New faces, come say hello...

I got no pecs, its all trick photography. Thanks anyway though.

rhizhelle said:

Sweetheart, I'm too young to remember the 70's. Your compassion is so underwhelming.

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I am old enough to remember
and am a Certified Herb Specialists

*the welcoming comitee rolls in late, drunk and naked*

oops....

newbie me

hello!!!!! i'm tikee. a sub turned switch. why? because i really love my husband who is very submissive (which is shocking because he's bigger than vin diesel and in public he's so macho-male). i found out about this site from Mystic_Maiden32. our husbands work together in the navy and she lives down the street from me here in sicily. I LOVE HER. i'm really a rather silly silly girl. i rarely take things seriously (except for abuse in every sense concerning children, animals, and mother earth). i've been into this lifestyle since i was in the fifth grade. i expiermented w/ a beautiful girl my age who wanted me to obey her every wish. it pleasured me to no end. carrying her school books, making lunch, pushing her on the swing, etc.... and as i got older well, i just wanted to do everything. i begged my parents (imagine that! gasp.) in high school for the internet. can of whips, i released that year. a few years later and thousands of expieriences more, i'm still just a silly girl but one who really gets a non drug induced-high out of pleasing my ....other half....
SO, why am i here? to meet all you people and spare a penny of wisdom and a dime of laughter.
THANK YOU for the warmest welcome and telling me about yourselves. the variety of people here are so intriging and the topics really make me think...and laugh. i hope i get to know all of you.
love, licks, swats, and whips....Tikee

i like you already

Hello, My first post Intro

This is an awesome site, I could not resist joining, it is very user friendly and I just thought where should i post my first post.
This seemed the best place since my world revolves around my need to be submissive.

I am BBW over 41 but I dont say my age to anyone but my most trusted closest friends. Since much of my world is online, age really doesnt play a part in the net anyway.
I was curious on how I can have a pic on my bio but perhaps its just link it to a website.

I am a roleplayer in multiplayer massive roleplaying games online.
Most of my story writing revolves around fantasy in the games my characters live in. This is my hobby my fun since in real life due to family living with my husband and I we are not free at least yet to live our real desired life of dom subdom.

My husband is 29 and we are very secure and very in love now for 7 years. Incredibly there is never a problem with our age differences between us.. society may say otherwise but in this day an age these things are more prevalent and acceptable.

I plan to start writing and posting some erotica here on these lucious boards and share perhaps photos when i build up the courage to post one or two .. of my naughty ones.

People have told me i should be publishing my stories my romance stories which involve erotica almost always.

Well be happy to chat with others here you can send me PM if you like love making new friends.

Thanks for reading..
Dawny

welcome dawny, from a fellow sub. The forum is quite receptive to amateurs (me) and experiened BDSM'ers alike, so I'm sure you'll be able to learn something, just don't be afraid to ask questions

Re: newbie me

Tikee_Booming said:

hello!!!!! i'm tikee. a sub turned switch. why? because i really love my husband who is very submissive (which is shocking because he's bigger than vin diesel and in public he's so macho-male). i found out about this site from Mystic_Maiden32. our husbands work together in the navy and she lives down the street from me here in sicily. I LOVE HER. i'm really a rather silly silly girl. i rarely take things seriously (except for abuse in every sense concerning children, animals, and mother earth). i've been into this lifestyle since i was in the fifth grade. i expiermented w/ a beautiful girl my age who wanted me to obey her every wish. it pleasured me to no end. carrying her school books, making lunch, pushing her on the swing, etc.... and as i got older well, i just wanted to do everything. i begged my parents (imagine that! gasp.) in high school for the internet. can of whips, i released that year. a few years later and thousands of expieriences more, i'm still just a silly girl but one who really gets a non drug induced-high out of pleasing my ....other half....
SO, why am i here? to meet all you people and spare a penny of wisdom and a dime of laughter.
THANK YOU for the warmest welcome and telling me about yourselves. the variety of people here are so intriging and the topics really make me think...and laugh. i hope i get to know all of you.
love, licks, swats, and whips....Tikee

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Ciao Italia.

lunarsubmissive said:

Welcome to all the new ones on the board!!!! If you have any questions, please feel free to ask. Also, check out the library for interesting reading on topics you may not have thought of before.

