Behavior change for my mom - help/advice/guidance

Hello Lit Community,

I am writing to seek your advice, suggestions and guidance on how to test my mom's potential to turn into a flirty and slutty person and ultimately, openly living her sexual life with strangers. I just want to note that I have NO sexual desires for my mom and definitely NOT looking for incest. My pleasure comes from the fact that strangers use her (while she enjoys of course) and the humiliation coming to me from that fact. I want her to be open about it with me too, I want I support her in whatever she wants to do.

Currently this is a fantasy of me but I want to make it real, this is where I need your guidance / advice because we don't live in same country. I live in USA and she will be coming to visit me here soon, her first time in the USA !!! She is 47, blonde and well figured, not chubby. She is a normal mom. But I would love to plan and follow a strategy where gradually first

1) test if she is inclined to explore her sexuality again (divorced and no boyfriends since then, only girlfriends for hangout normally)
2) and make her behaviors change gradually with the pushes and intervention I will make as you know people tend to do different things in foreign country that they would normally not do.

So yes, this is pretty much it. Thank you for your time reading it and your suggestions/guidance that would help me.

Cheers

She is an adult, don't try to change her.


Take her places, encourage her to meet people.... and if she is interested, things are likely to happen.


If my mother tried to change my sexual behavior, I'd be pissed off beyond belief.
(And I think it goes the other way too)

Thank you for your reply. I don't mean to change her behavior. What I meant want explore if she has a desire inside about being with strangers and become slutty, I want to explore that, find it and nurture it with little actions/triggers (this might be places, people, etc)

Sounds like elder abuse. Using your influence over a person that's in your care so that you can derive sexual pleasure or financial gain is...let me say this politely...something you just need your ass beat good over.

But I suppose I could see how divorce or death could make it emotionally difficult for a loved one to reach out and make friends, or find intimacy again. So encouraging her with positive reinforcement would be helpful.

I think what you're going to end up with, however, is a family member who's even more emotionally traumatized by short and abusive relationships with men who know how to manipulate and use and have nothing in return to give. Depending upon her moral worldview, she could most certainly end up feeling much worse about herself and what she's done. And somehow you view this as sexually gratifying. Weird.

If you're male, and young, consider yourself completely clueless about how women see their bodies and how it relates to sexual encounters and fulfillment.

I did things in Florence that I didn't do in my home town...I walked around and took pictures, and ate a lot of good pizza. Your analogy is stupid.

Your mom's sex life -- or lack thereof -- is none of your fucking business.

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Of course, I am not saying that, not my point. I just wanted to try and let her explore, to see if given the right opportunities, how she would react/adapt

Eilan said:

Your mom's sex life -- or lack thereof -- is none of your fucking business.

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Maybe your mom has already had slutty experiences.
Maybe she's spent some time experimenting with role play.
Perhaps she hooked up with the neighbor lady when you were 7.

If you don't already know, it's because she thinks it's none of your concern.

Out of curiosity, how old is mom and how much of her care is provided by others?

Curiousandopen9 said:

Of course, I am not saying that, not my point. I just wanted to try and let her explore, to see if given the right opportunities, how she would react/adapt

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Bullshit - it is all about you and only you

Curiousandopen9 said:

I am educated 28 year young professional guy with a submissive behavior interested in:

1) being home slave
2) commanded on cam
3) CFNM
4) my mom being used by strangers and the humiliation coming from
That to me

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At 28 it is high time you left home. Tuck your humiliation back into your pants and stop being a drain on people.

I never said it wasn't about it

Thanks for sharing your opinion, I respect

Dude. If you gotta do this, maybe find a woman your mom's age who's up for some roleplay or fantasy-sharing. Leave your actual mom out of it.

Morning !..

I am not going to push for anything. I just want to test if she has willingness to be such person inside of her, if yes, great. If no, of course I am not going to do anything

Eilan said:

Dude. If you gotta do this, maybe find a woman your mom's age who's up for some roleplay or fantasy-sharing. Leave your actual mom out of it.

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Curiousandopen9 said:

Morning !..

I am not going to push for anything. I just want to test if she has willingness to be such person inside of her, if yes, great. If no, of course I am not going to do anything

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Oh, good, you aren't going to "push."

Just going to "test" and wheedle?

Talk about arrested development. You live in a bizare fantasy world that exists only in your head, fueled by your obsession with Internet porn. Seek professional psychiatric help. There are 6 billion people on the planet that are not your mom. 1/2 of them are female. You are ready to interact with absolutely none of them.

Yes, I am sure that if you persist in asking more people about this idiotic fantasy of yours, they will call you a creeper and a loser and pathetic, which is exactly what you want since your actual fetish is a humiliation kink.

Spot on about humiliation !.. Thanks

QUOTE=Que;71449960]Oh, good, you aren't going to "push."

Just going to "test" and wheedle?

Talk about arrested development. You live in a bizare fantasy world that exists only in your head, fueled by your obsession with Internet porn. Seek professional psychiatric help. There are 6 billion people on the planet that are not your mom. 1/2 of them are female. You are ready to interact with absolutely none of them.

