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Is edging, as a task, different for women?

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I have been edged by Dominants as a part of my submission and was able to achieve a level of control. Are submissive women able to do this for their Dominant?
My new sub in training is starting to look forward to his edging tasks every day. Giving up control of your orgasm can take a little getting used to, but he has submitted before. Now he loves staying aroused throughout the day instead of just one minute. And it’s not near as messy!
 
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Yes.
Just like with men, it takes a bit of practice to know where your limits are and when to stop.

In fact, women are even better at edging than men. Some women can edge, and than ride the edge without taking vibrator away - being stimulated but preventing themselves from cumming.
 
Edging a guy? Usually no problem. Some of the men I was with would not stand for that and wanted to cum as quickly as they could. But if they are into edging, I can do it.

Having someone else edge me? Torturous but at the same time I love it. Edging myself? Used to be next to impossible. I am working on it. I can do it now but it's difficult.
 
Thank you for that insight. You are someone who has taken the time to experiment and learn what her body is capable of. Can't wait to read it!
 
Interesting how differently it affects people and how easy or hard it can be. I hope you are rewarded with hours of pleasure when you finally master it. Looking forward to reading more of your work!
 
I'm not really sure how different it is for a woman than a man, because I only have experience with it as a sub woman, but I can say this. For me it was a learned skill, in that the more times I did it, the longer I was able to do it for, & now, the longer I edge for, the more aroused I become. It's like a building process.

I still can't do it indefinitely, though. I'm not sure anyone can, at least without backing off & allowing their arousal to subside, at least partially. Eventually, despite trying my best to hold it back, I explode.
 
I love edging. as a male I have done it for others a couple of times. its hard to stop at the right time. but when you do it a couple of times in a row it just drives me nuts and harder to stop each time.
I would love to do this to a woman. but hard to tell when to stop with her
 
I love edging, it always makes a for an explosive blast when I finally let go. Edging a lady is tricky in my experience but the result when done right is enjoyable for both parties.
 
Confirming what someone above said... women are better at this than men. For me personally (man), I have to stop stimulation to be able to hold back... but I have had several (female) subs who, after some training, could refrain from orgasm despite strong stimulation, by mind control alone. Me denying them, and them wanting to please me, may have helped ofc...
 
OllieK said:
Can you explain 'Edge' to a complete novice?
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It's when you get stimulated to the point where you are just about to orgasm, and then all stimulation is taken away, leaving you horny, frustrated, and wanting more. This is normally done several times in a row, making the submissive crazy with the desire to cum, and the orgasm after that often feels much better and gratifying.

There's also edge riding, where a person is brought to almost cumming, just a few strokes away from orgasm, and then stimulated lightly, being held there, but not allowed to orgasm. That's an advanced version.

As mentioned before, some women can ride their edge and resist cumming just through willpower, just because they want to tease themselves or want to obey Dom's orders. I'm yet to hear about one male who can do that, though - men often need the stimulation to be taken away.

Edging may feel bad and pointless for some people. But for others, it may also feel extremely pleasing.
Edging can be done solo, to yourself - you merely need the willpower to stop your hand. It also that may require practice and knowing your limits.
 
Nezhul said:
It's when you get stimulated to the point where you are just about to orgasm, and then all stimulation is taken away, leaving you horny, frustrated, and wanting more. This is normally done several times in a row, making the submissive crazy with the desire to cum, and the orgasm after that often feels much better and gratifying.

There's also edge riding, where a person is brought to almost cumming, just a few strokes away from orgasm, and then stimulated lightly, being held there, but not allowed to orgasm. That's an advanced version.

As mentioned before, some women can ride their edge and resist cumming just through willpower, just because they want to tease themselves or want to obey Dom's orders. I'm yet to hear about one male who can do that, though - men often need the stimulation to be taken away.

Edging may feel bad and pointless for some people. But for others, it may also feel extremely pleasing.
Edging can be done solo, to yourself - you merely need the willpower to stop your hand. It also that may require practice and knowing your limits.
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Well said Nez.
 
Nezhul said:
It's when you get stimulated to the point where you are just about to orgasm, and then all stimulation is taken away, leaving you horny, frustrated, and wanting more. This is normally done several times in a row, making the submissive crazy with the desire to cum, and the orgasm after that often feels much better and gratifying.

There's also edge riding, where a person is brought to almost cumming, just a few strokes away from orgasm, and then stimulated lightly, being held there, but not allowed to orgasm. That's an advanced version.

As mentioned before, some women can ride their edge and resist cumming just through willpower, just because they want to tease themselves or want to obey Dom's orders. I'm yet to hear about one male who can do that, though - men often need the stimulation to be taken away.

Edging may feel bad and pointless for some people. But for others, it may also feel extremely pleasing.
Edging can be done solo, to yourself - you merely need the willpower to stop your hand. It also that may require practice and knowing your limits.
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Sounds good to me, i do this to myself for hours when I can. I am horny for days.
 
