Old 08-09-2018, 01:10 PM   #1
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I need opinions

On may-december relationships. Not just sex, relationships.
Pros? Cons? Can they really work long-term? Is it worth it even trying? How bad is the backlash?
I'm really struggling with this right now and would love input!
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Old 08-09-2018, 01:20 PM   #2
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On may-december relationships. Not just sex, relationships.
Pros? Cons? Can they really work long-term? Is it worth it even trying? How bad is the backlash?
I'm really struggling with this right now and would love input!
is there some secret to may to December relationships?

any relationship can work if both parties participate and want it to work

the grass is greener WHERE YOU WATER IT

why are you struggling? what backlash are you expecting?
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Old 08-09-2018, 01:23 PM   #3
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Age is just a number as long as both of you are on the same page.
Are you currently with this person?
Whoís the May and whoís the December?
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Old 08-09-2018, 01:27 PM   #4
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If you're both happy then what's the problem?

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Old 08-09-2018, 01:47 PM   #6
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Backlash- "you'll be taking care of him in 10 years"
"Do you hate yourself so much you'll settle for an old guy"
"He just likes you because you're young"
Comments I have already recieved
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Old 08-09-2018, 01:57 PM   #7
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Backlash- "you'll be taking care of him in 10 years"
"Do you hate yourself so much you'll settle for an old guy"
"He just likes you because you're young"
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Love is love, not everyone finds it. If you make each other happy why care what other people think. Look in your own heart, what do you want and need. Does he meet those wants and needs and do you meet his? If so itís a no brainer, no one knows what will happen in ten years time. 🌸 if you feel like your settling then thatís a different matter and I would say donít itís better to be alone than to be with someone that makes you feel alone. 🌷
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Old 08-09-2018, 02:03 PM   #8
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Backlash- "you'll be taking care of him in 10 years"
"Do you hate yourself so much you'll settle for an old guy"
"He just likes you because you're young"
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#1 Is probably true.

#2 Is just just someoneís meanness

#3 If you donít think itís a factor, youíre kidding yourself.

Iíve found 10 years either way to be a good starting point for having enough in common to maintain a relationship. You can fake it for a while but the likelihood of actually understanding each other over the long term quickly diminishes.
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Old 08-09-2018, 02:03 PM   #9
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"He just likes you because you're young"
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Not sure your age difference but I know a couple 25 years apart. Her parents said heís as old as they are and all of that. Theyíve been together for years and have two children and are very happy...
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Old 08-09-2018, 02:08 PM   #10
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Stuff the age gap! If you both have a lot in common, can laugh together, compliment each other then its only each other that matter. Let the doubters go to hell!
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Old 08-09-2018, 03:32 PM   #11
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Do you want real opinions and actual food for thought or do you want people to tell you itís not a big deal? I can do either...
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Old 08-09-2018, 04:15 PM   #14
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Real opinions. People with experience would be great.
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Old 08-09-2018, 04:17 PM   #15
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Why? It's not something I went looking for, if that's what you mean. It's not a fantasy of mine, it just happens to be something I am now facing.
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Well depending on the age difference you may not actually have much in common over time, so consider that. Also itís very important that you donít underestimate the drain of being in a caregiver role... and how it will change everything, including who you are as people, much less the impact as a couple.
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Well depending on the age difference you may not actually have much in common over time, so consider that. Also itís very important that you donít underestimate the drain of being in a caregiver role... and how it will change everything, including who you are as people, much less the impact as a couple.
Being a caregiver is hard on any relationship. But, things like that can happen no matter what age difference. (My brother was 39 when he was paralyzed, his wife was 32... she took care of him for 9 years before he passed in March).


Looking at things isn't wrong. Only you (the OP) will know if you'd be willing to deal with whatever comes up. If it will bring you joy and you'll be happy, come what may.
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Old 08-09-2018, 05:35 PM   #18
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Good points all around... thank you
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Being a caregiver is hard on any relationship. But, things like that can happen no matter what age difference. (My brother was 39 when he was paralyzed, his wife was 32... she took care of him for 9 years before he passed in March).


Looking at things isn't wrong. Only you (the OP) will know if you'd be willing to deal with whatever comes up. If it will bring you joy and you'll be happy, come what may.
All so valid bfg, I just think itís important to look at.
And it can be harder than it sounds.
I just think realistically thinking about it is valuable
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