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Thank you. Actually I've been posting in another thread for a little while, but have some real questions that I just haven't seen answered yet.

My partner and I have been together for eight years now. She had told me of her submissive play before we got together, but she said that was in her past. Lately though, she's been wanting me to Domminate her more and more and honestly I'm a bit reluctant to do so.
Not that it turns me off or anything, but rather that I'm not comfortable with allowing myself to get into that "space." I love her so much and it really pains me to know that our sexual relationship might actually end because I just won't hurt her. Not in play or punishment. I can't stand to see her in pain of any sort, and my not giving her my control over her that she so desires is also painful to her. I know this.
To me, our relationship was much more based in equality. In everything. Household issues as well as sexual issues.

Ok, here it is. There was one time, recently, that I attempted to give her what she wanted. But the whole time she was doing that Cheesey "Oh yes, beat me" crap. That just turned me off so fast that I literally walked away. To me it was disgusting and childish. I felt, myself, if I was going to dominate her I didn't want to hear that sacarine crap. I felt as if she was dominating the whole situation and what was the point then?
Since then we've had one other scene where she "pleasured" me and allowed herself no physical contact from me.
I'm still not sure where that took place, emotionally, for her or for myself.

Am I looking at this in the wrong light or what? I'm really confused. I know I have some sub tendencies, which makes it really hard to Dominate her. But at the same time, I desire control as well.

I'm still searching, as I'm sure you can tell. Any feedback would be very welcomed.

Thank you.

Hi! I am lisa and am new to literotica and also finally out of the closet so to speak about being a sub addicted to pain. I have always supressed my deepest desires except when pleasuring myself and then is when I admit my addiction to pain that powers my passion. I really seem to have something against my nipples and love to seriously abuse them.

I am 43 years old and work in the world of finances. (ok, so a job that boring could cause anyone to want to torture their nipples). I am currently a sub without a Master, but know that will come with time. I hope you will all help me as I begin to discover the joys of being who I am and also finding just how far I am willing to go.

dolf said:

*the welcoming comitee rolls in late, drunk and naked*

oops....

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*hides all the cameras*

Re: newbie me

Tikee_Booming said:

hello!!!!! i'm tikee. a sub turned switch. why? because i really love my husband who is very submissive (which is shocking because he's bigger than vin diesel and in public he's so macho-male). i found out about this site from Mystic_Maiden32. our husbands work together in the navy and she lives down the street from me here in sicily. I LOVE HER. i'm really a rather silly silly girl. i rarely take things seriously (except for abuse in every sense concerning children, animals, and mother earth). i've been into this lifestyle since i was in the fifth grade. i expiermented w/ a beautiful girl my age who wanted me to obey her every wish. it pleasured me to no end. carrying her school books, making lunch, pushing her on the swing, etc.... and as i got older well, i just wanted to do everything. i begged my parents (imagine that! gasp.) in high school for the internet. can of whips, i released that year. a few years later and thousands of expieriences more, i'm still just a silly girl but one who really gets a non drug induced-high out of pleasing my ....other half....
SO, why am i here? to meet all you people and spare a penny of wisdom and a dime of laughter.
THANK YOU for the warmest welcome and telling me about yourselves. the variety of people here are so intriging and the topics really make me think...and laugh. i hope i get to know all of you.
love, licks, swats, and whips....Tikee

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Welcome to the boards!!!!

Don't let anyone fool you...we're all angels here

Re: Hello, My first post Intro

subnottydawn said:

This is an awesome site, I could not resist joining, it is very user friendly and I just thought where should i post my first post.
This seemed the best place since my world revolves around my need to be submissive.

I am BBW over 41 but I dont say my age to anyone but my most trusted closest friends. Since much of my world is online, age really doesnt play a part in the net anyway.
I was curious on how I can have a pic on my bio but perhaps its just link it to a website.

I am a roleplayer in multiplayer massive roleplaying games online.
Most of my story writing revolves around fantasy in the games my characters live in. This is my hobby my fun since in real life due to family living with my husband and I we are not free at least yet to live our real desired life of dom subdom.

My husband is 29 and we are very secure and very in love now for 7 years. Incredibly there is never a problem with our age differences between us.. society may say otherwise but in this day an age these things are more prevalent and acceptable.

I plan to start writing and posting some erotica here on these lucious boards and share perhaps photos when i build up the courage to post one or two .. of my naughty ones.

