Writing erotica is making me sex-crazed?!

OK so I started on my first erotica novel yesterday and now I am addicted. I can’t stop writing (the hours just fly by) and when I’m not writing I’m thinking about my characters and where the story is going to go. I’m constantly having ideas that I have to note in my iPhone ... my husband is going to think I’m having an affair because I’m constantly typing into it.

But what is also rather strange is that as my characters fall in love, I feel like I am. I’m skipping around doing my normal chores in a daydream. I practically jumped my husband last night when he came to bed, because he interrupted me in the middle of writing my first sex scene with my characters. I feel like a sexual animal, like you do when you are in the throes of lust with a new partner.

Is this normal?!

The come down is going to be so sad...

ShudderAtNight said:

OK so I started on my first erotica novel yesterday and now I am addicted. I can’t stop writing (the hours just fly by) and when I’m not writing I’m thinking about my characters and where the story is going to go. I’m constantly having ideas that I have to note in my iPhone ... my husband is going to think I’m having an affair because I’m constantly typing into it.

But what is also rather strange is that as my characters fall in love, I feel like I am. I’m skipping around doing my normal chores in a daydream. I practically jumped my husband last night when he came to bed, because he interrupted me in the middle of writing my first sex scene with my characters. I feel like a sexual animal, like you do when you are in the throes of lust with a new partner.

Is this normal?!

The come down is going to be so sad...

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This is normal. At least in my experience. My partner seems to enjoy the side effects. He certainly looks forward to the "what do you think of this...?" bits.

ShudderAtNight said:

OK so I started on my first erotica novel yesterday and now I am addicted. I can’t stop writing (the hours just fly by) and when I’m not writing I’m thinking about my characters and where the story is going to go. I’m constantly having ideas that I have to note in my iPhone ... my husband is going to think I’m having an affair because I’m constantly typing into it.

But what is also rather strange is that as my characters fall in love, I feel like I am. I’m skipping around doing my normal chores in a daydream. I practically jumped my husband last night when he came to bed, because he interrupted me in the middle of writing my first sex scene with my characters. I feel like a sexual animal, like you do when you are in the throes of lust with a new partner.

Is this normal?!

The come down is going to be so sad...

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So why go through a come down? As soon as you finish the story, start the next one.

My characters are real people to me. I absolutely love them. Is that normal? I don't know, I don't care. I believe that you have to feel that way if you are going to make them real for others.

Post a link when you've published, so we can read it!

Quite normal. If you don't fall in love with your characters, why do you think anyone else will?

I don't know if there is a "normal". It seems like the maddness affects us all a little differently. My characters talk to me; I hear their voices in my head, clear as a bell. Sometimes they talk to each other, like I'm not even there. As irritating as it is when they wake me up in the middle of the night, I'd miss them if they left me.

The erotica-authoring MC of Story of My Fucking Life must try out all her scenarios. It gets messy. Myself, I cheat and just lie about that stuff.

Writing erotica is making me sex-crazed?!
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OK so I started on my first erotica novel yesterday and now I am addicted. I can’t stop writing (the hours just fly by) and when I’m not writing I’m thinking about my characters and where the story is going to go. I’m constantly having ideas that I have to note in my iPhone ... my husband is going to think I’m having an affair because I’m constantly typing into it.

But what is also rather strange is that as my characters fall in love, I feel like I am. I’m skipping around doing my normal chores in a daydream. I practically jumped my husband last night when he came to bed, because he interrupted me in the middle of writing my first sex scene with my characters. I feel like a sexual animal, like you do when you are in the throes of lust with a new partner.

Is this normal?!

The come down is going to be so sad...

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Sounds pretty normal to me--when you explore what situations you can get your characters into, the sexual side of your brain picks up on that. I'm sure your husband, as beneficiary to your writing enterprise, will be buying you writing pads, pens, or whatever you need to jot down your thoughts. He will insure you'll never have a come down.

Good luck with your writing, and please let us know when you've posted your first story.

I'm glad to hear this. I thought I was suffering from a second adolescence. I haven't had this much libido since I was 19 or so. Who needs pills when you're putting your deepest fantasies in electrons. oops, just had an idea. Where did I put that maple syrup?

Alas, unfortunately, and sadly so...

