my wife has been talking about me letting a guy suck my cock, and then she wants me to suck his? is this normal for a wife to fantasize about this? my wife says she cums hard when masturbating and thinking about me getting my cock sucked and me reciprocating.
wife wants me to suck a guy's cock. is this normal?
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IDK about 'normal' (whatever the hell that means), but it's not exactly unique or even all that rare anymore.
The real question here is how you feel about indulging her fantasy.
A more important issue is not being judgmental or condemning her for sharing her fantasy (in fact, you ought to be happy she trusts you enough to confide such a thing to you).
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A man I was involved with for several years starting talking about fantasies of me having sex with my brother. It really freaked me out. There was no way I was going there. And it wasn't like our sex life was a dud with no fantasies. I said there is no way I'm going there. The main issue, though, was communication. If I had felt like he really cared about where I was at, I would have said, "You know what? I have gone out of my way to accommodate you. We have a great sex life. You've taken pics of me. We've done some light bdsm. We role play, etc etc. And we both come a lot. However, there are lines I won't cross. Because I do some things, doesn't mean I want to extend it into fantasizing about my brother. The fact that you would suggest that I do this is beyond my frame of reference. We need some time to re-evaluate." What actually happened is that he grew colder and I left.
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After your man left did your brother come over to "comfort" you?
I'm asking for a friend.
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Why don't you say what you really think?
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If it was "normal" would you feel better about saying yes? It doesn't matter what any of us think, we are not married to your wife. Ask yourself if this is something you want to do for her then talk with her about it.
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I think its a hot fantasy and understand why she'd think so. This doesn't mean you'd have to go through with it. It's good she feels open and safe to talk about her fantasies with you. Don't ruin it by judging her.
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Hold on now. What does her best friend look like?
I agree with others though, she shared a deep thought with you. Be grateful for that.
But just as she or any woman should say "no" to anything she's not interested in, it's fair that if it's beyond your comfort zone you should have the freedom to do the same. If you want. If you both want. Should be equal.
But back to her best friend: ;-)
I agree with others though, she shared a deep thought with you. Be grateful for that.
But just as she or any woman should say "no" to anything she's not interested in, it's fair that if it's beyond your comfort zone you should have the freedom to do the same. If you want. If you both want. Should be equal.
But back to her best friend: ;-)
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i am not sure of how to feel. i get the 'normal' reference, but i certainly don't want my wife to judge me one way or the other.
i want to please my wife! that is my primary purpose; but, i don't want her to change her opinion of me or how she views me.
i would do this to please her, but the request has also piqued my curiosity. i am struggling with how i would feel after the fact. does that make sense?
i am not sure of how to feel. i get the 'normal' reference, but i certainly don't want my wife to judge me one way or the other.
i want to please my wife! that is my primary purpose; but, i don't want her to change her opinion of me or how she views me.
i would do this to please her, but the request has also piqued my curiosity. i am struggling with how i would feel after the fact. does that make sense?
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It make sense. And there's only one way to find out. Go for it and you'll learn something from the experience.
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It makes so much sense. Tell her all of this. It sounds like at the very least you two will have some amazing conversations. Talk about all sides of this before embarking on opening up your relationship to others. Feelings and emotional responses are powerful when other players become involved (speaking from experience).
Maybe this stays a hot fantasy you two share with each other and don't act on. Maybe it's the start of adventurous play. It's great either way, right?
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i wouldn't worry a damn about how she would view you. she's your wife, not some random woman you picked up last night. if she asked, she at least had a good notion you might be receptive to the idea.
so if you haven't already, maybe this is the time to ask a few probing questions here. i mean, most guys don't like their sexual encounters to end with receiving a BJ (although here on lit, ending with a snowball is quite popular), so what happens after the oral sex? is she looking to watch full-blown man on man action? a three-way? whose cock gets to go in what orifice?
i suggest maybe watching a little MFM porn together that specifically involves male/male action and see what turns her on, if the direct approach above doesn't work for you.
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so if you haven't already, maybe this is the time to ask a few probing questions here. i mean, most guys don't like their sexual encounters to end with receiving a BJ (although here on lit, ending with a snowball is quite popular), so what happens after the oral sex? is she looking to watch full-blown man on man action? a three-way? whose cock gets to go in what orifice?
i suggest maybe watching a little MFM porn together that specifically involves male/male action and see what turns her on, if the direct approach above doesn't work for you.
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Is she likely to become judgemental? Is it a higher probability than her being appreciative? As a fantasy most husbands probably wouldn't go for it. I think maybe we here on lit might tend to be more open-minded than the average, there's several current threads where many otherwise hetero guys admit to liking the idea of sucking another guy's cock. You sound like you're open to thinking about it, why not have a look at what other guys think and feel about it.
Sound like a trust issue, you're worried you give her what she wants but she doesn't like it the as much as she thinks and this is transferred onto you. I think that's a legitimate concern, but she needs to hear that from you.
Yes, perfect sense. You've know way of knowing for sure how you'd feel afterwards, if you had people would ask you to pick their lottery numbers!
It's not unheard of for an otherwise happy couple to try an adventure and to wreck what they had, again you guys need to talk it all through if she seriously wants it.
