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Men who deal with being a Cuckold.....

What about it?

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I do what makes my wife happy

deelite45 said:

Men who deal with being a Cuckold.....

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why deal with it when you can enjoy it. Enjoy cleaning and sucking, enjoy your wife's sexual satisfaction and enjoy sharing so be open and enjoy.

4yourpleasureiam said:

why deal with it when you can enjoy it. Enjoy cleaning and sucking, enjoy your wife's sexual satisfaction and enjoy sharing so be open and enjoy.

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Yes, exactly right.

Contrary to typical portrayal I don't think most cuckold's are put upon men being crushed and controlled by their wife. I don't know anyone who truly wants to be mistreated or neglected and although lots of people do stay in unhappy relationships the extreme nature of an openly cheating wife is more than enough to induce the vast majority of people to exit the situation if it isn't right for them.

So most willing cuckolds are staying with their wives for a reason. Maybe they enjoy the cuckolding. Maybe she is so alluring that it is worth sharing. In other words, either there is nothing to "deal" with because we like it or what she offers makes it worthwhile. Whatever the reasons we are for the most part willing partners and participants.

To understand a happy cuckold you have to let go of the premise that we have an innate need or desire for sexual exclusivity.

The whole idea of "cuck" or "cuckold" is something invented on the internet recently.

Originally, the meaning of a cuckold was a husband whose wife was blatantly cheating on him, often with everyone but the husband knowing about it. The husband is humiliated in the end, of course, but there is no sexual arousal in the cuckold's eyes, only crushing defeat and shame.

I've been a bisexual guy sharing my various girlfriends, then wives, with other men since the 1970's and never was this seen as being a cuckold. Yes, I've been called a poofter and a faggot and a pervert, but no one could say I was being cuckolded, because I always knew and encouraged my partners to "cheat" on or with me.

But back to the modern appropriation of "cuckold." What is called cuckolding now was once a very English form of humiliation, S&M or domination fetish. Modern cuckold porn is far more structured, with a very narrow narrative designed to transition from a straight mindset to that of a "faggot" through coming to terms with humiliation. The original dominance fetish of men by women was much broader, multivalent, with many subtexts, not so with modern cuckold porn.

"Cuckolding" is a term appropriated on the internet to categorise a genre of porn where a supposedly straight man is forced to watch his wife get happily fucked by a stud with a larger cock. There is a lot going on here. In the end it's all about creating a mental space where a psychologically straight male can imagine sucking cock and being fucked like the filthy cock-craving whore he secretly is in his heart of hearts.

First, "cuckold" porn is about humiliation as a sexual thrill. But the humiliation isn't the end, but the means to an end, which is homosexuality.

It's important to recall that being a straight male is all about social context. That's where humiliation is important. A straight guy lives in a world of straightness, his friends, mom and dad, brothers, wife, father-in-law, boss, work pals, football coach, and on and on. He's straight to everyone. Imagine if it got out he has fantasies about sucking ten inches of huge black cock while being fucked in the ass by a ladyboy in his sister's underwear...pretty humiliating stuff.

Cuckold porn is about creating a situation where suppressed homosexual urges are allowed to be fulfilled. No doubt the humiliation of being forced to eat cum from your wife's pussy is a kind of atonement for the homosexual thrill of it. The helplessness of the hapless husband forced to suck the cock of his wife's well hung lover gives permission for an otherwise straight male to engage in verboten homosexual fantasies. Being forced by the wife is the permission.

The cuck is rarely shown enjoying sucking cock or licking his wife's lover's gonads, but is being forced to do so. This makes it OK, because he doesn't want to do it.

Although recently some cuckold porn has the husband so well trained by forced cock and cum sucking lessons that he is actually enjoying it. The dominant wife trains her husband to accept his queerness so that she can enjoy multiple lovers and he can hardly object since he wants to be face and ass fucked by her lovers too.

