SweetErika
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I had a 9lb baby via VBAC almost 8 weeks ago. He came out quite quickly once he hit the birth canal, and I had a second degree perineal tear plus some pretty bad vaginal lacerations. I feel more or less healed, although I still have vulvar and pelvic pain now and again.
With the all-clear from my obgyn, we attempted sex for the first time last night, and it was so painful that we had to stop immediately. Even one finger is painful (but tolerable)not just around the perineal scar, but inside my vagina, where those lacerations were. And we used tons of lube (breastfeeding kills almost all of my natural lube) and as much relaxation and foreplay as possible.
I know that it takes some women many more months to heal completely, and I accept that I may be one of them. I guess I'm hoping for some advice on what's worked for other women/couples. Is it going to hurt like hell the first time(s) we have sex again, no matter what or when we try? I've pushed myself through painful sex before, and that just ended up making things worse for both of us.
Thanks in advance! I may not be able to respond as fullyou as I'd like to because I'm limited to using my phone while nursing these days.
With the all-clear from my obgyn, we attempted sex for the first time last night, and it was so painful that we had to stop immediately. Even one finger is painful (but tolerable)not just around the perineal scar, but inside my vagina, where those lacerations were. And we used tons of lube (breastfeeding kills almost all of my natural lube) and as much relaxation and foreplay as possible.
I know that it takes some women many more months to heal completely, and I accept that I may be one of them. I guess I'm hoping for some advice on what's worked for other women/couples. Is it going to hurt like hell the first time(s) we have sex again, no matter what or when we try? I've pushed myself through painful sex before, and that just ended up making things worse for both of us.
Thanks in advance! I may not be able to respond as fullyou as I'd like to because I'm limited to using my phone while nursing these days.