I don't like using derogatory terms during sex. Names like bitch, slut or cunt just alienate me from my partner rather than bring me closer with her. I would never have let someone fuck me if she used that sort of language.
I prefer the power play to be more subtle and implicit rather than mere overt abuse.
I have read about the very specific roles and terms used by people who post in the BDSM section and to me it seems like doing sex from a manual. Like installing a new computer or something. I suspect it is because I have really only explored BDSM very recently. That is, submissively. In the past I have always been very dominant and in control, if not controlling (as various ex's have insisted).
I prefer the power play to be more subtle and implicit rather than mere overt abuse.
I have read about the very specific roles and terms used by people who post in the BDSM section and to me it seems like doing sex from a manual. Like installing a new computer or something. I suspect it is because I have really only explored BDSM very recently. That is, submissively. In the past I have always been very dominant and in control, if not controlling (as various ex's have insisted).