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"Ironically I think you might have to start with the sex because once a friendship is established without that part I'm not sure how you introduce it without unacceptable risks. "
I absolutely agree.
Why do older men become bi-curious?
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"Ironically I think you might have to start with the sex because once a friendship is established without that part I'm not sure how you introduce it without unacceptable risks. "
I absolutely agree.
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hikingman37
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If you have close friends, there may be one who you feel you could drop some hints and see what happens. Often we have friends becuse we have an attraction to them to begin with.
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same here. no shame in that.
mtsnowrider
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Weirdly the thought of sex with any of my friends feels more wrong than sex with a stranger where the possibility of sex is out in the open from the first meeting. Obviously I'm confused LOL
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Interesting comment
There is a couple just a couple of years younger, I'm 64 and they are 60. The wife is always dropping sexual innuendos that have raised my eyebrows a couple of times. They recently returned from a trip to Croatia and both used this phrase, " the men in Croatia are so beautiful!"
I was a little surprised when he repeated it.... I may need to investigate this a little further!
There is a couple just a couple of years younger, I'm 64 and they are 60. The wife is always dropping sexual innuendos that have raised my eyebrows a couple of times. They recently returned from a trip to Croatia and both used this phrase, " the men in Croatia are so beautiful!"
I was a little surprised when he repeated it.... I may need to investigate this a little further!
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well, I suppose it depends on the friendship and how you feel about that person. Most of my friends are not folks I would ever consider sex with. But there is one that I would. Just the chemistry I guess
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Guess I can understand that. Years ago there were one or two friends where it might have been possible. Maybe age makes me more cautious, or maybe just more picky.
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I can understand that. If you find out its something that you don't like the relationship with your friend would probably be dramatically changed, however on the safe side would you prefer someone you know something about (habits, likes, etc) or someone you only know about from what you are told in one meeting?
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I have a gay friend and I knew I could arranged a blowjob exchange with anytime over the years I've known him. But regardless of how it would have turned out it would have changed the nature of our friendship. When I had my 1st full M2M experience I'm glad that I had a few hours to appreciate the person and get to know each other before we had sex.
Maybe as we get a little older, our cock self-obsession becomes just cock-obsession.
I prefer strangers only. Maybe the guy and I could become friends later, but I want to meet the cock first.
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I think I'd go the other way
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I agree with that. a married friend is best in my opinion
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you point about it changing the nature of the relationship is a good one. It might become a more honest relationship about who you both are. Pretense might drop
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I don't know why. When I was younger, I had no desire to be with a guy. When the internet came about, I discovered shemales but gay porn still didn't turn me on. However, gay stories did. Then, one evening when I was surfing shemale vids, I hit a link that was supposed to be shemale porn but it was two men making love. Not just getting off but actually making love. I was incredibly aroused and just watched. Eventually one was riding the other, the camera focused on his leaking cock as he ground against his lover. Then something I had never seen happen before, the guy came WITHOUT his cock even being touch. I didn't know THAT could happen. I went to grab my naked cock and as soon as my fingers touched mine and I had the biggest orgasm of my life to that point. After seeing that, my gay curiosity sky rocketed. Eventually, I was able to make myself cum from just a dildo without touching my cum. The first time that happened was the biggest orgasm of my life. I had never shot so much cum, ever. After that point, a switch was flipped and although I haven't done anything in RL, all of the porn I watch and all of my masturbation is about gay sex. I used to wonder why but I don't anymore. I just enjoy all of the orgasms I have and the men I meet.
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Jumping in a little late, I find that I'm fascinated by this phenomenon. There have been some really interesting ideas floated around in this thread.
For my part, I had one gay experience in my high school days, and lived first in shame of it, theN, as years passed I just ignored it because i was heavily into women and considered myself hetero. I'm 47 now and over the past year I found myself enjoying the bisexual pics thread that Tom Boner really ought to be famous for because he so consistently finds hot pictures.
I started finding the mmf pictures really turning me on, and realized that my tastes were changing. I let myself open up and let that happen for the first time in my life. As a result, I let myself explore the idea of enjoying a cock. That evolved into a realization that I would be very good at sucking a cock and a growing desire to do so. I began practicing and returned to an old idea I'd abandoned of tasting my own cum just to see if I could handle tasting another mans cum. I'm still not 100% that I enjoy it, but I know now that I could receive another mans cum, and at the very least enjoy that he was enjoying being able to cum in my mouth, or down my throat.