Even though the name of this site is Literotica and not Literpornography, too many of the readers who read here will down vote your story if you don't have talking heads having sex within the first paragraph. They don't want erotica. They want pornography.

Too many readers don't understand or care about character development. Too many writers don't even name their characters, forget about describing their characters.

It's unfortunate that readers and many writers don't care about character development, dialogue, imagery, description, plot, a beginning, a middle, and an ending, background, and foreground. What they want is sex, sex, and more sex.

They don't want a story. They want sex. For every reader who enjoys a well written erotic story, if they vote at all, there are 10 other readers who will give you a 1, bashing vote because you didn't start your story with sex, have sex throughout the entire story, and end your story with sex.

Instead of working hard to write a good, erotic story, you'd probably get a better score by writing ass, tits, pussy, cock, testicles, hand jobs, blowjobs, masturbating, and fucking over and again.

Unfortunately, this site is not for talented writers. This site is more for dirty, old men who are sexual perverts. This site is geared more to those who want to masturbate over your story than to read your story.

Forget about writing erotica, you'd be better off writing pornography or finding a different site, one that will appreciate the hard work that it takes to write a good, erotic story.

Good luck with your writing.

SusanJillParker said:

Even though the name of this site is Literotica and not Literpornography, too many of the readers who read here will down vote your story if you don't have talking heads having sex within the first paragraph. They don't want erotica. They want pornography.

Too many readers don't understand or care about character development. Too many writers don't even name their characters, forget about describing their characters.

It's unfortunate that readers and many writers don't care about character development, dialogue, imagery, description, plot, a beginning, a middle, and an ending, background, and foreground. What they want is sex, sex, and more sex.

They don't want a story. They want sex. For every reader who enjoys a well written erotic story, if they vote at all, there are 10 other readers who will give you a 1, bashing vote because you didn't start your story with sex, have sex throughout the entire story, and end your story with sex.

Instead of working hard to write a good, erotic story, you'd probably get a better score by writing ass, tits, pussy, cock, testicles, hand jobs, blowjobs, masturbating, and fucking over and again.

Unfortunately, this site is not for talented writers. This site is more for dirty, old men who are sexual perverts. This site is geared more to those who want to masturbate over your story than to read your story.

Forget about writing erotica, you'd be better off writing pornography or finding a different site, one that will appreciate the hard work that it takes to write a good, erotic story.

Good luck with your writing.

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That’s not my experience. I’ve made 21 story submissions that have relatively minimal explicitly sexual content. Every one has at least a 4.50 rating.

SusanJillParker said:

It's unfortunate that readers and many writers don't care about character development, dialogue, imagery, description, plot, a beginning, a middle, and an ending, background, and foreground. What they want is sex, sex, and more sex.

They don't want a story. They want sex. For every reader who enjoys a well written erotic story, if they vote at all, there are 10 other readers who will give you a 1, bashing vote because you didn't start your story with sex, have sex throughout the entire story, and end your story with sex.

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I'm with MB on this. That's not my experience at all. I feel pretty good about the results I get from giving the readers characters, imagery and stories, often with pretty dilute sex.

SusanJillParker said:

Even though the name of this site is Literotica and not Literpornography, too many of the readers who read here will down vote your story if you don't have talking heads having sex within the first paragraph. They don't want erotica. They want pornography.

Too many readers don't understand or care about character development. Too many writers don't even name their characters, forget about describing their characters.

It's unfortunate that readers and many writers don't care about character development, dialogue, imagery, description, plot, a beginning, a middle, and an ending, background, and foreground. What they want is sex, sex, and more sex.

They don't want a story. They want sex. For every reader who enjoys a well written erotic story, if they vote at all, there are 10 other readers who will give you a 1, bashing vote because you didn't start your story with sex, have sex throughout the entire story, and end your story with sex.

Instead of working hard to write a good, erotic story, you'd probably get a better score by writing ass, tits, pussy, cock, testicles, hand jobs, blowjobs, masturbating, and fucking over and again.

Unfortunately, this site is not for talented writers. This site is more for dirty, old men who are sexual perverts. This site is geared more to those who want to masturbate over your story than to read your story.

Forget about writing erotica, you'd be better off writing pornography or finding a different site, one that will appreciate the hard work that it takes to write a good, erotic story.

