Blacklace87
Experienced
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- Sep 12, 2015
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Quick background, about 3 years ago I had a master. He was wonderful, he pushed what I thought I could do and I was devoted to him. He introduced me to 3soms and more. I had the best time but always felt like I should be in a relationship instead. He was in an actual vanilla relationship as she didn't like this side of him, so I knew we could never be together in that way, I was just his toy, which I liked but also wanted a bit more.
I've always found relationships hard when it comes to BDSM, past partners have always been either not into it, tried *shudder* or they have been into it but then I find once I get to know them in a normal relationship way, they're silly ways etc, I then can't see them as dominant. If they go from playing about, doing normal things and then suddenly try and be dominant with me, i can't take it seriously and it never feels right. It feels like it's just role playing.
I wonder what things would of been like if I did end up dating my master, could we have a normal life in the sense of going on dates, visiting family, whilst all the while maintaining the level of dominance over me? Would we talk about normal things but he'd have that dominating edge and tell me what I could eat or would I get fed up with that? I love having a cuddly boyfriend who is very affectionate but god damn I miss that power over me.
I just wonder if people do live the dom/sub world 24/7, how do you find your daily life? If that makes sense! Sorry if i'm not clear.
I've always found relationships hard when it comes to BDSM, past partners have always been either not into it, tried *shudder* or they have been into it but then I find once I get to know them in a normal relationship way, they're silly ways etc, I then can't see them as dominant. If they go from playing about, doing normal things and then suddenly try and be dominant with me, i can't take it seriously and it never feels right. It feels like it's just role playing.
I wonder what things would of been like if I did end up dating my master, could we have a normal life in the sense of going on dates, visiting family, whilst all the while maintaining the level of dominance over me? Would we talk about normal things but he'd have that dominating edge and tell me what I could eat or would I get fed up with that? I love having a cuddly boyfriend who is very affectionate but god damn I miss that power over me.
I just wonder if people do live the dom/sub world 24/7, how do you find your daily life? If that makes sense! Sorry if i'm not clear.