The second important psychological device in the cuckold narrative is the impotency of the husband while the wife is oversexed and needs lots of big cock. The wife needs to fuck other men because the husband can not service her vast sexual needs. She humiliates him for his small penis. Often there is a comparison scene in cuck porn where the wife compares the tiny dick of her husband to the monster cock of her lover and rejects her husband as a wimp. Often the husband's dick is bound so he can't get an erection. The husband is emasculated. After humiliation, the emasculation narrative opens a further, even deeper psychological passage to the straight male viewer's homosexual fantasies.

By imagining being emasculated the straight male viewer is allowed to explore his feminine side for what may be the first time. He can imagine being like a woman, spread open and penetrated. He imagines not only how it feels to be penetrated by a phallus, but what sort of mental attitude allows one to be fucked like a woman and receive sexual pleasure from it. For most men this is extremely suppressed material forced deep into the subconscious and never explored.

Cuck porn is a fetish with a purpose, it is a post-mod ritual organically and exponentially grown and marketed online because it serves as a sexual ritual of passage where straight men can explore suppressed homosexual urges safely.

Come on Lustatopia....that is just one kind of Cuckporn that you speak of. This is the stuff that you see on Reality Kings which would be more appropriately named "Fake as Hell Kings."

Watch homemade cuck videos. It is more about a husband who is in a constant state of bliss, feeding off the hypersexuality of his wife. When your wife cheats on you or takes a lover, you may be enraged but there is that constant state of eroticism. The fact that she doesn't want you makes you compete. You can only think of one thing: Fertilizing her eggs and no one else will do. You may feel rage, hurt, and be ready to do acts of violence but there is that damn passion. You want her back.

The cucks seem in the homemade porn seem to focus on the eroticism and stimulation. They like the stimulation so much and the constant state of lust that they have been able to ignore the jealousy issue. The jealousy is worth the intense stimulation and the overall thrill.

I don't think that this about latent homosexuality. Maybe for you it is/was.

Many different levels to cuckolding. We picked and chose what we wanted when we did it. We lived our lives normally then got into the role either in fantasy play or real play.
The extreme cuckolding wasn't for us and we wouldn't want it to be.

Somehowyou said:

Come on Lustatopia....that is just one kind of Cuckporn that you speak of. This is the stuff that you see on Reality Kings which would be more appropriately named "Fake as Hell Kings."

Watch homemade cuck videos. It is more about a husband who is in a constant state of bliss, feeding off the hypersexuality of his wife. When your wife cheats on you or takes a lover, you may be enraged but there is that constant state of eroticism. The fact that she doesn't want you makes you compete. You can only think of one thing: Fertilizing her eggs and no one else will do. You may feel rage, hurt, and be ready to do acts of violence but there is that damn passion. You want her back.

The cucks seem in the homemade porn seem to focus on the eroticism and stimulation. They like the stimulation so much and the constant state of lust that they have been able to ignore the jealousy issue. The jealousy is worth the intense stimulation and the overall thrill.

I don't think that this about latent homosexuality. Maybe for you it is/was.

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Yes, I agree with you that cuck porn incorporates what you say - guys feeding off the hypersexuality of their wives. But that's hardly the main point of Cuckold porn. I've been involved in "the lifestyle" since the 1970's and guys swapping wives, etc, always are enjoying the hypersexuality of their wives. But we never called it cuckold. Straight guys share their wives too and don't get involved in cocksucking or cum eating or humiliation. It was just called swinging or polyamorous or open life style.

Cucking as a category of porn video is an internet thing. Not that it hasn't existed as a fetish forever, but it has only recently has it become a big thing. I think because of internet porn more men, especially straight married men, are consciously aware they could have queer sex fantasies and cuckold porn is a gateway to bisexuality that they can psychologically tolerate.

To call a bisexual guy who likes to suck cock with his wife a Cuckold is also simply in error, even if it is now becoming a common usage.

Cuckolding is originally a 17 th century idea. It originates from the observation that the English bird, the cuckoo, lays its egg in other birds’ nests and tricks them into raising its young as their own.

