What makes str8 men bi/curious in their advanced years?

I admit to being a bit of a hypocrite, though. Here I am 50 years old, and although probability-wise, I ought to find a like-minded buddy for this among 50-60's, I'm not really interested in other salt & pepper or silver foxes. I really just want to time-travel back to my college days. :-/

I'm not really sure what Made me start thinking about my bi side. It started around the time I turned 30 years old. I think that maybe the older I get, the less I care about stereo types and what people think. Now I'm of the mentality that I do what I want and think what I want if it makes me happy. If things are sexy and fun, I'm down for trying them out!

I'm not sure why. I'm 39 and have been dressing in girl's clothes since I was a teen. Recently, exploring my femme/hi side has been more of an issue/desire.

I think part of it is that society as well as my own opinions have changed. I have always wondered about life from the girl's point of view. And now that things have changed socially as well as emotionally for me I have found myself feeling more free.

Vanilla Sex Here at Home is Changing Slowly But Surely

Bi curiosities kicked in a couple of years ago. I had been worrying that the dreams associated with the bi thoughts .... apparently it bothered me enough that my wife noticed a change...women's intuition I guess. I denied anything but after a couple of weeks I shared with here the dreams I had been having - very vivid dreams - several where I was sucking myself, one with a beautiful shemale...that dream was incredibly real and then a very weird dream where I was coached by a very androgynous looking girl to deep throat a very phallic looking metallic object. She took the admission in stride and when I asked if she thought it was unusual she said no.

Now the shift from vanilla....after the admissions the frequency of blow-jobs went up, a good thing! She dropped some hints that she might enjoy some anal play and sure enough she does. About two years prior we were in a nice Marriott hotel with an in room Jacuzzi tub. She stood up and offered her ass in front of my face. I licked from pussy up and I thought what the hell, to her asshole....we had a pretty god buzz on. She pushed back hard against my tongue. So I probed away as she diddled her clit to an orgasm. We didn't get much further than that with anal play and I dropped the ball....until her hint!

One day I blurted out that I would like to lick my cum from here breasts or eat a cream-pie....she asked what a cream-pie was, sheltered Catholic girl........ to my surprise she said yes. The first time I ate the cream-pie I made she exploded in a big orgasm, a really big one. Now she has added some interesting directions into our long distance Sexting....Last few times she had told me to rub my pre-cum on my nipples and then get some more and lick it off of my fingers. Then asked me to describe the taste.....probably as a verification!!!!

Just a few weeks ago we had been at it for 40 plus minutes, she got off a couple of times, we switched positions several times, but I was just on the verge but couldn't quite get over the top....she sensed my frustration and slid her thumb into my mouth....I started sucking on it like it was a small cock....she got the idea and added two more fingers and then started finger fucking my mouth...vigorously. That did it....it came from my toes....wow it was good. So, vanilla is being spiced up nicely and I will allow the addition of spice at her pace! With the progress we have made I will be patient!

I may have posted some of this in other spots but the "vanilla sex" just made me smile so I had to share ...... again.

nittfagm said:

I don't know - but I'm going through the same thing. If I wasn't happily married to a vanilla sex wife (and kids), I'd be experimenting.

So for now, I'm just into sneaking anal play for masturbation. I'm slowly trying to get her into anal play on me.

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my experience

I can remember reading some gay stories in Penthouse or Variations over 20 years ago. I think that got me started. It took me until I was well over 30 before I actually met with another man. Now it is just a feeling of wanting to try new things and not worrying about the guilt or regret.

curiousdreamer51 said:

Bi curiosities kicked in a couple of years ago. I had been worrying that the dreams associated with the bi thoughts .... apparently it bothered me enough that my wife noticed a change...women's intuition I guess. I denied anything but after a couple of weeks I shared with here the dreams I had been having - very vivid dreams - several where I was sucking myself, one with a beautiful shemale...that dream was incredibly real and then a very weird dream where I was coached by a very androgynous looking girl to deep throat a very phallic looking metallic object. She took the admission in stride and when I asked if she thought it was unusual she said no.

Now the shift from vanilla....after the admissions the frequency of blow-jobs went up, a good thing! She dropped some hints that she might enjoy some anal play and sure enough she does. About two years prior we were in a nice Marriott hotel with an in room Jacuzzi tub. She stood up and offered her ass in front of my face. I licked from pussy up and I thought what the hell, to her asshole....we had a pretty god buzz on. She pushed back hard against my tongue. So I probed away as she diddled her clit to an orgasm. We didn't get much further than that with anal play and I dropped the ball....until her hint!

