How many of you ladies actually like anal sex?

LadyVer said:

I tried it on several occasions, not because it was something I wanted to do on my bucket list, but to please a partner. The reality was that it wasn't worth the aggravation to please a partner who expected me to be the one who was the designated pleaser at all times. And for some reason, he wasn't willing to have me put a vibrator up his ass. I mean, really. geeze.

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He needs to sort his priorities out! lol

Learin said:

The orgasm is RARE. And I stress on rare because it is very difficult to tick all of the right conditions at a given time.

Also, you really sound like someone who wants to make his wife enjoy it, but can't. Some women don't like anal at all. It does nothing for them. Zip. Nada. Zilch. Nothing at all. So, I think you should get used to that fact.

The best you can do is improvise your techniques and make it more comfortable for her.

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I guess the frustration from my point is I enjoy the tight sensation and the so called "Taboo" feeling. But when I see her grinding her teeth in discomfort it just puts me off. So in the end the whole thing is a bit of a pain in the ass (pardon the pun).

As Birdy_sw mentioned the only time she actually goes with the flow is when we've downed a couple of bottles of wine and suddenly she "feels no pain". Does become an expensive hobby if you want to do it regularly.

But yes I have made peace with the fact that it is a sex act that is not going to give us both the same amount of pleasure. But men can be stubborn as you all probably know....

Don't use numbing agents! Jesus Christ.

I really like it with the right partner and when I'm in the mood. For me it's a wonderfully submissive thing but all of the planets have to align for me to beg for it.

JA068 said:

I really like it with the right partner and when I'm in the mood. For me it's a wonderfully submissive thing but all of the planets have to align for me to beg for it.

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Love the look on a lady's face when she's on her fours looking helpless while she surrenders her asshole.

Learin said:

I love anal sex. It's different for every woman. Most of my friends don't like it because it hurts and that's understandable. But it shouldn't hurt that much if you're doing it properly. One guy thought he should use his dick as a battering ram on me, so I can deeply understand the phobia behind it.

As much as I love anal sex, I still love the normal thingy. I haven't yet graduated to an all-time anal slut. None of my friends I've talked with are, so I don't know if someone like that actually exists. Maybe they do, but are pretty rare.

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Anal sex done right is very erotic and sexy and can feel very amazing. Emphasis on done right and the MOOD has to be there. I love anal sex but if I am not in the mood then I am not in the mood and likely not going to enjoy it. It should not hurt and it most definitely should not be something you do begrudgingly to please someone else.
I do it because I was turned onto and I was the one that was curious and allowed to explore it at my own pace and desire.
Do I prefer it to vaginal or oral. I would say no, but I definitely like it in my line-up!

Not my fave, but with the right foreplay it can be so intense!

I do actually love anal, I realised when my rim is played with, caressed, tapped, circled..,I can feel it in my clit and it drives me wild and to orgasm.. It was a revelation and after a disasterous first attempt at anal(too quick,not enough lube and way too painful) it became somewhat of a personal mission to do it again...successfully-which we did
I love it when the mood strikes, I love feeling his fullness and the slow torturous push in and pull out but I don't love it more than vaginal sex, I just love it differently. Now if your talking about DP-ass and pussy at the same time, well that's a different story all together
Anal is messy and I love to go slow with it but its worth it, for me.

flickanipple said:

I do actually love anal, I realised when my rim is played with, caressed, tapped, circled..,I can feel it in my clit and it drives me wild and to orgasm.. It was a revelation and after a disasterous first attempt at anal(too quick,not enough lube and way too painful) it became somewhat of a personal mission to do it again...successfully-which we did
I love it when the mood strikes, I love feeling his fullness and the slow torturous push in and pull out but I don't love it more than vaginal sex, I just love it differently. Now if your talking about DP-ass and pussy at the same time, well that's a different story all together
Anal is messy and I love to go slow with it but its worth it, for me.

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You really are a rare creature! Have you ever had an orgasm simply through anal sex or did you have to get the help of a vibrator or stimulated your clit with your/his fingers at the same time to achieve your release?