People have told me i should be publishing my stories my romance stories which involve erotica almost always.

Well be happy to chat with others here you can send me PM if you like love making new friends.

Thanks for reading..
Dawny

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Welcome!!!

JustineCredible said:

Thank you. Actually I've been posting in another thread for a little while, but have some real questions that I just haven't seen answered yet.

My partner and I have been together for eight years now. She had told me of her submissive play before we got together, but she said that was in her past. Lately though, she's been wanting me to Domminate her more and more and honestly I'm a bit reluctant to do so.
Not that it turns me off or anything, but rather that I'm not comfortable with allowing myself to get into that "space." I love her so much and it really pains me to know that our sexual relationship might actually end because I just won't hurt her. Not in play or punishment. I can't stand to see her in pain of any sort, and my not giving her my control over her that she so desires is also painful to her. I know this.
To me, our relationship was much more based in equality. In everything. Household issues as well as sexual issues.

Ok, here it is. There was one time, recently, that I attempted to give her what she wanted. But the whole time she was doing that Cheesey "Oh yes, beat me" crap. That just turned me off so fast that I literally walked away. To me it was disgusting and childish. I felt, myself, if I was going to dominate her I didn't want to hear that sacarine crap. I felt as if she was dominating the whole situation and what was the point then?
Since then we've had one other scene where she "pleasured" me and allowed herself no physical contact from me.
I'm still not sure where that took place, emotionally, for her or for myself.

Am I looking at this in the wrong light or what? I'm really confused. I know I have some sub tendencies, which makes it really hard to Dominate her. But at the same time, I desire control as well.

I'm still searching, as I'm sure you can tell. Any feedback would be very welcomed.

Thank you.

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Oh, sweetie, there is a BIG difference between hurting someone and harming them. I think that is one of the biggest obsticles most new Tops have to get over. We've been raised to think that hitting someone is wrong and it's hard to get over that kind psychological training. I've heard most say they just have to get into the head space where what they are doing is focusing on the bottom's pleasure of the activity, rather than the activity itself.

Start out slow. Try a light spanking, some handcuffs to the bedpost, type things. Don't try to start off really hard and heavy.

And you can try to get her to take turns with you. Try the, I'll spank you tonight if you spank me tomorrow night

Or, you could try some rope bondage to start out with. It is non-impact and good for the control aspect

Learning to Fly said:

Hi! I am lisa and am new to literotica and also finally out of the closet so to speak about being a sub addicted to pain. I have always supressed my deepest desires except when pleasuring myself and then is when I admit my addiction to pain that powers my passion. I really seem to have something against my nipples and love to seriously abuse them.

I am 43 years old and work in the world of finances. (ok, so a job that boring could cause anyone to want to torture their nipples). I am currently a sub without a Master, but know that will come with time. I hope you will all help me as I begin to discover the joys of being who I am and also finding just how far I am willing to go.

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Welcome to the boards!!! And congrats on learning of yourself and the courage to explore it *huggles*

A girl lost in Illinois...

(duplicated from "A Girl Lost In Illinois" thread)

Well, I'm not quite sure where to start. This is my very first post
on this board so bare with me since I'm a newbie here. I broke up with my exboyfriend several months ago. We broke up over various issues but one of the things I started to have a problem with was his sex drive didn't match mine. And I also realized that I wanted more in a sexual relationship than just "traditional" sex.

I've always been interested in the world of bondage but I have no idea how to really enter it. I posted a few ads on other alternative lifestyle websites but the only repsonses I got were from people who were into it heavy duty and very intense. I'm going to be very new to it so I ended up deleting the ads because I felt a bit overwhelemed. Like what am I getting myself into? I really don't know what to expect. (oh, and I'm also bi but I'll save that for another post in the future)

I'm not sure if I put this in the right forum but where does someone look for someone else who might want to explore this type of sexuality with them if you're a beginner? I'm feeling kind of depressed about it actually because I don't think I'll ever be happy dating a "normal" guy or gal. I need someone who's a bit "out there" like me but I'm not sure where to start. Anyway, sorry for the whine. I'm just kind of venting a bit. I have some bondage stories that I'm working on that I plan on submitting soon.

Maybe I'll post an ad for myself in the personals section on this board but I'm not sure what to put. Guess I'm looking for a little advice out there.