One day I blurted out that I would like to lick my cum from here breasts or eat a cream-pie....she asked what a cream-pie was, sheltered Catholic girl........ to my surprise she said yes. The first time I ate the cream-pie I made she exploded in a big orgasm, a really big one. Now she has added some interesting directions into our long distance Sexting....Last few times she had told me to rub my pre-cum on my nipples and then get some more and lick it off of my fingers. Then asked me to describe the taste.....probably as a verification!!!!

Just a few weeks ago we had been at it for 40 plus minutes, she got off a couple of times, we switched positions several times, but I was just on the verge but couldn't quite get over the top....she sensed my frustration and slid her thumb into my mouth....I started sucking on it like it was a small cock....she got the idea and added two more fingers and then started finger fucking my mouth...vigorously. That did it....it came from my toes....wow it was good. So, vanilla is being spiced up nicely and I will allow the addition of spice at her pace! With the progress we have made I will be patient!

I may have posted some of this in other spots but the "vanilla sex" just made me smile so I had to share ...... again.

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Sounds like "good things" are going to happen in your future! Congrats on exploring more options!

Thank You.

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2 Cents. Your definitely in the "value added" category! Well Said.

Holy Cow! Just found out we had MORE icons! Sweet ! ! ! ! ! !

I was a married man, a relationship that was getting boring and sour by the minute. BTW we are not together anymore.

I had been thinking of exploring my bi side (was I or wasn't I) for quite some time. Towards the end of our marriage I decided that it was time to find out. I di some research and found a "men only resort" where clothing was not encouraged and it was only an hour from my home.

I packed an overnight bag and headed off, I told nobody and set off on my exploration.

I was shown to my room and shown the facilities of the resort - Jacuzzi, gay porn movie room, poll and bar. I went back to my room, undressed and wrapped a towel around me and walked out to sit around the pool. I took a deep breath and dropped the towel and laid down on one of the sunbeds. There were a couple of naked guys there as well. I wanted to explore so I went into the movie room, where there was an older guy (huge cock) sitting there stroking away. I sat down in one of the lounge chairs when I gt the urge to stroke away watching the movie.

Before I knew if the older guy was on his knees in front of me, with my hard cock in his mouth.

I didn't have to wonder anymore - yes I'm bi-sexual and I loved it and I have done it may times since.

I hope this wasn't too boring!!

Still too young?

I am 38 and ready to experience men, but I am only attracted to men over 50. Thoughts?

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late

boy di I start late. I was 53 and got to thinking about sucking a cock took 1.5 years to give it a try. I am not a cock hound but do like to do it now and then. BTW I am glad I gave it a try

I have got to see if there are any of those men only clubs near me .

tmmmbrrr said:

there isn't a cookbook

see badonkudoku above

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LOL, tmmmbrrr has that right! Let me know when you're in the Sandhills region of NC, then we'll talk (or more)!

BenDoverMD hit the nail on the head. As my marital sex life gradually waned in my mid-40's, I developed a strong curiosity about mutual oral with another guy. The taboo aspect made the idea of sucking another guys dick all the more exciting. I fantasized about it a lot and I imagined myself on my knees in front of a guy standing in front of me, my hand wrapped around his cock and looking up into his eyes and saying those disgusting words no man is ever supposed to say: "I want to suck your dick" and then guide his cock into my mouth.

When I finally decided to act, I was lucky enough to find another married guy with the same interests. I told him what I had been fantasizing and I got down on my knees, pulled his pants down and found myself facing a truly beautiful and large cock. I took hold of it, said those words I had wanted to say and guided his dick into my mouth. The realization that I had had a cock in my mouth was intensely exciting and I enjoyed the experience without regret.

I am not emotionally interested in men like I am with women but I do enjoy giving and getting blow jobs and exploring the unique contours and features of a new cock with my mouth and tongue.

53 I so much want to try gay sex. Dont know where it came from but seriously willing to bottom

I have played with my ass for as long as I can remember. Started when I was young, and discovered how good it feels. I grew up in the years when being queer was not cool, and I don't think I ever heard of the term bisexual until well into adulthood.
Not sure that it's exactly a bucket list sort of thing, but I'm at the point now that I want to open myself up to as many new experiences as I can, while I can.

44special said:

I have played with my ass for as long as I can remember. Started when I was young, and discovered how good it feels. I grew up in the years when being queer was not cool, and I don't think I ever heard of the term bisexual until well into adulthood.
Not sure that it's exactly a bucket list sort of thing, but I'm at the point now that I want to open myself up to as many new experiences as I can, while I can.

