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X doesn't work alone

I think I will just masturbate when I'm in the mood, unless I have assistance when I'm not in the mood.

Problem solved
 
You seem to have very little interest in sex. You then want to ask a bunch of sexual people what they do to have an interest in sex, but you don't want to listen to anyone. I highly suggest that you consider identifying as an asexual. Asexuals can and do enjoy masturbation on occasion. Enjoy it when you enjoy it and when you don't feel like enjoying it don't. Its not a math problem.

If you are someone's partner who was reporting your low libido and asking for suggestions on how to increase your libido they tried all of the suggestions here with you and you as a partner refused all of them we would tell them this person has a low libido...leave them alone it isn't going to change due to applying pressure.

If a partner was treating your body the way you treat your body sexually you would not respond to it. The other thing to consider is that you are a woman and subject to hormonal cycles. You are not a 14 year old boy whose libido dictates that he has an erection several times daily. I suspect you will find that the days that you are in the mood are the days that you are ovulating and shortly before you begin your period. If those are the only days that you are in the mood those are the only days you are going to be in the mood. Especially when you are basically saying that you refuse to stimulate your body or your mind to get in the mood however you want to be in the mood. This is called circular logic that's why you're having trouble with this.
 
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Conager said:
You seem to have very little interest in sex. You then want to ask a bunch of sexual people what they do to have an interest in sex, but you don't want to listen to anyone. I highly suggest that you consider identifying as an asexual. Asexuals can and do enjoy masturbation on occasion. Enjoy it when you enjoy it and when you don't feel like enjoying it don't. Its not a math problem.

If you are someone's partner who was reporting your low libido and asking for suggestions on how to increase your libido they tried all of the suggestions here with you and you as a partner refused all of them we would tell them this person has a low libido...leave them alone it isn't going to change due to applying pressure.

If a partner was treating your body the way you treat your body sexually you would not respond to it. The other thing to consider is that you are a woman and subject to hormonal cycles. You are not a 14 year old boy whose libido dictates that he has an erection several times daily. I suspect you will find that the days that you are in the mood are the days that you are ovulating and shortly before you begin your period. If those are the only days that you are in the mood those are the only days you are going to be in the mood. Especially when you are basically saying that you refuse to stimulate your body or your mind to get in the mood however you want to be in the mood. This is called circular logic that's why you're having trouble with this.
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I'm a virgin and I've never had a partner.
 
Conager said:
You seem to have very little interest in sex. You then want to ask a bunch of sexual people what they do to have an interest in sex, but you don't want to listen to anyone. I highly suggest that you consider identifying as an asexual. Asexuals can and do enjoy masturbation on occasion. Enjoy it when you enjoy it and when you don't feel like enjoying it don't. Its not a math problem.

If you are someone's partner who was reporting your low libido and asking for suggestions on how to increase your libido they tried all of the suggestions here with you and you as a partner refused all of them we would tell them this person has a low libido...leave them alone it isn't going to change due to applying pressure.

If a partner was treating your body the way you treat your body sexually you would not respond to it. The other thing to consider is that you are a woman and subject to hormonal cycles. You are not a 14 year old boy whose libido dictates that he has an erection several times daily. I suspect you will find that the days that you are in the mood are the days that you are ovulating and shortly before you begin your period. If those are the only days that you are in the mood those are the only days you are going to be in the mood. Especially when you are basically saying that you refuse to stimulate your body or your mind to get in the mood however you want to be in the mood. This is called circular logic that's why you're having trouble with this.
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I asked:

Not in the mood to masturbate+X=In the mood to masturbate.
What could X be?

This wasn't about sex.
 
Conager said:
You seem to have very little interest in sex. You then want to ask a bunch of sexual people what they do to have an interest in sex, but you don't want to listen to anyone. I highly suggest that you consider identifying as an asexual. Asexuals can and do enjoy masturbation on occasion. Enjoy it when you enjoy it and when you don't feel like enjoying it don't. Its not a math problem.

If you are someone's partner who was reporting your low libido and asking for suggestions on how to increase your libido they tried all of the suggestions here with you and you as a partner refused all of them we would tell them this person has a low libido...leave them alone it isn't going to change due to applying pressure.

