shy slave
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Happy to amuse you Rosco!
If only you could have introduced SeanH to Ds when you met him, I would not be in this situation!
I blame you
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or give oral too.
Happy to amuse you Rosco!
If only you could have introduced SeanH to Ds when you met him, I would not be in this situation!
I blame you
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He'd be a natural, but for some reason he doesn't like the concept of it.
Sweetheart-- it's sex.I know
He is an idiot.
Oh, and I subscribe to the Bill Clinton concept of oral - It is not sexual relations. I love giving it, if he likes it, that's ok too.
Sweetheart-- it's sex.
He was wrong to answer the question at all. The proper answer would have been; "Kenny, kiddo, you are trying, unsuccessfully, to pin me on financial wrongdoings. My sex life or what you imagine is my sex life, has no bearing on this investigation. The people of the USA are paying you an astronomical salary, now don't be incompetent."*sigh*
I guess it could be.......
But Clinton was the US President, how can he be wrong
What do you mean by cut down to size?
And how do you do that?
We have a complicated relationship
Relationships are not like an alien invasion that suddenly appears and makes things complicated. If the relationship is complicated, then because you made it complicated (or allowed it).
Where is the "cut ex down to size" option?
If you don't keep your ex in the "friend with benefits" cage and pursue a real relationship, you are begging for trouble.
I really can't stress how right Primalex is here.
He was wrong to answer the question at all. The proper answer would have been; "Kenny, kiddo, you are trying, unsuccessfully, to pin me on financial wrongdoings. My sex life or what you imagine is my sex life, has no bearing on this investigation. The people of the USA are paying you an astronomical salary, now don't be incompetent."
(This is what's known as "L'esprit de l'escalier" L'esprit de l'escalier or that thing you wish you had said but now it's too late....)
As you may know I am happily married to my kinky vanilla husband and I also have a almost 8 year D/s relationship with MDS. MDS also has another submissive who lives closer to him, but not with with him.
I honestly can say that in the 8 years there has not been any significant problems/issues with the husband/myself/MDS relationship. I credit the almost complete lack of jealousy between my two men. I am in love with both of them but each relationship is very different. I go to bed and wake up almost every day with my husband. He is the father of my children, the love of my life, my soulmate.
On the other hand...MDS owns me. I will say that the few very rare times where we weren't quite in sync emotionally the floggings were simply something I tolerated but not enjoyed. I have determined that I need emotion to make the pain of S&M worth the sting on my ass the next day or days. I need the emotional submission.
I plan on growing old with both men in my life.
I know my FWB is comfortable and easy, heck that's why it's a FWB. No surprises, no conflict, just easy.
Yes, the relationship is complicated, and if you knew him (or me) you may review the alien analogy. But it is still an easy relationship.
Right now, that suits me.
What is confusing my head is the concept of my being in an open relationship and the effect that may have on my friendship (not the benefits side of it). I agree he is no saviour, nor am I to him, if anything it's convenient for us both.
I am tired of finding relationships that almost work, or people who say one thing and mean another, or tie your emotions in knots.....
I just don't know how open relationships work and how you function as a couple with the primary person in an open relationship.
I don't want to lose a friend for the sake of physical pain. It's just not worth it.
Yes, he should have said that. Just as she should not have kept the dress.
If he had wanted someone under his desk at any time, including during a press conference he just had to say. I would have swallowed
Thank you!
This makes sense to me.
Was it difficult to come to terms with juggling both relationships and the lack of jealousy from both of them about each other?
Their lack of jealousy made everything so much easier. It was as if they had set boundaries without even speaking to each other. The three of us have gotten together for vanilla outings--dinner, museums, sporting events and they get along so well. It's almost more fun than the sex.
In the first year the juggling was a bit tricky. But I am a problem solver by nature. I got a bit of a thrill when I was able to obey MDS while still making sure I kept my husband happy, too. There has only been one thing that I could not negotiate. It became a hard limit between MDS and I. Once we declared it as such we let it go and moved on. No hard feelings, no big deal.
It also helps a great deal that MDS puts such a priority on the importance of family. He demands that I put my children and family first. I also respect that his kids come before me.
My husband's only real requirement is that I always be completely transparent and honest. When I first realized I was falling in love with MDS, and MDS was falling in love with me I hesitated telling my husband. I even hesitated telling MDS. I was afraid that admitting that I was in love would cause both men to call things off. I wear my heart on my sleeve and can't hide anything so I admitted my love to both. To my relief they were both thrilled with my revelation. My husband said it made him feel better that I loved someone that loved me. It was reassuring to him that I would be safe in MDS's care.
My love for MDS deepened my submission to him and enhanced the dynamic for both of us. We both knew (know) the boundaries, but other than those we were free to allow things to take their natural course.
What is confusing my head is the concept of my being in an open relationship
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
Lit always gives opportunity to look at things from every angle.
Not sure what I will do.
But, of course by not making decisions, decisions are made by default.
So will do nothing and see what happens.
Hi shy,
I hope you have a wonderful new year and meet a soulmate. Until that happens, I think you need a fuck buddy with Dom kinks. Not a lot of other flowery insight from me.
As always wishing you all the best and sending love and light.
Leo