A cuckold is a husband who is supporting an unfaithful wife who is fucking other men without his knowledge, yet it is widely known within her circle of friends that she is slutting around. The husband is so disrespected that no one bothers to tell him about her indiscretions. He is the clueless fool who is the object of derision of everyone around him behind his back. Usually he is wealthy and is being manipulated for his wealth by not only his wife, but also her lovers who often through his wife’s intercession manage to secure cash loans from the witless husband. He imagines he is well loved, with a beautiful young wife and many friends. But when he’s away she’s having orgies with his friends and debtors. This situation was apparently not common among the upper class and lesser royalty in the Europe of the 18th and 19th century.

In extreme versions the cuckold raises the illegitimate child of his wife’s lover as his own without knowing the true providence of the child, and the child once grown takes his inheritance from the cuckold, then bestows his wealth and protection upon his real biological father!

The way the term cuckold is being used online today changes the meaning. For instance, my wife has had sex with men without me and then come home to me and allowed me to fuck her cum-filled pussy, but because no humiliation or shame was involved it barely fits the definition of cuckolding. In fact, by being a knowing partner in her “adultery,” I was hardly the victim.

Likewise, I enjoy licking my wife’s cunt while she is being fucked (a bisexual act sometimes called coitalingus) and often beg her lovers to pull it out and shoot his cumload on my face and her cunt so I can lick them both clean. I fail to see this as cuckolding. It’s simply bisexuality.

I think the meaning of the word cuckold as it is applied to the modern fetish is obviously different from the historical context. But I think far too much is read into both definitions.

The historical definition of cuckold is often narrowed in a way that simply reflects the times. The fact that people in the 17th century universally presumed that the situation came with humiliation or the husband's ignorance doesn't make it part of the definition. By way of comparison at that time in history homosexuality would have come with all sorts of negative psychological and moral assumptions but most of us would agree that the real definition is limited to sexual preference and need not incorporate 17th century attitudes/assumptions about deviance or mental health. The only elements that are actually part of the historical definition of cuckold is the fact that she fucked other men without her husband consent.

The modern fetish allows for the prospect that her husband is consenting. However, it is distinguished from simply swinging or having an open marriage by the presence of some degree of inequality or duress (real or role play) to force the husband's acceptance. I think of it as an open marriage where the wife is dominant and uses that dominance to control her husband's sexual activities different from her own. But I don't see my definition as any more correct than anyone else's and I certainly don't feel compelled to adopt internet porn as the definitive view of things.

Yes, all good points, SlutAddicted... The times have changed. The term cuckold is evolving.

Still, as a bisexual man interested in sharing women with other men, the dominance and humiliation angle was always a relatively small fetish subset in bi swinging, say, even just a decade ago. Just look at how the porn industry portrayed bi MMF sex scenes in the 1980’s and 90’s. Both guys would be hung studs, lots of pussy licking, passionate oral sex, everyone getting off.

But now if you search "bisexual" on any porn video website you'll come up with cuckolding being a major, if not the major, theme. This is something new. I’ve seen it in chat rooms as well, where people now refer to any situation where a husband is sharing his wife as “cucking.” This seems to be dumbing down fantasy content.

And while you are quite right not to adopt internet porn as definitive view of male bisexuality, I wonder if new cuck meme isn't framing male bisexuality as largely a form of humiliation fetish to young impressionable minds, or worse as a demeaning kind of sexuality, portraying married men who share their wives as impotent sub wimps with tiny dicks. Today, in every part of our culture we are striving to circumscribe discriminatory narratives, accept when it comes to white male bisexual husbands and the highly oversexed women who love them.

But hey, I'm not on a crusade against cuck fantasy, just fascinated that alt sex culture is evolving so rapidly in rather surprising directions – not all of which seem to be progressive - and trying to figure out why this may be so.

lustatopia said:

Yes, all good points, SlutAddicted... The times have changed. The term cuckold is evolving.

Still, as a bisexual man interested in sharing women with other men, the dominance and humiliation angle was always a relatively small fetish subset in bi swinging, say, even just a decade ago. Just look at how the porn industry portrayed bi MMF sex scenes in the 1980’s and 90’s. Both guys would be hung studs, lots of pussy licking, passionate oral sex, everyone getting off.

