me because I don't get upset. Yesterday my daughter got all bent out of shape over what she thought was another person showing me disrespect. In reality, the other person had no clue what they had done. I mention the incident to them but not in an angry fashion, because I didn't have all the facts. Turned out that the person was in a hurry, not paying attention and didn't even realize what they did. They put the situation right, then all three of us had a laugh.
And today, my friend kept going on and on about how livid she was about ____. She gave me a variety of scenarios in her life and how livid she was and how she was always blowing up at people. And she does do that. I've seen her do it. Thankfully she hasn't done it to me! I keep wanting to tell her, "You're a Libra! You're all about balance and you're out of balance!" I just can't understand why someone would choose to keep blowing up over the same things again and again. She never seems to change the situation. It's like a constant repeat over and over again of her wallowing in self pity and complaints. I did wind up getting her to laugh her head off by reading her a humorous review of a product on Amazon. So she *can* be happy. But... Why does she choose not to?
Bottom line... I think we can choose happiness if we want to. What do you think?
