Iamsubmissive
Really Really Experienced
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- Mar 22, 2017
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Oddly enough, I am this way in RL...I have many friends, or relatives even, that I go years without contact or returning calls just because life is busy and time flies. I assume they know I care, and when they confront me about it is always in a joking way. Plus, they know I'm flaky too. Buy with online people, a few days of no contact and I'm freaking out...go figure.[/QUOTE]
Makes PERFECT sense. I think because you know your RL relationships are based on reality and time and history together. Though real established relationships can certainly happen online, the foundation is often different and we all know that it would be so easy to just disappear from someone's life when all it has been is a cyber relationship. There is a certain insecurity there. In RL we know we can walk down the street and maybe run in to them, or the next town or we grew up with them or at work or wherever. There is THERE there. Online can feel like smoke and mirrors and *poof*. Makes sense to feel more insecure about online relationships.
I guess it does make sense with the insecurity and the possibility of them just 'vanishing'. That hasn't happened to me yet but it is one of my biggest fears with this online relationship. Which was also another thing that freaked me out since I've NEVER been insecure before. I think that's why it seemed so confusing...because you can start feeling very out of character for yourself. All the discussion on this is helping me understand it more though. So I really appreciate everyone's feedback.
Also, now I feel a little guilty for giving my online friends more consideration than my very dear RL friends, even if it is understandable. I must remedy that right away!