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Netzach said:Sure I can share my opinion, and I will, and I don't even require payment for it.
Netzach said:
Furthermore, what more than simply choosing not to associate with someone do you recommend for those whose behavior I don't personally condone?
Why would anyone make recommendations? Why would anyone care?
Shall we publish black lists? Shall we throw stones?
In case you haven't noticed, blacklists are published in the GB and Playground daily. So you are a bit late.
Johnny Mayberry said:I think any 'family' or 'community' only contains those individuals who you choose to include.
It may be 'clique-y', but that's just the way it goes.
Johnny Mayberry said:Well...just look at the talk here on Lit...everyone treats BDSM as a perfect lifestyle. We need to 'own' the predators and the damaged subs as well as the wonderful Doms and subs.
We're just here to attack pure, out of boredom. You can feel free to ignore this thread in its entirety...s'lara said:This topic has circulated on other threads in different formats, but with the same opinions expressed by the same individuals.
It is very clear where everyone stands on the issue of moral ethics/standards and tolerance of what is considered unethical in BDSM.
We're not here to streamline into one school of thought. i find discussing morality in relation to BDSM, even standard normal morals (alliterate that why don't you) to be a heated, yet often frustrating debate as the degree of morality in each of us is divergent and dependent upon personal viewpoint and current life positions.
While i am not saying the topic isn't a credible subject for debate, i do find the need to circle endlessly around it counterproductive. Those who don't share similar convictions will never see eye to eye, but as its been said before, expound on your beliefs if it moves you. Listen to others expression of morality and take from it what you will. But, lets just hope the final outcome of the discussion is positive as opposed to an exasperated session of "but you just don't get it."
Cheers all.
lara
Nope, not a toning down in the least, although I'm sure you would like it to be so.Pure said:
JM: I am saying that we have at least the same ethical responsibilities as anyone else. Your sexual habits don't change your duty to your sexual partners, in the most basic sense. It is the fact that some of our behaviour is more dangerous that means we have to uphold a higher standard. If a vanilla lover is neglectful in bed, it means bad sex. If a Dom/me loses focus, someone could wind up with a serious injury.
If B is the BDSM level of morality, and N is the normal level. You say, just above, here, B=N. Earlier you suggested B>N.
Johnny says, clearly
NOT B<N, which translates B [> or =] N, but his example slips back to suggesting B>N. It's his tendency, and, with all due respect, yours.
What's going on, IMO, is that the original claims are getting toned down, or there is an attempt at it, due to the exigencies of debate.
s'lara said:life positions.
While i am not saying the topic isn't a credible subject for debate, i do find the need to circle endlessly around it counterproductive.
lara
You are a rude cunt, with your little insults and innuendo. Fuck you, I don't need PR, I have what I want in life, and don't need to impress people here.Pure said:Here's the problem, Francisco and Johnny M.
It's pretty clear that an urge to subordinate another or to inflict pain on them is self-interested. Recognizing that, F (and JM too, iirc) has even claimed to be 'a selfish bastard'.
Now you're over here sayin' "I'm as moral as the next guy; you gotta have basic respect for others, etc."
BUT most people agree there's a difference, at least some of the time, between doing moral acts and doing self interested ones, though in the case of close family and friends they overlap or coincide. It's evident in dealings with at least some non-so-close people and institutions.
To take just one example, the moral guy pays the income tax owed on his true income; the self interested guy (aka 'tax cheat') pays the tax on the sources of income that are documented (W-4s in the US) and not in cash (though taking care to be plausible).
Please enlighten me.
Or if you don't want to go public and admit that all this morals talk is just good PR to get fodder for your own ends, you can PM me and I won't tell a soul.
Johnny Mayberry said:While the coach may be acting in his own interest(money, fame, self-satisfaction, etc), he must also keep his athlete healthy and growing in the strengths and skills of the sport.
In the same way, while my wishes always come first, there is a larger plan at work, which benefits us both in this relationship.
Troll away, ADR...it makes me feel special!A Desert Rose said:
And yes, I guess I am trolling you... sorry. (Not something I usually do.)
Johnny Mayberry said:Troll away, ADR...it makes me feel special!
Ebonyfire said:Grumble, grumble, Johnny gets all the best trolls.
And never acted on it...how strange...A Desert Rose said:I've trolled after you forever... you already know that. ;-)
Johnny Mayberry said:And never acted on it...how strange...
*throws ethics out the window*A Desert Rose said:And you know this.... how? Maybe I have, and maybe I have not....
;-)
A Desert Rose said:I've trolled after you forever... you already know that. ;-)
Johnny Mayberry said:*throws ethics out the window*
Now, where were we? Cash, in small bills, or did you have something else in mind?
Actually, I was expecting you to pay me...A Desert Rose said:If you're asking me... I like bright, shiny, sparkly things. Diamonds come to mind first.