the captians wench
sewing wench
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- Jun 16, 2005
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I will play in a club or at a play party with someone I met that night., or when I was pro I had someone else around with new clients. I don't get into enclosed spaces with new people. I will always decline "drive you home?" on the first date and I usually meet somewhere I can cab from or disappear into buildings in, rather than risk being followed.
I think it's VERY wise of you to worry more about the car ride than the OTK spanking - even if you were to go play in a hotel room with some toys, it could still be a better idea than that ride home. Physical control to move and numbers of people to hear you make a fuss are key.
I don't have a timeline for feeling safe with someone. I just do when I do.
See this is my thinking. At least if I go to a hotel room with some one, I know that there will be a maid to come find me some time the next morning or after check out hours. If I'm in a car, they can drop me where no one would find me for a few days. Even if I am in my apt, I'm not sure that any one would come check on me for a day or two. So even if I was just seriously hurt, because there's no one to check on me, it could end up worse.