I've practiced to the extent that I know I xm deep throat a decent sized cock and I have developed a real desire to pleasure a man. It's not so much intimacy but my desire is very passionate. I am looking forward to a real opportunity.
That leads to the difficulty that others have expressed here. I'm married. My wife is as straight as a girl can be. We have a good sex life...no complaints there, and no desire at all to risk damaging our relationship. I have no idea how to safely and successfully follow through with my desires, but I plan to, if I can meet those criteria.
It makes sense, as others have said, that another man in similar circumstances would be perfect.
As for labels, I really don't care about them. Society has opened up. I have more compassion than ever for the plight of lgbt issues, especially because I am now allowing myself to admit that I'm bisexual before the act. I thought at first that bi-curious would be more fitting but the truth is, I am attracted to some men now. I e met a couple that I envisioned myself on my knees in front of them, playing with their cock. If they could have read my mind and given consent, they'd have received one hell of a blow job, but as yet no circumstances have warranted my speaking up.
Do any others have ideas of safe ways that men in these circumstances can explore their nature in the real world? Apparently, I'm not alone.
Side note: right now, my ultimate fantasy would be to find a husband and wife. If love to share a cock with a woman too. That is so fuckin' hot.
For my part, I had one gay experience in my high school days, and lived first in shame of it, theN, as years passed I just ignored it because i was heavily into women and considered myself hetero. I'm 47 now and over the past year I found myself enjoying the bisexual pics thread that Tom Boner really ought to be famous for because he so consistently finds hot pictures.
I started finding the mmf pictures really turning me on, and realized that my tastes were changing. I let myself open up and let that happen for the first time in my life. As a result, I let myself explore the idea of enjoying a cock. That evolved into a realization that I would be very good at sucking a cock and a growing desire to do so. I began practicing and returned to an old idea I'd abandoned of tasting my own cum just to see if I could handle tasting another mans cum. I'm still not 100% that I enjoy it, but I know now that I could receive another mans cum, and at the very least enjoy that he was enjoying being able to cum in my mouth, or down my throat.
I've practiced to the extent that I know I xm deep throat a decent sized cock and I have developed a real desire to pleasure a man. It's not so much intimacy but my desire is very passionate. I am looking forward to a real opportunity.
That leads to the difficulty that others have expressed here. I'm married. My wife is as straight as a girl can be. We have a good sex life...no complaints there, and no desire at all to risk damaging our relationship. I have no idea how to safely and successfully follow through with my desires, but I plan to, if I can meet those criteria.
It makes sense, as others have said, that another man in similar circumstances would be perfect.
As for labels, I really don't care about them. Society has opened up. I have more compassion than ever for the plight of lgbt issues, especially because I am now allowing myself to admit that I'm bisexual before the act. I thought at first that bi-curious would be more fitting but the truth is, I am attracted to some men now. I e met a couple that I envisioned myself on my knees in front of them, playing with their cock. If they could have read my mind and given consent, they'd have received one hell of a blow job, but as yet no circumstances have warranted my speaking up.
Do any others have ideas of safe ways that men in these circumstances can explore their nature in the real world? Apparently, I'm not alone.
Side note: right now, my ultimate fantasy would be to find a husband and wife. If love to share a cock with a woman too. That is so fuckin' hot.
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"Do any others have ideas of safe ways that men in these circumstances can explore their nature in the real told? Apparently, I'm not alone."
You're not alone at all - lots of us.
I'd love to hear ideas too.
You're not alone at all - lots of us.
I'd love to hear ideas too.
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On that note, if a guy or couple of similar mindset in the right part of California were to pop in here, he might be in for one very good cock sucking. Just sayin'.
Same here!
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Maybe you can find and make some new friends of guys who you think might be be bi and who you find interesting. See where things lead.
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I'm totally on board, but therien lies the challenge. How do you really identify someone you think might be bi? It's not like we wear a badge.
I know that eventually my creativity will prevail here, but still, better to get suggestions from people of common interests.
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Do you have any interests in Hiking, geneology, antiques. Those might be places where there is a bit less testosterone present
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I think i get where you're going with that. I have very diverse interests.
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Then there is the theatre, cooking classes. Just to improve the odds of finding some new friends who may be sympathetic.