Good luck with your writing.

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I don't agree with this. The only generalization you can make about Literotica's readership is that it's very large. As a consequence, there are large numbers of readers of almost every different type. Some enjoy exactly the kinds of stories you are talking about: long and character-based. Others want short stroke stories. I see nothing wrong with that.

Authors of many different kinds of stories do well here.

I have multiple writing accounts here. Only one of them posts stories across the categories. The others specialize. The account with the highest rating level is the one that only posts in the nonerotic category.

MelissaBaby said:

That’s not my experience. I’ve made 21 story submissions that have relatively minimal explicitly sexual content. Every one has at least a 4.50 rating.

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It's not his experience either but he has to run the site and writers down some way. It's his style.

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Thank you all for your replies. I wasn’t expecting such varied responses!

I think I’m going to post the first few pages on here, I’ll send a link when done. I’m constantly editing them because as my characters develop I feel I need to edit the opening pages because these were when I knew very little about my characters. But I very much need some feedback, having just started out writing now. (I’ve written before but never got anywhere - I hadn’t tried erotica though; I think I’ve found my genre.)

I’ve informed husband what I’m doing so he knows I’m not having an affair he definitely agreed to more “research” (shocker) and a new laptop so that I can scribe quicker. He’s a shopaholic so that wasn’t too difficult. I don’t think he’s clicked that my “new lover” sexual appetite is fuelled by my characters, and I was too shy to admit it as I don’t think he’d understand.

I fear that I fall in the “old man” category (despite being a 36 year old female). I have used literotica for years as pornography, or foreplay and inspiration to liven up things in the bedroom. Noted I have read some very good stories where the suspense and character development makes it all the more gratuitous when they get down to it. But I sadly don’t often have the time to indulge in reading the storyline. Also there are some downright awful stories on here and it’s hard to sift through it with tags alone. I suppose I should go for the highly voted stories. So I would agree that literotica doesn’t appear to be the forum for serious writing. Particularly as 50 shades of grey is so truly awful and has made such disgusting money. Along with many other ebooks that I read. I feel that it might be worth a try in the ebook world if I get something decent together, as literotica is not going to give me the gratification that I want. But that’s a far off thought.

And thanks to all who said that there is no need for a come down! Although I think my husband could do with a break and I worry about my concentration levels when I’m back at work ...

ShudderAtNight said:

I think I’m going to post the first few pages on here, I’ll send a link when done. I’m constantly editing them because as my characters develop I feel I need to edit the opening pages because these were when I knew very little about my characters. But I very much need some feedback, having just started out writing now. (I’ve written before but never got anywhere - I hadn’t tried erotica though; I think I’ve found my genre.)

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That sounds familiar. I'm one of those writers who is constantly fiddling with my work. I've found it helpful to stop asking myself "is this done?" because it never will be. Instead I ask "is this done enough?"

Once you submit your test pages, you might try posting about it in the Story Feedback forum. Of course, you've already got several of us here in the AH curious too, so give us a link too.

Best of luck!

ShudderAtNight said:

So I would agree that literotica doesn’t appear to be the forum for serious writing. Particularly as 50 shades of grey is so truly awful and has made such disgusting money. Along with many other ebooks that I read. I feel that it might be worth a try in the ebook world if I get something decent together, as literotica is not going to give me the gratification that I want. But that’s a far off thought.

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Don't judge a book by the junk on the bargain basement table. There's some excellent, intelligent writing here, you'll find it if you're willing to shuffle through the dross.

There's also folk here who will give you a reality check on making money in the marketplace. I wouldn't make that a priority unless you are independently well-off - even the most prolific published writers around here say it pays a few bills, buys a holiday or two, but won't make you rich. Crawl before you walk .

ShudderAtNight said:

OK so I started on my first erotica novel yesterday and now I am addicted. I can’t stop writing (the hours just fly by) and when I’m not writing I’m thinking about my characters and where the story is going to go. I’m constantly having ideas that I have to note in my iPhone ... my husband is going to think I’m having an affair because I’m constantly typing into it.