I can only cum from anal sex with a toy, a strong vib on my clit and a good fantasy going. My husband is a lot older than me and can't manage to do it himself but he will use the toy on me so I can get there. I have never cum from Vaginal sex, I seem to be lacking the nerve endings (or whatever is needed) there. Anal sex doesn't hurt or if it does you're not doing it right. I'm a lot older than you I should imagine, so I'm glad that I finally found what I was missing and how I can achieve it.
By the way my picture was taken 17 years ago, so as I said I'm older.

UnderYourSpell said:

I can only cum from anal sex with a toy, a strong vib on my clit and a good fantasy going. My husband is a lot older than me and can't manage to do it himself but he will use the toy on me so I can get there. I have never cum from Vaginal sex, I seem to be lacking the nerve endings (or whatever is needed) there. Anal sex doesn't hurt or if it does you're not doing it right. I'm a lot older than you I should imagine, so I'm glad that I finally found what I was missing and how I can achieve it.
By the way my picture was taken 17 years ago, so as I said I'm older.

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Glad you have found the right tools you need to get your release. Do you use any lubricants to make anal sex easier?

Anatomically a man's ass is no different than a woman's ass. If a man likes to go anal, I have two questions:

1. Are you sure you want to fuck MY ass, or is it any ass? I mean wouldn't you want to go up a man's ass? Are you sure you are not still in the closet?

2. Before we discuss ME submitting my ass to you, how about we switch places and I get to fuck your ass with an equal sized dildo?

Almost every man has backed out, at the thought of having his ass reamed.

As for me I detest Anal sex - it's too painful, and honestly if one partner is NOT enjoying sex - it's rape isn't it?

chitrashi said:

Anatomically a man's ass is no different than a woman's ass. If a man likes to go anal, I have two questions:

1. Are you sure you want to fuck MY ass, or is it any ass? I mean wouldn't you want to go up a man's ass? Are you sure you are not still in the closet?

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Misses the point. I'm not interested in some amorphous dude or even another woman, I'm interested in YOU. (ok, not you personally, but the person I'm with.)

2. Before we discuss ME submitting my ass to you, how about we switch places and I get to fuck your ass with an equal sized dildo?

Almost every man has backed out, at the thought of having his ass reamed.

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Again, misses the point. Your submission to the request is the point. If you refuse, then what's the issue since the dynamic of any relationship, even a purely vanilla relationship, has hard and soft limits? No anal sex as a hard limit means no anal sex. Period. If your partner doesn't like it, he can go find someone else. Right? If he can, then why do you feel you need to threaten him?

As for me I detest Anal sex - it's too painful, and honestly if one partner is NOT enjoying sex - it's rape isn't it?

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No it is not. Rape is a crime. Sex without enjoyment is not a crime. The two are not synonymous.

What your post appears to say is that because you don't personally like anal sex, no one should unless they are either gay or bi. And, if they don't say they're gay or bi, then they must be in denial about it. Unfortunately none of that is true. It is merely your projection of your dislike onto others and the insistence that this must be so universally disliked that it must somehow be criminal.

Not everyone believes what you believe. Not everyone enjoys the same things you enjoy. The sad part is that you don't see it. You might even be a very strong person, but you still don't see the dynamic that exists in every relationship.

Strength through trust. Trust from strength. Fear is not trust. Threats are not strength. When the dynamic works, it works. The relationship that exists because of that dynamic is the important part. Not the sex (either including anal or oral or neither/both).

Eilan said:

Don't use numbing agents! Jesus Christ.

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This. Ever.


Absolutely love anal, but it needs to be done right. Not more than vaginal but I sure can crave it.

chitrashi said:

As for me I detest Anal sex - it's too painful, and honestly if one partner is NOT enjoying sex - it's rape isn't it?

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Well, that escalated quickly.

Rape has nothing to do with pain/pleasure but consensuality. You can't go around BDSM forums screaming rape just because someone is getting high from being a masochist.