Yes, I am sure that if you persist in asking more people about this idiotic fantasy of yours, they will call you a creeper and a loser and pathetic, which is exactly what you want since your actual fetish is a humiliation kink.[/QUOTE]

Well, thanks, I appreciate the feedback from
All. Cheers

Set clear boundaries. Stick to said boundaries and consequence.

Misshotndeep said:

Set clear boundaries. Stick to said boundaries and consequence.

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Huh??

Eilan said:

Huh??

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I kind of went huh? on that as well

There must be some good psychologists in the DC area. It's not too late. You can get help.

Left web site due to censored messages by chargergirl

If only my son would help me realize my slutty potential, get his chums to put down their Magic The Gathering cards, and surprise me with an impromptu bukkake party, covering me in rancid, mope beat-sock gravy and Cheetos crumbs, said no mother EVER in the history of the world.

Take your creepy mother rape fantasies over to Fetish and Sexuality, where you will likely find fellow fapologists to indulge and encourage you.

Emerson40 said:

Take your creepy mother rape fantasies over to Fetish and Sexuality, where you will likely find fellow fapologists to indulge and encourage you.

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Ha! - since chargergirl imposed "married soon - nervous wedding night sex !!!" thread on us, only fair this one gets shunted over there.

chargergirl said:

It was suggested by myself and another in Fet that she also post her question here in How To, as the posters here are very good at giving advice.

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NightL said:

Yeah right thanks - we will remember this

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Emerson40 said:

If only my son would help me realize my slutty potential, get his chums to put down their Magic The Gathering cards, and surprise me with an impromptu bukkake party, covering me in rancid, mope beat-sock gravy and Cheetos crumbs, said no mother EVER in the history of the world.

Take your creepy mother rape fantasies over to Fetish and Sexuality, where you will likely find fellow fapologists to indulge and encourage you.

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Wait!
My sons (and their friends) did put down their Magic The Gathering cards.
They bought Cards for Humanity.

The first round card read, "When I'm alone, I fantasize about ____________"

The winning answer was "My Mom!"
I was like.. "ok.. this is where I find laundry or something.." while they laughed at me
(I think that was their plan)
omg.. I used to drive these kids to baseball.. and bake little yellow cupcakes with Spongebob faces.. what happened?!?!

I simply must work "fapologist" into a conversation.

Curiousandopen9 said:

Hello Lit Community,

I am writing to seek your advice, suggestions and guidance on how to test my mom's potential to turn into a flirty and slutty person and ultimately, openly living her sexual life with strangers. I just want to note that I have NO sexual desires for my mom and definitely NOT looking for incest. My pleasure comes from the fact that strangers use her (while she enjoys of course) and the humiliation coming to me from that fact. I want her to be open about it with me too, I want I support her in whatever she wants to do.

Currently this is a fantasy of me but I want to make it real, this is where I need your guidance / advice because we don't live in same country. I live in USA and she will be coming to visit me here soon, her first time in the USA !!! She is 47, blonde and well figured, not chubby. She is a normal mom. But I would love to plan and follow a strategy where gradually first

1) test if she is inclined to explore her sexuality again (divorced and no boyfriends since then, only girlfriends for hangout normally)
2) and make her behaviors change gradually with the pushes and intervention I will make as you know people tend to do different things in foreign country that they would normally not do.

So yes, this is pretty much it. Thank you for your time reading it and your suggestions/guidance that would help me.

Cheers

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Each of the boards has a particular vibe to them - How To has a real world focus, and thus a low tolerance for 'how to test my mom's potential to turn into a flirty and slutty person and ultimately, openly living her sexual life with strangers'. Some fantasies are better when left as fantasies.

GrrlFriday said:

Each of the boards has a particular vibe to them - How To has a real world focus, and thus a low tolerance for 'how to test my mom's potential to turn into a flirty and slutty person and ultimately, openly living her sexual life with strangers'. Some fantasies are better when left as fantasies.

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While quite true, I am convinced that people that wander into the How-to or the GB and lay a load of this sort of drivel, do so in a calculated way. Almost without exception the subject matter is such as to invite ridicule. These people have (like most people) errant, deviant thoughts that they assume are shameful to have.

Where they differ from, perhaps, you and I is that they get sexual tingles out of the idea of having those "dirty, shameful" thoughts exposed. So they open their metaphorical trench-coat and assault us with malice aforethought with their self-assessed "weirdness."

I celebrate those that feel a little weird on the inside and are happy to find that there are others with their brand of weirdness. You can tell the difference though.

What erps me is that the emotional flashers, as I like to think of them, put us all in a no win situation. You can't really unsee their deliberate, squick-worthy post, but reacting to it is exactly what they want. I chide myself for doing anything but ignoring them. What happens, as in this case, is they have an innocuous sounding opener. When you fall for the bait you want to say something to the asshole that just waggled his emotional wienie in your face.

Sometimes when you call them on it they button up their trench-coat and try somewhere else.

This guy, without a doubt, has read and fapped to every one of the legion of incest threads. He knows where they are and where he could have found like-minded people to fap along with his fantasy. He, and others of his ilk, chose an unwilling audience.