If a partner was treating your body the way you treat your body sexually you would not respond to it. The other thing to consider is that you are a woman and subject to hormonal cycles. You are not a 14 year old boy whose libido dictates that he has an erection several times daily. I suspect you will find that the days that you are in the mood are the days that you are ovulating and shortly before you begin your period. If those are the only days that you are in the mood those are the only days you are going to be in the mood. Especially when you are basically saying that you refuse to stimulate your body or your mind to get in the mood however you want to be in the mood. This is called circular logic that's why you're having trouble with this.
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I'm already interested in sex. This was about what to do when I'm not in the mood to masturbate.
Answer=don't do anything.
 
Conager said:
You seem to have very little interest in sex. You then want to ask a bunch of sexual people what they do to have an interest in sex, but you don't want to listen to anyone. I highly suggest that you consider identifying as an asexual. Asexuals can and do enjoy masturbation on occasion. Enjoy it when you enjoy it and when you don't feel like enjoying it don't. Its not a math problem.

If you are someone's partner who was reporting your low libido and asking for suggestions on how to increase your libido they tried all of the suggestions here with you and you as a partner refused all of them we would tell them this person has a low libido...leave them alone it isn't going to change due to applying pressure.

If a partner was treating your body the way you treat your body sexually you would not respond to it. The other thing to consider is that you are a woman and subject to hormonal cycles. You are not a 14 year old boy whose libido dictates that he has an erection several times daily. I suspect you will find that the days that you are in the mood are the days that you are ovulating and shortly before you begin your period. If those are the only days that you are in the mood those are the only days you are going to be in the mood. Especially when you are basically saying that you refuse to stimulate your body or your mind to get in the mood however you want to be in the mood. This is called circular logic that's why you're having trouble with this.
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I'm actually in the mood quite often without doing anything.

I was looking for what to do when I'm not but that was unnecessary.
 
Conager said:
You seem to have very little interest in sex. You then want to ask a bunch of sexual people what they do to have an interest in sex, but you don't want to listen to anyone. I highly suggest that you consider identifying as an asexual. Asexuals can and do enjoy masturbation on occasion. Enjoy it when you enjoy it and when you don't feel like enjoying it don't. Its not a math problem.

If you are someone's partner who was reporting your low libido and asking for suggestions on how to increase your libido they tried all of the suggestions here with you and you as a partner refused all of them we would tell them this person has a low libido...leave them alone it isn't going to change due to applying pressure.

If a partner was treating your body the way you treat your body sexually you would not respond to it. The other thing to consider is that you are a woman and subject to hormonal cycles. You are not a 14 year old boy whose libido dictates that he has an erection several times daily. I suspect you will find that the days that you are in the mood are the days that you are ovulating and shortly before you begin your period. If those are the only days that you are in the mood those are the only days you are going to be in the mood. Especially when you are basically saying that you refuse to stimulate your body or your mind to get in the mood however you want to be in the mood. This is called circular logic that's why you're having trouble with this.
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I don't have a low libido.

I was just being greedy and trying to find a way I can be in the mood on command.

Doesn't exist apparently.
 
I notice you still haven't answered my questions on if you've tried exercising, or how you go about "relaxing" in order to masturbate. Are you familiar with the concept of "eustress"?
 
Conager said:
You seem to have very little interest in sex. You then want to ask a bunch of sexual people what they do to have an interest in sex, but you don't want to listen to anyone. I highly suggest that you consider identifying as an asexual. Asexuals can and do enjoy masturbation on occasion. Enjoy it when you enjoy it and when you don't feel like enjoying it don't. Its not a math problem.

If you are someone's partner who was reporting your low libido and asking for suggestions on how to increase your libido they tried all of the suggestions here with you and you as a partner refused all of them we would tell them this person has a low libido...leave them alone it isn't going to change due to applying pressure.

If a partner was treating your body the way you treat your body sexually you would not respond to it. The other thing to consider is that you are a woman and subject to hormonal cycles. You are not a 14 year old boy whose libido dictates that he has an erection several times daily. I suspect you will find that the days that you are in the mood are the days that you are ovulating and shortly before you begin your period. If those are the only days that you are in the mood those are the only days you are going to be in the mood. Especially when you are basically saying that you refuse to stimulate your body or your mind to get in the mood however you want to be in the mood. This is called circular logic that's why you're having trouble with this.
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I'm already interested in sex so I don't need advice on how to be interested in sex.
 
When I'm already in the mood, I don't have to do anything. It just happens. That's how it is with me.
 
greengamegirl said:
I'm already interested in sex so I don't need advice on how to be interested in sex.
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X=you are interested in sex.

Masturbation = sex.

( Insert 3 dots symbol for therefore) you are interested in masturbation. Interested equals in the mood...therefore problem solved. Enjoy. Glad I could help.
 