But now if you search "bisexual" on any porn video website you'll come up with cuckolding being a major, if not the major, theme. This is something new. I’ve seen it in chat rooms as well, where people now refer to any situation where a husband is sharing his wife as “cucking.” This seems to be dumbing down fantasy content.

And while you are quite right not to adopt internet porn as definitive view of male bisexuality, I wonder if new cuck meme isn't framing male bisexuality as largely a form of humiliation fetish to young impressionable minds, or worse as a demeaning kind of sexuality, portraying married men who share their wives as impotent sub wimps with tiny dicks. Today, in every part of our culture we are striving to circumscribe discriminatory narratives, accept when it comes to white male bisexual husbands and the highly oversexed women who love them.

But hey, I'm not on a crusade against cuck fantasy, just fascinated that alt sex culture is evolving so rapidly in rather surprising directions – not all of which seem to be progressive - and trying to figure out why this may be so.

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I think you are correct. One of the overriding themes these days seems to be of control and aggression as opposed to sex.

It is the same in non-cuck porn. It isn't enough that a girl have sex with multiple men, they have to treat her like a piece of shit while it happens. A promiscuous woman can't just be a woman who enjoys sex with more than one man of her choosing she needs to be an idiot who forfeits her right to choose her partners and therefore fucks any man that wants her. A bi-sexual man has to be a wimp, victim or "faggot". We are more turned on by dominating other people (in the general use of the term as opposed to Ds lifestyle) than by sex.

It certainly isn't progressive and it is a horribly bad template for impressionable minds. Old school porn portrayed sex that some people found immoral, but compared to today it was just people having sex and enjoying each other - unrealistic yes but the situations portrayed were generally consensual and none of anybody else's business. For all of its positive power the internet has provided the anonymity to release many of our more base and destructive instincts.

Personally I have always viewed myself as a "progressive" but in my mind it has started to take a bit of a nasty turn. Many of the people that were fighting against old school "isms" claimed they wanted equality and freedom but now try to impose their views just as the old guard did. Why is it uniquely acceptable for a black man to treat a white woman and her husband like garbage? Why is it ok for a woman to behave like a total cunt and treat her husband with contempt 100x that with which women were treated in more sexist times. Obviously we have a racist and sexist history and those issues still exist but these aren't people righting past wrongs.....they are people using them as an excuse to commit current wrongs and behave like douche-bags.

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I don't know If I would consider myself a "cuckold" although I will loosely accept that term. I fantasize about the idea of my wife having sex with other men. But I certainly wouldn't appreciate any humiliation, feminization, etc aspect to it.

Years ago my wife slept with another man. Soon after I started to get aroused by it. Now I'd like our marriage to evolve to a semi open relationship, where she has sex with other men. But if another man is going to screw my wife then he better damn well "respect me in the morning" as well.

Somehowyou said:

Come on Lustatopia....that is just one kind of Cuckporn that you speak of. This is the stuff that you see on Reality Kings which would be more appropriately named "Fake as Hell Kings."

Watch homemade cuck videos. It is more about a husband who is in a constant state of bliss, feeding off the hypersexuality of his wife. When your wife cheats on you or takes a lover, you may be enraged but there is that constant state of eroticism. The fact that she doesn't want you makes you compete. You can only think of one thing: Fertilizing her eggs and no one else will do. You may feel rage, hurt, and be ready to do acts of violence but there is that damn passion. You want her back.

The cucks seem in the homemade porn seem to focus on the eroticism and stimulation. They like the stimulation so much and the constant state of lust that they have been able to ignore the jealousy issue. The jealousy is worth the intense stimulation and the overall thrill.

I don't think that this about latent homosexuality. Maybe for you it is/was.

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I agree completely. I think almost all pro cuck porn, while can still be enjoyable to watch, misses the mark, and would be soooo much hotter if it was scripted to reflect more reality.