Now repeat after me:

Pain. Does. Not. Mean. Rape.

Now repeat after me:

Pain. Does. Not. Mean. Rape.[/QUOTE]

LOL

dansouthwest said:

Glad you have found the right tools you need to get your release. Do you use any lubricants to make anal sex easier?

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Oh sure lots of lube and not just rammed up! Once I'm on the way then I'll ask for more. A lot of people posting seem to have forgotten the niceties if you like, you're trying to make your partner feel good. Start off small if it's new to you, just a finger eased in maybe plus clit work, and work you way up to something bigger. My Husband likes it too by the way, especially if he's getting a BJ at the same time, I get something buzzing on his prostate and he goes wild. It's not the young uns invented sex, we've been there before you and still indulge. Who would have thought it? Grandpa and Grandma are still finding ways to enjoy themselves in bed!

Like isn't a strong enough word...

I do prefer anal to vaginal sometimes, because it is more intense and I cum faster.

I really, really like anal, but I've had modestly-sized lovers...maybe I wouldn't be such an enthusiast with a porno-sized cock.

I think more women would be into it if their guy used enough lube and started slowly. My first experience with it was bad, and I didn't try again for a while, but when it's done right...hot damn. Very hot.

UnderYourSpell said:

Oh sure lots of lube and not just rammed up! Once I'm on the way then I'll ask for more. A lot of people posting seem to have forgotten the niceties if you like, you're trying to make your partner feel good. Start off small if it's new to you, just a finger eased in maybe plus clit work, and work you way up to something bigger. My Husband likes it too by the way, especially if he's getting a BJ at the same time, I get something buzzing on his prostate and he goes wild. It's not the young uns invented sex, we've been there before you and still indulge. Who would have thought it? Grandpa and Grandma are still finding ways to enjoy themselves in bed!

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Haha that is so true! We do tend to forget ours elders didn't stick to just missionary position all this time. Glad you guys are still having fun and enjoying each others bodies. Thank you for all your tips.

I adore people who love anal sex

monanympho said:

I adore people who love anal sex

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Why thank you. It's nice to be adored.

Anal is like Jägermeister. You need to try it 5-6 times before you really like it.

dansouthwest said:

My question is how many of you lovely ladies actually enjoy anal and happily suggest it to your partners as compared to them begging you?

Cheers

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I'm not trying to troll this thread or attack those who enjoy anal sex. But since the OP asked for both sorts of honest feedback:

But for homosexual couples for whom this is the only way of achieving intimacy, I'm quite prejudiced against the act. And that's only because of the health risks to both partners (the anus is full of bacteria, the tissue inside can be easily ruptured).
So for me, the only thing that begging would achieve would be a boot up Their ass.

hashtag45 said:

But for homosexual couples for whom this is the only way of achieving intimacy, I'm quite prejudiced against the act. And that's only because of the health risks to both partners (the anus is full of bacteria, the tissue inside can be easily ruptured).
So for me, the only thing that begging would achieve would be a boot up Their ass.

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So now you are an authority on all things intimacy?

Yet another of your prejudices...

The irony is that you used the word "prejudiced" correctly of yourself.

You truly are an idiot.

NightL said:

1.So now you are an authority on all things intimacy?

2.Yet another of your prejudices...
The irony is that you used the word "prejudiced" correctly of yourself.
You truly are an idiot.

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1.I'm not claiming that I'm an authority in that; I was merely citing a medical article.
I didn't know that the health risks associated with it are such a taboo subject. If you deny them, that makes You an idiot for not taking the necessary precautions. Just like not using a condom with a new partner.

2.And yes, I stated clearly that it's just a personal opinion and that I Am very prejudiced almost phobic about it. I'm not the type of person who looks well after herself or her body, but when it comes to this topic I get worried about these things.

Not sure what other prejudices you saw me display since I don't post here and imo, as far as sexual practices are concerned, almost everything else goes. As long as they're consensual.