Thankyou in advance for any feedback. This is a very interesting message board and I think I'll stay.

Soulfiregirl:

Don't be too disheartened. I can completely sympathize. I am also in Illinois if you ever want to email. My partner and I have been together for eight years and for a while there I was contemplating breaking up with her, but for a slightly opposite reason. I know I'm interested in this new venue, but too much too soon is a quick way to turn me off.
I get bored really easily with plain ol' everyday vanilla sex too. But I'm new at this as well. I need time to test the waters, so to speak.
My partner is most definitely a bottom/sub and I know I do display some Domme/Top tendencies, but I still have issues to work out.

Hope you find what you are looking for. It's a big state, I'm sure there's someone out there for you.

Re: A girl lost in Illinois...

Soulfiregirl said:

(duplicated from "A Girl Lost In Illinois" thread)

Well, I'm not quite sure where to start. This is my very first post
on this board so bare with me since I'm a newbie here. I broke up with my exboyfriend several months ago. We broke up over various issues but one of the things I started to have a problem with was his sex drive didn't match mine. And I also realized that I wanted more in a sexual relationship than just "traditional" sex.

I've always been interested in the world of bondage but I have no idea how to really enter it. I posted a few ads on other alternative lifestyle websites but the only repsonses I got were from people who were into it heavy duty and very intense. I'm going to be very new to it so I ended up deleting the ads because I felt a bit overwhelemed. Like what am I getting myself into? I really don't know what to expect. (oh, and I'm also bi but I'll save that for another post in the future)

I'm not sure if I put this in the right forum but where does someone look for someone else who might want to explore this type of sexuality with them if you're a beginner? I'm feeling kind of depressed about it actually because I don't think I'll ever be happy dating a "normal" guy or gal. I need someone who's a bit "out there" like me but I'm not sure where to start. Anyway, sorry for the whine. I'm just kind of venting a bit. I have some bondage stories that I'm working on that I plan on submitting soon.

Maybe I'll post an ad for myself in the personals section on this board but I'm not sure what to put. Guess I'm looking for a little advice out there.

Thankyou in advance for any feedback. This is a very interesting message board and I think I'll stay.

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*huggles*

Welcome to the boards I'm sure you will find someone just your speed. Sometimes it takes a while, so don't go giving up

Re: A girl lost in Illinois...

Soulfiregirl said:

(duplicated from "A Girl Lost In Illinois" thread)

Well, I'm not quite sure where to start. This is my very first post
on this board so bare with me since I'm a newbie here. I broke up with my exboyfriend several months ago. We broke up over various issues but one of the things I started to have a problem with was his sex drive didn't match mine. And I also realized that I wanted more in a sexual relationship than just "traditional" sex.

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Around these parts we call that "Vanilla" sex or "Celibacy".

Soulfiregirl said:

I've always been interested in the world of bondage but I have no idea how to really enter it. I posted a few ads on other alternative lifestyle websites but the only repsonses I got were from people who were into it heavy duty and very intense. I'm going to be very new to it so I ended up deleting the ads because I felt a bit overwhelemed. Like what am I getting myself into? I really don't know what to expect. (oh, and I'm also bi but I'll save that for another post in the future)

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To enter the secret world of bondage, you must be pure of heart and possess all the pieces of the Triforce...

Just kidding. One thing I've learned is that seeing yourself as entering this new world is misleading. The world is what YOU make of it. Spend a little time on this forum and you'll see that we all have very different views on what we're doing and how it should be done.

The heavy duty people can be intimidating, but don't be afraid to begin a dialogue. Many of them may be open or ever familiar with dealing with newbs and they might be the perfect introduction. Of course, many experienced people may not really want to work with someone inexperienced, listen carefully, you'll be able to tell who you're dealing with.

Soulfiregirl said:

I'm not sure if I put this in the right forum but where does someone look for someone else who might want to explore this type of sexuality with them if you're a beginner? I'm feeling kind of depressed about it actually because I don't think I'll ever be happy dating a "normal" guy or gal. I need someone who's a bit "out there" like me but I'm not sure where to start. Anyway, sorry for the whine. I'm just kind of venting a bit. I have some bondage stories that I'm working on that I plan on submitting soon.

