CutieMouse
Meticulously Flighty
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- Apr 7, 2004
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newsouthernsub said:*phew*
I do not know where to begin... I am a new sub. I didn't even mean to be (scratches head) but here I am... I met my new Master in a chat room. He has completely taken me over, my life and my thoughts. We are long distance. I have never been a sub, I actually know so little about this life. But I seem to be unable to stop thinking about him or seeking him whenever i have even a moment.
I stumbled in here trying to be "educated." I totally understand and agree with those who say the attention issue is huge! I find myself wanting his constant attention.
There are lots of things that i need to learn, but the 2 areas i would welcome ANY and ALL advice are:
Language - I seem to say all the wrong things... as the saying goes! Is there a "cheat sheet" a dictionary ??? of acceptable words i may use? should use? I follow his lead but I still get it wrong sometimes!
Expectaions: What is in the future? I believe this will be an online only relationship, at least for the new future. So for anyone in that type of relationship, I would welcome any advice.
This thread as been so helpful, if only i had enough time in the day to read all the back pages!
Thanks!
No one can expect you to just "know" what to do or say, and every relationship is what the people involved in it, decide it should be... which means that I could suggest addressing your partner as "The most exaulted purple people eater of the supreme candy forest" was the best way to show your submissiveness, but if he preferred to be addressed as "the way cool master of all that is unholy", you'd be screwed (and not in the fun way).
Take a peek at the BDSM Library link pinned at the top of the forum. Talk with him - outside of the dynamics of submissive/dominant - and find out what he wants from you, of you, and what you will get in return. Go over a checklist of interests- he may have expectations you aren't comfortable with. when you have questions, start a thread on it- people here are pretty friendly.
When Someone You Love is Kinky and The New Bottoming Book are both good places to start educting yourself (and quick reads)- they're easily available on Amazon.com, or can be purchased at www.greenerypress.com.