Conager said:
X=you are interested in sex.

Masturbation = sex.

( Insert 3 dots symbol for therefore) you are interested in masturbation. Interested equals in the mood...therefore problem solved. Enjoy. Glad I could help.
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This is like what I said before. I should only masturbate when I'm in the mood.
 
Conager said:
X=you are interested in sex.

Masturbation = sex.

( Insert 3 dots symbol for therefore) you are interested in masturbation. Interested equals in the mood...therefore problem solved. Enjoy. Glad I could help.
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I didn't equate masturbation with sex so now I see why so many people were confused.
 
Conager said:
X=you are interested in sex.

Masturbation = sex.

( Insert 3 dots symbol for therefore) you are interested in masturbation. Interested equals in the mood...therefore problem solved. Enjoy. Glad I could help.
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It might help to add even when I wasn't in the mood, thinking about my professor was enough.

This thread wasn't about that though. It was about finding other things.
 
greengamegirl said:
I didn't equate masturbation with sex so now I see why so many people were confused.
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The person that is confused here is you. Because you do not understand that masturbation is sex with yourself.

Imagine if you had a partner and you were trying to resolve this in exactly the same way that you're trying to resolve it here.

Honey I would like to have sex tonight but I'm not in the mood.

They say great I have a list of 18 different things that might help get you in the mood.

No none of those things work for me unless I'm already in the mood so therefore I don't want to try anything that might get me in the mood I just want the mood to happen independently of any outside or internal stimulation.
 
Conager said:
X=you are interested in sex.

Masturbation = sex.

( Insert 3 dots symbol for therefore) you are interested in masturbation. Interested equals in the mood...therefore problem solved. Enjoy. Glad I could help.
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Yeah it was that simple. Don't masturbate when you aren't in the mood.
 
Conager said:
The person that is confused here is you. Because you do not understand that masturbation is sex with yourself.

Imagine if you had a partner and you were trying to resolve this in exactly the same way that you're trying to resolve it here.

Honey I would like to have sex tonight but I'm not in the mood.

They say great I have a list of 18 different things that might help get you in the mood.

No none of those things work for me unless I'm already in the mood so therefore I don't want to try anything that might get me in the mood I just want the mood to happen independently of any outside or internal stimulation.
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I already admitted to being confused and that you were right.

Now that I get sex and masturbation are the same thing it makes sense.
 
Conager said:
The person that is confused here is you. Because you do not understand that masturbation is sex with yourself.

Imagine if you had a partner and you were trying to resolve this in exactly the same way that you're trying to resolve it here.

Honey I would like to have sex tonight but I'm not in the mood.

They say great I have a list of 18 different things that might help get you in the mood.

No none of those things work for me unless I'm already in the mood so therefore I don't want to try anything that might get me in the mood I just want the mood to happen independently of any outside or internal stimulation.
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I get how ridiculous it sounds if sex and masturbation are the same things.
 
Conager said:
The person that is confused here is you. Because you do not understand that masturbation is sex with yourself.

Imagine if you had a partner and you were trying to resolve this in exactly the same way that you're trying to resolve it here.

Honey I would like to have sex tonight but I'm not in the mood.

They say great I have a list of 18 different things that might help get you in the mood.

No none of those things work for me unless I'm already in the mood so therefore I don't want to try anything that might get me in the mood I just want the mood to happen independently of any outside or internal stimulation.
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Would it help if I just said you're right?

I don't want you to keep explaining now that I get sex and masturbation are the same thing.
 
greengamegirl said:
I asked:

Not in the mood to masturbate+X=In the mood to masturbate.
What could X be?

This wasn't about sex.
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It has everything to do with sex.....x = sexiness sexiness has everything to do about sex. You keep contradicting yourself.
Update... i just caught up and realized you got up to speed. Awesome!
 
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Get a rabbit vibrator or a magic wand vibrator. Cheap, easy and discreet to purchase online. I know that you're saying you don't have problems masturbating, but what you are saying is honestly somewhat conflicting. Knowing that you will get an orgasm easily will make you more inclined to do it. It is harder to come when you're not very aroused. It's as simple as that. Vibes will help. And about porn - if you don't enjoy porn you may need to look around for different kinds of porn. Consider female friendly porn or lesbian porn (I am straight but like watching lesbian porn because of the great oral). You're on lit so I suppose you already read erotica. Go into different sections, try something else. Try audio porn. And obviously, I hope that in the future you'll want to experience sex with someone else. It's one of life's greatest pleasures and life is short. Good luck!
 
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