Keroin
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This about 53576141988 times less cruel than getting into a relationship with a mentally ill person and then bailing when it becomes more than you want to deal with.
That's the way I look at it.
Great minds think alike?
Indubitably!
I think what might work best is to get to know someone first, then slowly but not too slowly, open up. It's a tightrope walk for sure. Even on something like being veggie for decades I didn't tell people. I wanted them to get to know me before I trotted out my red flags. And yes, I do know that being veggie and being clinically, mentally ill are not the same thing, not even close. Though some asshats would say it is!
LOL. True.
As with anything, I don't think you need to open with, "And here are all the things that may make you not want to be with me!". But maybe it helps to think of mental illness no differently than physical illness? It's probably no big deal to most people if you have hay-fever or slight hearing loss, but most potential partners will want to know if you have stage three cancer or a serious heart condition.
Which, by the way, doesn't make the person with cancer a less worthy person, or the person who decides early on that they're not up for dealing with cancer a self-absorbed person. We're all just fumbling through and trying to do the best for ourselves and others.