And let's not ignore that a bit of quid pro quo would be in order, what would you like to see her do?
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Don't overthink things, talk to her about your feelings and how you are now curious and wondering about it. It doesn't mean anything more is going to happen, it could just be some fuel for the nub-rubbin' fantasy (hers, and possibly yours).
And if it leads somewhere...
It's just like sucking your thumb.
Only it's not your thumb.
And it's a penis.
Has your wife (or any woman) ever given you a BJ? Did you cum in her mouth? If so, you owe it to her, if for no other reason than to find out what it feels like. One consideration - men sometimes lose their unquenchable desire for sex right after they cum. With this in mind, you might want to suck cock before you get your rocks off, because if you wait until afterwards, you might change your mind. (It might be a good idea to practice with a cucumber. You need to test your limits. It would be a shame if your jaw locked up before you got your mouthful.)
I see this as an opportunity to increase the bonds between you. Not many couples share such an experience. Consider yourself lucky that your wife is so open minded, and definitely come back and tell us all about it.
I see this as an opportunity to increase the bonds between you. Not many couples share such an experience. Consider yourself lucky that your wife is so open minded, and definitely come back and tell us all about it.
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Good advice there SikFuk. Apparently it's called (by the professionals in the field) Post Coital Contempt, also heard it called PC blues, PC depression or more fancifully, PC tristesse (oo la la!)
I'm guessing there's an evolutionary advantage to it but it's real and even though you can predict it, you can't seem to avoid it.
I'm guessing there's an evolutionary advantage to it but it's real and even though you can predict it, you can't seem to avoid it.
I would say go for it. My GF ask me to do and it was extremely sexy, it is and was a turn on. We ended blowing the guy together it was off the hook erotic. The topper was when she and he blew me afterwards. Just do it and don't look back seize the moment. PM or hit me up yahoo would love to relive it for you and maybe show you pics.
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If it makes her happy or turned on .... why not ?!?!?
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Another thought: have you two acted on similar fantasies before? If this isn't something you've done before, there's a good chance that the thinking about it, talking about it, and planning it is plenty exciting to her. There are things I fantasize about and love thinking about that in reality, I wouldn't necessarily want to follow through with. So if this is still in the fantasy realm and hasn't yet become a flat-out request, she may just be looking to indulge the concept, as opposed to the actual act. You'd definitely be able to know which situation you're in, though.
(The reason I mention this is because my boyfriend once became nervous when I shared a fantasy he didn't have interest in -- he didn't realize that it's something I enjoyed thinking about but wouldn't actually ask him to do.)
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Since she is one who brought it up (very brave of her) I would say that it is doubtful she would be judgemental afterward.
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I'd say it's normal. It's the taboo part that girls like. You shouldn't be doing it so it's a turn on for them. My wife likes to fantasize that I would. We have a lifelike cumming dildo that we both perform oral on while we have sex sometimes. In the heat of the moment, it's super hot!!! Go for it 
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I am only replying from the viewpoint of someone who engaged in sexual behavior to make someone else happy.
If the only reason you become aroused by it is because it arouses your wife, there are many ways to live out the fantasy without potential negatives feelings after. Have you considered bedroom role play? Would you consider letting her fuck your mouth with her dildo or vibrator while she acts as if she's another man?
Have you considered visual excitement with porn?
Maybe you would be willing to write her a fantasy that she could masturbate to.
I kind of question how this came up, although you certainly aren't required to share.
If you two have been sharing dirty talk under the covers that has led to this, then she might be pushing your envelope. If were blindsided by this and, by the way, she already has a guy picked out for when she talks you into it, then it's more about her than it is about your mutual satisfaction.
If the only reason you become aroused by it is because it arouses your wife, there are many ways to live out the fantasy without potential negatives feelings after. Have you considered bedroom role play? Would you consider letting her fuck your mouth with her dildo or vibrator while she acts as if she's another man?
Have you considered visual excitement with porn?
Maybe you would be willing to write her a fantasy that she could masturbate to.
I kind of question how this came up, although you certainly aren't required to share.
If you two have been sharing dirty talk under the covers that has led to this, then she might be pushing your envelope. If were blindsided by this and, by the way, she already has a guy picked out for when she talks you into it, then it's more about her than it is about your mutual satisfaction.
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The only person who can say whether or not it is normal to you is yourself. I, however, see nothing wrong with it.
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You need to turn on your PMs.
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Most people are of two minds. That is, all of us function with 2 separate, distinct control centers. One is civilized, the other is primitive. The eternal challenge is to get them on the same side of any issue or activity. Ambivalence happens when we fail. We wanna murder but we don't. We wanna rape but we don't. Strong feelings come from one side (primitive) and guilt, shame, embarrassment, contempt come from the other (civilized).
The way most of us work it is to do things outta sight. If no one knows, our civilized mind cuts us some slack with the guilt etc.
If we have any questions at all about sucking a dick or stealing granny's dentures THAT means our 2 minds aren't together.
The way most of us work it is to do things outta sight. If no one knows, our civilized mind cuts us some slack with the guilt etc.
If we have any questions at all about sucking a dick or stealing granny's dentures THAT means our 2 minds aren't together.
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