I felt much the same about five years ago, when my wife and the little not-yet-two-year-old entered my life. It's a frightening concept, in a way, to be a parent at our age. But I subscribe to the "age is only a state of mind" philosophy. I can still chase my child in the back yard, can still show her how to play futbol (soccer). While my wife and I may never have a "real" child of our own -- there are various issues with that -- we love our daughter, and I am supremely glad every time she calls me "daddy." That tells me I must be doing something right.
All in all, I feel that, when you're a parent, you find ways to be a parent. You teach, you lead, you direct, you punish, you chastise . . . and eventually, you get it right. Because so long as you try, you can't screw it up completely and you can't make a mistake you aren't able to rectify later.
My brother met his wife when her son was 3, and helped take care of her mother, who was dying of a rare disease. They've been together 18 years now. His is not the only story I've heard like that. Now, I don't think he would have done that if they'd met five years before. Maturity does a lot for people, men and women both.
Awww, thanks you two. It's very heartwarming to read your stories. Thank you for sharing.
My dad is ...awesome. We were speaking mostly in hypothetical terms, but still, it was a wise thing of him to say. My dad has always been my "go to" person. Most girls have their moms; I have my dad. And thank whatever higher power for that! See, my dad met my mom when she was pregnant with me. My dad isn't my bio-father, but he's the only dad I've known, and he's awfully special to me. So I guess he knows a thing or two about taking on responsibilities that aren't necessarily his own. He adopted me when I was very young; the judge asked my parents how he knew that I wanted to be adopted if I couldn't speak for myself, and my dad said, "Watch this." Then, he looked at me and asked, "Where's daddy's sweetheart?"
I patted my head and smiled at him.
The judge was won over, and a family was born.