Am I wrong for not wanting to ??

SpunThings said:

That doesn't mean they're correct to disapprove it. People used to feel threatened by gay people, and have perpetrated some horrible things in the name of that fear.

You're now backtracking to say his ways will be stomped to the ground. I'm not talking about taking issue with his ways. I"m talking about taking issue with people villifying him as a person, and calling him a douche.

There's a difference between "That's a pretty shitty thing to ask." and "You're a total douche for asking that."

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The thing about my post is - there is not right and wrong. There are things that some people are approving or disapproving at the moment, and the majority will always try to have their ways and make the minority accept this as an only possible solution. Its a struggle, but the majority is not always winning. Gay and bdsm were taboo some time ago. Not so much now. And sometimes things are reversing even. I'm sure things like anal and oral sex were not approved in 17th century, however today if someone is against oral sex it seems odd and old-fascioned.

The guys approach is something that is frowned upon by many people. Not even in terms of what he wants, but how he expresses it. I know a lot of people who have sex before committing to a relationship. They don't put it in such a rude form though. I'm sure if the guy in question acted differently, the op could have gladly agreed to sleep with him that day, and even have some kinky stuff. It is bad social skills and a complete lack of caring for partners feelings is what I'm against. It's what I don't want to be spread. Things like that should not be encouraged.

I am neither dom or sub, but your comment...."I could be spontaneous and go for it. And most likely just get used. Or worse." is exactly right from those I've talked with. You are not his possesion, at least until you decide on the level of your submission. Your gut feelings appear to be correct and I would suggest "run away"! There are many others more deserving of a lady of your character. You certainly don't need to be "test driven"!

Good thing you have moved on!

You realize this thread is a year old????

thinkingofyou3000 said:

I am neither dom or sub, but your comment...."I could be spontaneous and go for it. And most likely just get used. Or worse." is exactly right from those I've talked with. You are not his possesion, at least until you decide on the level of your submission. Your gut feelings appear to be correct and I would suggest "run away"! There are many others more deserving of a lady of your character. You certainly don't need to be "test driven"!

Good thing you have moved on!

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I sure did. Thank you for your response
I always follow my gut feeling. Its never been wrong

SassyKatz71 said:

I sure did. Thank you for your response
I always follow my gut feeling. Its never been wrong

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And you're following up a year later!

What a nice ending to this post.

cookiecat said:

And you're following up a year later!

What a nice ending to this post.

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So,I happened to notice the email while cleaning out my yahoo. A surprise to see for sure