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Me too! My first same sex/gay experience 18 mths ago. I'm def bi, but I now prefer sex with men or transsexuals. I wish I'd pushed my own boundaries much earlier. But it's never too late? There are many others wanting to try new things I guess? And I'm happy to try with them!

oralgami said:

BenDoverMD hit the nail on the head. As my marital sex life gradually waned in my mid-40's, I developed a strong curiosity about mutual oral with another guy. The taboo aspect made the idea of sucking another guys dick all the more exciting. I fantasized about it a lot and I imagined myself on my knees in front of a guy standing in front of me, my hand wrapped around his cock and looking up into his eyes and saying those disgusting words no man is ever supposed to say: "I want to suck your dick" and then guide his cock into my mouth.

When I finally decided to act, I was lucky enough to find another married guy with the same interests. I told him what I had been fantasizing and I got down on my knees, pulled his pants down and found myself facing a truly beautiful and large cock. I took hold of it, said those words I had wanted to say and guided his dick into my mouth. The realization that I had had a cock in my mouth was intensely exciting and I enjoyed the experience without regret.

I am not emotionally interested in men like I am with women but I do enjoy giving and getting blow jobs and exploring the unique contours and features of a new cock with my mouth and tongue.

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Ditto. Well said.

t1m1d1 said:

Me too! My first same sex/gay experience 18 mths ago. I'm def bi, but I now prefer sex with men or transsexuals. I wish I'd pushed my own boundaries much earlier. But it's never too late? There are many others wanting to try new things I guess? And I'm happy to try with them!

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I would love to try a shemale....to me the best of both worlds....

NightOfPassion2 said:

I would love to try a shemale....to me the best of both worlds....

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Difficult enough to find more 'typical' partners, should think!

oralgami said:

When I finally decided to act, I was lucky enough to find another married guy with the same interests. I told him what I had been fantasizing and I got down on my knees, pulled his pants down and found myself facing a truly beautiful and large cock. I took hold of it, said those words I had wanted to say and guided his dick into my mouth. The realization that I had had a cock in my mouth was intensely exciting and I enjoyed the experience without regret.

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I am curious how it came to be that you were lucky enough to find the other married guy. How the conversation turned and how you were bold enough to admit your fantasies to him.

BenDoverMD said:

With me anyway, I think it's a combination of

a. a long-term and currently sexually unexciting marriage,
b. the taboo of it makes it seem all the more exciting,
c. memories of playing with other boys as a youngster,
d. the ability to discuss it openly with others of a like mind here, and
e. readily available visuals of bi-sex on the internet.

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I'd agree with the above, except that I had m/m sex experiences between the ages of 18 to 30. I've kept that private for years...nobody's business but mine...I cherish the memories. In a perfect world I could be out as a bisexual. For now I have memories and fantasies.

Wow, so cool

I was on my wat to the gym this morning and I was stretching at a stop light and wasn't paying too much attention. I was just driving afrer this light and a guy that was behind me at the light drives by and glances my way and then turns straight ahead and licks his lips. I don't know why but it was pretty good timing that I looked right at the same time he licked his lips but let me say it was pretty excithing. I have not done it yet but have made the decision to flirt with guys when I'm about in public just for the hell of it and see what happens.

BenDoverMD said:

With me anyway, I think it's a combination of

a. a long-term and currently sexually unexciting marriage,
b. the taboo of it makes it seem all the more exciting,
c. memories of playing with other boys as a youngster,
d. the ability to discuss it openly with others of a like mind here, and
e. readily available visuals of bi-sex on the internet.

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For myself I would have to add
f. always wanting to be a girl as a young boy
g. wanting to be the one that became pregnant (rather than my wife)
h. failing to act upon some lovely cock-sucking experiences as a young man.

When I finally decided to act, I was lucky enough to find another married guy with the same interests. I told him what I had been fantasizing and I got down on my knees, pulled his pants down and found myself facing a truly beautiful and large cock. I took hold of it, said those words I had wanted to say and guided his dick into my mouth. The realization that I had had a cock in my mouth was intensely exciting and I enjoyed the experience without regret.

This is what I imagine my first experience would be like. I'm married in my 50's, have never been with a guy, but I know I want to get on my knees and take a cock balls deep in my throat and make love to it with my mouth, tongue and throat until I am rewarded with a hot mouthful of cum and eagerly swallow every drop. But it doesn't stop there. I also want to feel a hard cock fucking me deep inside my ass. I guess if it happens I will take it one step at a time. First suck, then get fucked and who knows, maybe some day do both at the same time. Mt taste in porn has totally changed recently. I now love gay porn and especially group situations with many guys sucking and fucking. I guess its a level of kink that I haven't experienced but know I would love. Finding the right person is the challenge.