I've been edging myself for years. Usually I will just stroke and browse porn, but always back off just before reaching the point of no return. I've done this for extended amounts of time when time permitted.

The one thing I've found is that after a certain amount of time, it can start to work against me, meaning that my body gets so used to the edge in that session that getting over the edge and to orgasm becomes increasingly difficult. My best guess at when this happens is probably after the 1 hour mark.
 
I have edged for years. It's almost become my normal way of "life", even though quick release is nice too.. :)

Don't know if anyone can relate, but I sometimes edge to an extent that it affects my sleep, purposely that is. Edging keeps me awake if I do it right, keeping the level of arousal high enough to block sleep, and then when release finally comes..? Oh yes..

I write a lot, and the last year participating in sexual role-plays here, I find it exciting to write (edge), wait for a reply (maybe with some assistance of porn), edge again, write.. and so on.

Switching between vaginal and anal play is also a good approach, I have found.
 
SannaBlonde82 said:
I have edged for years. It's almost become my normal way of "life", even though quick release is nice too.. :)

Don't know if anyone can relate, but I sometimes edge to an extent that it affects my sleep, purposely that is. Edging keeps me awake if I do it right, keeping the level of arousal high enough to block sleep, and then when release finally comes..? Oh yes..

I write a lot, and the last year participating in sexual role-plays here, I find it exciting to write (edge), wait for a reply (maybe with some assistance of porn), edge again, write.. and so on.

Switching between vaginal and anal play is also a good approach, I have found.
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I can relate to the connection between edging and sleep. I like to edge for a couple of hours during the afternoon. But, if it is not 'completed' with an orgasm, I have trouble sleeping that night. It is as if my body is waiting for and wanting that final climax and not willing to quit for sleep. So I push the limits as I approach the end of the day, and pow! it is marvelous...
 
As a female, I love this. I started edging myself as i was fantasizing about something while playing and wanted to prolong things. It got seriously hot chatting with guys, I didnt want the chats to end and found if i edge myself it makes the high that much higher. When I finally built up the courage to tell guys I was chatting with what I was doing and giving them the control over when, that was another world.

When im in a session like that i usually stop start, i can ride an edge but not for longer than 30 seconds. It takes a lot of self control but it puts me in a head space where i totally lose myself, my desire and need build so much and that in turn, turns my submissive switch fully on and i become a lot more complient and much more in need of more kinky things, humiliation becomes a huge thing for me
 
Nezhul said:
As mentioned before, some women can ride their edge and resist cumming just through willpower, just because they want to tease themselves or want to obey Dom's orders. I'm yet to hear about one male who can do that, though - men often need the stimulation to be taken away.
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I have wondered for a while if edging for a submissive female is more intense than it is for other roles and genders? It could be that the sub by edging feels a deeper and greater connection to her dom Through the heightened sense and intensity of the need for release but yet the self denial and with the feeling of connection through knowing or feeling that her own denial is pleasing to her dom.
 
Little_louise_uk said:
As a female, I love this. I started edging myself as i was fantasizing about something while playing and wanted to prolong things. It got seriously hot chatting with guys, I didnt want the chats to end and found if i edge myself it makes the high that much higher. When I finally built up the courage to tell guys I was chatting with what I was doing and giving them the control over when, that was another world.

When im in a session like that i usually stop start, i can ride an edge but not for longer than 30 seconds. It takes a lot of self control but it puts me in a head space where i totally lose myself, my desire and need build so much and that in turn, turns my submissive switch fully on and i become a lot more complient and much more in need of more kinky things, humiliation becomes a huge thing for me
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What an amazing first post!! Well said my dear. I also love edging and am getting in to it as a task for others. Hit me up with a pm if you’d like to talk further about it.
 
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I disagree, when I edge it is usually controlled by both mental control as well as physical control. I usually don’t ever stop stimulation, I either control the speed and focus of stroking my cock and then if I need to stop stroking all together to let feeling of pressure calm down for a second or two I will move to squeezing my balls. It make the inevitable cum eruption that much more powerful if I keep constant but controlled stimulation.
 
Have you ever edged as a task? Getting to the edge in a manner prescribed by a dominant and then stopping completely? After awhile I began to see edging as and end unto itself. I began to look forward to it and enjoy all the tiny orgasms it gave me. And there is never any down time as you can stay aroused throughout the day. It also keeps the submissive engaged and focused on their submission, I use it often now in training my submissive.
 
I find edging so so difficult, whether solo or whether being directed. The idea of it turns me on a lot but and makes me drip but I haven’t mastered it completely yet. So wish I could though! I must be stopping either too soon or past the point of no return. It seems if I try to hold out for too long it gets painful - not sure yet if it’s a good painful - and it gets harder to orgasm? But the relief when I do ....!
 
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