midwestyankee
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Oh boy... -snicker-
Why I say it is too far apart is because one side who, having a strongly sexual perspective, would not have any automatic appreciation of any other party who had a strongly non-sexual perspective on certain behaviours. And unless these things were clearly spelled out before any involvement was to start, I don't see how anything other than miscommunication and problems would result.
'Sexual' BDSM, and 'non-sexual' BDSM - are too far apart to be 'lumped in together.'
Why I say it is too far apart is because one side who, having a strongly sexual perspective, would not have any automatic appreciation of any other party who had a strongly non-sexual perspective on certain behaviours. And unless these things were clearly spelled out before any involvement was to start, I don't see how anything other than miscommunication and problems would result.
I know what I think. And I'm not interested in what I think as much as I am interested to hear what others think.
Reading this thread, I wonder if BDSM is being linked together for convince rather than what each aspect is. I'm thinking along the lines of Band-aid or Kleenex. It is just something that is lumped together than for its individual parts?
What made me change my understanding? Speaking to people-- listening to the actual words they say, instead of the noise in my head, the way youve been doing, old chum, and I grant it is not at all easy-- who are genuinely asexual, they say so and I have to believe them, who nevertheless experience euphoria and joy and connection with others through the physical/emotional interplay of BDSM. Without orgasms.I know what I think. And I'm not interested in what I think as much as I am interested to hear what others think.
Stella O. What made you change your view and how do you see the factualities?
I have to wonder about this insistance of yours, this constant harping on exploitation. I mean, sure, people's needs can be exploited and used to meet another person's needs. And I bet you've done so, possibly without being aware of it. I've certainly done so. But exploitation is not the only way to play with strangers. I have been willing to play non-sexually-- but with connection. Wow, was i surprised to discover how pleasurable it could be!I could see how it would be possible for people to exploit one side or the other's stance to the benefit of their own needs or wants - is that what you are talking about? Or something else/more?
Well, here's how it worked for me; We were sitting there over coffee, and she said;Why I say it is too far apart is because one side who, having a strongly sexual perspective, would not have any automatic appreciation of any other party who had a strongly non-sexual perspective on certain behaviours. And unless these things were clearly spelled out before any involvement was to start, I don't see how anything other than miscommunication and problems would result.
Bingo, I think.I'm pretty sure some lesbians, gay people, bisexual people and transgender people don't necessarily agree with being 'lumped together' in the LGBT acronym either (LGBTQ, LGBTQI, LGBTQIA, QUILTBAG, FABGLITTER, etc.) - but at least some people have found it helpful to work together under that umbrella of community (both imagined and real) and commonalities and have made some useful changes in the process.
I don't know the history of the 'BDSM' community as well, but I imagine much the same must have happened, or is happening.
Think of a kink and you'll find it in BDSM. It's just a catch all term for all of the kinks out there. And there are a lot of kinks, so we're lucky there are only 4 letters in the term.
Kewl. Now... As long as we can get Crimea, to stay lumped in with The Ukraine, and maybe have some Israeli stettlements just thrown in there just because, Washington and NATO will be happy that everyone can get along. lovl.
Too. Far. Apart.
Kewl. Now... As long as we can get Crimea, to stay lumped in with The Ukraine, and maybe have some Israeli stettlements just thrown in there just because, Washington and NATO will be happy that everyone can get along. lovl.
Too. Far. Apart.
Well I personally mean in this particular context every possible intimate act that everyone would generally say IS a sex act, is going to happen, or may happen, or could happen, without any contraint.
People have already appropriated the terminology to suite A VAST range of things; it's far too late to stop them defining it every which way they choose. Holy fuck. The genie's out of the bottle well and truly.
I read that post three times, and still can't make head nor tails of it, beyond a healthy dose of pre-judgment, with a side of judgement.
Are there cliff notes?
And now I've run out of popcorn. Fortunately, I'm planning to go to Costco later on. I think they have their special 55-gallon drum of cheddar corn and caramel corn mix on special this month.This is a non-answer.
If you're making the claim that there exists under no uncertain circumstances a decidedly not arbitrary line between sexual and non-sexual kink that makes them irreconcilable, then your definitions of the two can't be fucking arbitrary.
And yeah, I can't make heads or tails of the rest of your post either.
Jesus. Lucky I don't tell you guys what to do, eh? As much as you tell me what to do...
Read the comic.
I am right now wiggling a toe deep deep, very deep into the New Zealand, thick pile wool carpet.
I might buy a copy of this comic book and flick it on top of the Jarrah coffee table.
And get * to piss all over it in honour of university students everywhere.
And in that '*' there is a world of meaning.
And a world of trouble if you knew what I meant because they just don't make comic books about the people I know.
Jesus. Lucky I don't tell you guys what to do, eh? As much as you tell me what to do...
Read the comic.
I am right now wiggling a toe deep deep, very deep into the New Zealand, thick pile wool carpet.
I might buy a copy of this comic book and flick it on top of the Jarrah coffee table.
And get * to piss all over it in honour of university students everywhere.
And in that '*' there is a world of meaning.
And a world of trouble if you knew what I meant because they just don't make comic books about the people I know.