But what is also rather strange is that as my characters fall in love, I feel like I am. I’m skipping around doing my normal chores in a daydream. I practically jumped my husband last night when he came to bed, because he interrupted me in the middle of writing my first sex scene with my characters. I feel like a sexual animal, like you do when you are in the throes of lust with a new partner.

Is this normal?!

The come down is going to be so sad...

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This happens to me, for sure. In fact, I use it as a tool for story writing motivation. I find that the adrenaline and sexual energy that builds during the writing process causes a feedback loop that drives everything forward, and I do my best to harness it every time.

Regarding the "come down": There doesn't have to be an on/off switch, or a sad crash after a ferocious writing session. I think what you do is just find a way to lightly manage it. I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with simple cool down tactics if something in your life is bumping up against something else in your life. Just work on striking a balance with the real world if that's the case, while otherwise enjoying the obvious benefits of channeling the experience of it all toward your partner when that makes sense. (That's one of the great perks.) Ultimately, you know best how to tailor this experience to your lifestyle.

My single best tip if you're a story addict, in the way I am, would be to keep a notebook nearby, or use your phone, so that you feel the security of always being able to capture a random flight of inspiration whenever it happens. For me, this can relieve the pressure from myself at times when I otherwise need or want to focus on something else. My $0.02.

Best of luck to you. I look forward to seeing what you post!

Yup. Normal.

Necessary, even. If you’re not turning yourself on, you’re unlikely to turn anybody else on either.

Welcome!

I know I've had the same issue with my dabbling into writing. Thankfully it's not too hard to use the "side effect" for its own pleasure!

I think you have to be obsessed with what you're writing. For me, it's like the characters take up residence in my head, and don't let me go until they are satisfied I've told their story well enough and to a satisfactory conclusion. It sounds mad, and probably is.
Also I write stories which are not all just sex but usually include a build up and a lot of character development, and so far, I haven't been voted out for not writing a stroke story. Not yet, anyway.

ShudderAtNight said:

OK so I started on my first erotica novel yesterday and now I am addicted. I can’t stop writing (the hours just fly by) and when I’m not writing I’m thinking about my characters and where the story is going to go. I’m constantly having ideas that I have to note in my iPhone ... my husband is going to think I’m having an affair because I’m constantly typing into it.

But what is also rather strange is that as my characters fall in love, I feel like I am. I’m skipping around doing my normal chores in a daydream. I practically jumped my husband last night when he came to bed, because he interrupted me in the middle of writing my first sex scene with my characters. I feel like a sexual animal, like you do when you are in the throes of lust with a new partner.

Is this normal?!

The come down is going to be so sad...

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Yes, it's normal, yes, it can ruin lives, yes, the come-down is awful, so just... never come down.

ShudderAtNight said:

OK so I started on my first erotica novel yesterday and now I am addicted. I can’t stop writing (the hours just fly by) and when I’m not writing I’m thinking about my characters and where the story is going to go. I’m constantly having ideas that I have to note in my iPhone ... my husband is going to think I’m having an affair because I’m constantly typing into it.

But what is also rather strange is that as my characters fall in love, I feel like I am. I’m skipping around doing my normal chores in a daydream. I practically jumped my husband last night when he came to bed, because he interrupted me in the middle of writing my first sex scene with my characters. I feel like a sexual animal, like you do when you are in the throes of lust with a new partner.

Is this normal?!

The come down is going to be so sad...

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Normal for me. I have to spread the writing out over a day or two for short stories. I get so aroused, I have to take breaks. Also get so aroused that I make typos. So I have to reread, correct and take another break. Even then I've been known to make a typo or two because I am so aroused.

JasonClearwater said:

Yes, it's normal, yes, it can ruin lives, yes, the come-down is awful, so just... never come down.

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The perfect solution, Jason. Write multiple stories at the same time and when you finish one, it's not such a come down coz you just jump straight to one of the others. I'm always working on 2 or 3 at the same time.

ChloeTzang said:

The perfect solution, Jason. Write multiple stories at the same time and when you finish one, it's not such a come down coz you just jump straight to one of the others. I'm always working on 2 or 3 at the same time.

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I had a bit of a comedown when I finished my first series. I wrote it for personal reasons and had not given much thought about writing anything else. But by the time I finished, I knew this was something I had to keep doing.

I'm probably going to be writing my current series for the next year, but I already have two other series in mind.