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It is depressing sometimes, that the pool from which we draw satisfactory mates is far smaller than that for the general public. Whenever I think about this though, I always ask myself, would you change yourself if you could? Be satisfied with a vanilla lay every once in a while and spend leather money on home appliances. For me, the incredible satisfaction and pleasure that comes from being with a compatible mate is worth the pain of it's occassional absence. Although, I do drink Bud-light when there are no more Heinekens in the cooler.

Soulfiregirl said:

Maybe I'll post an ad for myself in the personals section on this board but I'm not sure what to put. Guess I'm looking for a little advice out there.

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The personal ad page on this board is hardly your best resource. If you're in a big city you can try Craig's List for free or Alt.com or bondage.com. As a female I'm sure you'll get tons of eager replies. If they will be satisfactory, I don't know.

Soulfiregirl said:

Thankyou in advance for any feedback. This is a very interesting message board and I think I'll stay.

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Just stay out of my way!

Hello All,

I am a 38 year old Dom, who is extremely interested in the psychology of serious BDSM play. I also like play which involves serious psychological and emotional torment, including objectification play, prolonged restrictive bondage and humiliation.

I looks like this site has a fair share of discussion about these topics, which is encouraging.

I am also looking forward to getting back to writing, so I hope to have a few stories done in the next few weeks.

David

creativesadist said:

Hello All,

I am a 38 year old Dom, who is extremely interested in the psychology of serious BDSM play. I also like play which involves serious psychological and emotional torment, including objectification play, prolonged restrictive bondage and humiliation.

I looks like this site has a fair share of discussion about these topics, which is encouraging.

I am also looking forward to getting back to writing, so I hope to have a few stories done in the next few weeks.

David

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Welcome to the boards!

Mmmm...gotta love a good mind fuck

Justin, lunar and marquis, thankyou for your warm welcomes. I am going to stick to the original thread I started in this forum instead of continuing to reply here (since this thread is now up to 107 pages...hee).

I just wanted to post a quick hi and thankyou for the kind words and advice. (especially to marquis, I like you already) And Justin, you are more then welcome to PM me anytime as well. Although it can take me a few days to get back to people sometimes. (darn job)

Thanks again guys.

Hi out there! I'm a 30 year old blonde, petite woman who has been seriously trying to get my hubbie interested in a BDSM lifestyle for awhile now. In everyday life I can be very Dom, but really in my heart of hearts, want to be a sub. We have played around with light bondage, but I would really love to take it a lot further then that. I thought I would pop into these forms and see what I could really learn from more seasoned folks then myself, so far the advice already posted has been really great, thanks!

I'm a hairdresser, love to paint, and music is my crack! I'm somewhat of an Aquaphile as well as a person with sub tendancies. I have know of my sub tendacies since I was a small child. When I would play cowboys and indians with other children and when it came to playing the damsel in distress, not only did I not mind one bit, but I wouldn't exactly be happy about being rescued when that time in the gameplay came. I would have been happier to be tied to the tree longer! Oh well, you can't always get what you want all the time, right?

I'm really hoping to gain a better knowledge of myself through bondage, it's something I feel compelled to experience, and I do take it quiet seriously. Thanks for reading my blather!

Re: Re: newbie me

lunarsubmissive said:

Welcome to the boards!!!!

Don't let anyone fool you...we're all angels here

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ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!

Oh Shit...Now THAT'S funny!!!!!!!!!!

HandFan said:

Hi out there! I'm a 30 year old blonde, petite woman who has been seriously trying to get my hubbie interested in a BDSM lifestyle for awhile now. In everyday life I can be very Dom, but really in my heart of hearts, want to be a sub. We have played around with light bondage, but I would really love to take it a lot further then that. I thought I would pop into these forms and see what I could really learn from more seasoned folks then myself, so far the advice already posted has been really great, thanks!

I'm a hairdresser, love to paint, and music is my crack! I'm somewhat of an Aquaphile as well as a person with sub tendancies. I have know of my sub tendacies since I was a small child. When I would play cowboys and indians with other children and when it came to playing the damsel in distress, not only did I not mind one bit, but I wouldn't exactly be happy about being rescued when that time in the gameplay came. I would have been happier to be tied to the tree longer! Oh well, you can't always get what you want all the time, right?

I'm really hoping to gain a better knowledge of myself through bondage, it's something I feel compelled to experience, and I do take it quiet seriously. Thanks for reading my blather!

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Welcome to the boards!!!