How to find a Girlfriend or a Fuckbuddy

I'm a 20 year old single male (Obviously), who's super horny and chilled out.

Love fun conversations and depending on the mood I can be submissive or dominant. I absolutely love and adore all forms of kink and am open to experimenting. (Even pissplay)

I love talking to and hanging out with a lot of people and as such have great friends but I've always just had friends, nothing more and nothing less.

Tinder is a piece of shit in my Country and so I have to go the old school way.

Ladies, your advice is greatly appreciated.

P.s (Love Literotica and the LitFam)

lordpayne666 said:

I'm a 20 year old single male (Obviously), who's super horny and chilled out.

Love fun conversations and depending on the mood I can be submissive or dominant. I absolutely love and adore all forms of kink and am open to experimenting. (Even pissplay)

I love talking to and hanging out with a lot of people and as such have great friends but I've always just had friends, nothing more and nothing less.

Tinder is a piece of shit in my Country and so I have to go the old school way.

Ladies, your advice is greatly appreciated.

P.s (Love Literotica and the LitFam)

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Fine. I'll bite.

Treat any woman like she's a human being, worthy of respect, not as a potential plaything - even if you are interested in a play-partner. She's a living, breathing human being, not an object for you to get off of. Entering any prospective relationship (and yes, being fuck-buddies is a relationship. Not intimate or romantic, but a relationship nonetheless) with the attitude that you are super horny isn't exactly placing her interest in the forefront, is it? If you're that horny, then I'd like you to meet your hand.

What you have to ask yourself is what do you have to offer? Why should she get to know you and consider you as a potential partner? What do you bring to the table? And by the way, "I'm a nice guy who treats women well and am super respectful and considerate" should be in the description of being a good human being, not an asset as a potential (play)-mate.

By approaching women as intelligent human beings, and getting to know them as individuals, you will be able to meet and connect with someone, where you are able to satisfy each other's needs, as opposed to solely your own.

Just my inflated 0.02$.

Good luck

You presume he's approaching women at all.

He's orbiting near them being "chill."

I'll give you the same advice I give everyone. Self love. Work on that. You won't have to find them. They'll find you!

fire_breeze said:

Fine. I'll bite.

Treat any woman like she's a human being, worthy of respect, not as a potential plaything - even if you are interested in a play-partner. She's a living, breathing human being, not an object for you to get off of. Entering any prospective relationship (and yes, being fuck-buddies is a relationship. Not intimate or romantic, but a relationship nonetheless) with the attitude that you are super horny isn't exactly placing her interest in the forefront, is it? If you're that horny, then I'd like you to meet your hand.

What you have to ask yourself is what do you have to offer? Why should she get to know you and consider you as a potential partner? What do you bring to the table? And by the way, "I'm a nice guy who treats women well and am super respectful and considerate" should be in the description of being a good human being.

By approaching women as intelligent human beings, and getting to know them as individuals, you will be able to meet and connect with someone, where you are able to satisfy each other's needs, as opposed to solely your own.

Just my inflated 0.02$.

Good luck

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Yeah that'll never work

some ideas

when i figured out that girls need and want loving just as much as guys
and realized that they didn't all need to be up on a pedestal
things just kind of fell into place

if you see a girl you like....just tell her
sometimes you do have to kiss a few frogs to find a real princess
but …..that is just part of it

stop being introverted, voyeuristic, etc....and just talk to some girls
more girls have come onto me than i have ever come onto
but not one ever did before i figured out how people really work

fwiw (and i wish i had known at 20 what i know now!!)

Jada59 said:

Self love. Work on that. You won't have to find them. They'll find you!

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I get your intention for saying this, however a person who describes of themself as follows

lordpayne666 said:

I'm a 20 year old single male (Obviously), who's super horny

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probably thinks they have that in hand anyway and only the other hand is all that may be attracted to join in.

To the OP, your horniness does not provide you a right to have anyone interested in you, nor that "male (obviously)" thing either. As fire_breeze suggested, what do you actually have to offer beyond what are just seeking to experience for yourself?

If you genuinely want to know someone and are sincere in your efforts then the intensity of life experiences, including sex, can be of a much higher level than you are likely to achieve just being a horny young male wanting a fuck.

At 20 your adult life is just starting and should be full of experiences to come. If people are to share their opinions of you aim for the opposite of self-centred. A good lover is not one who takes but is someone who cares enough to offer the very best of themself to meet the very best of desire in their partner. To offer the very best means you will have to make the effort to genuinely know your partner. Listen and care enough to act on what you hear. To experience the very best desire of someone you both have to contribute in creating space that allows total comfort and freedom to express. Make a genuine effort, listen, be caring, be attentive and be a good person.

Treat sex as the most precious gift to receive and offer.

Magnar is reading this thread.

Magnar said:

Magnar is reading this thread.

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Good for you!

Question

So I read a lot. What I want to know. Is I'm a great looking built Male. And lately I've been wanting to try to find another Male that is into me wearing Woman's under clothes and Pleasing me the way that I please Woman. I been watching a lot of Porn and watch the pleasuring faces the woman have in the Videos as well as my Fiancee. Crazy how I don't feel satisfied after Sex. Can someone give me any insight on my Situation.

When it comes up in conversation with suitable females around mention that while finding a " Girlfriend " would be nice too... an FWB or even just an FB would work but don't make too fine of a point about it too often.

They are curious and you never can tell what they will do later...

Sometimes you have to obviously bait a hook to catch something nice.

fire_breeze said:

Fine. I'll bite.

Treat any woman like she's a human being, worthy of respect, not as a potential plaything - even if you are interested in a play-partner. She's a living, breathing human being, not an object for you to get off of. Entering any prospective relationship (and yes, being fuck-buddies is a relationship. Not intimate or romantic, but a relationship nonetheless) with the attitude that you are super horny isn't exactly placing her interest in the forefront, is it? If you're that horny, then I'd like you to meet your hand.

What you have to ask yourself is what do you have to offer? Why should she get to know you and consider you as a potential partner? What do you bring to the table? And by the way, "I'm a nice guy who treats women well and am super respectful and considerate" should be in the description of being a good human being, not an asset as a potential (play)-mate.

By approaching women as intelligent human beings, and getting to know them as individuals, you will be able to meet and connect with someone, where you are able to satisfy each other's needs, as opposed to solely your own.

Just my inflated 0.02$.

Good luck

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First off, thanks for taking time to write. I've been super unsuccessful in finding girls and not because I treat them as objects and shit. I've always been a friend to literally every single girl I've known. I used to hate myself a lot and was clinically depressed for 8 years and attempted to kill myself quite a few times. Of course now, I'm a totally different person. I am by no means a jerk but I am quite straightforward and if I really like the person I'm kind of shy around them. I have no problem talking to people and have absolutely no problem with confidence or treating women as humans and such. I greatly value any and all relations and would love to get to know someone up close and personal although the only thing I've accomplished is becoming a great friend.

Yo! How's it going Magnar?

I shit you not man, that's some solid advice right there. I do love myself a lot and have no problems as such nowadays but I'm still confused as to what I gotta do when it comes to someone I like. Specially if I've known them. I come from a country where every single person is either an Aunt or an Uncle (I'm talking about totally random people) and every person you know is a friend not an acquaintance.

Hey man! I didn't really get what you were saying, could you elaborate?