OldbutHorny
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Great point! Isn't it funny how we can talk to a perfect stranger on here about our fantasies via PM and not our partners? I remember in the 90s going on a Cruise and this lady told me she just had a threesome and her friend had a Gang bang the first day of the cruise. She loved going on Cruises because she could have sex with strangers and not worry about being judged. When you tell a stranger you like to be tied up, if he rolls his eyes or looks at you in shock, you don't get hurt. You just ask or share your fantasy with someone else.
Unfortunately things are different when you are in a relationship. That is why many couples like to have sex before marriage so they can discuss/talk/explore fantasies before things get serious. After you are in a relationship there is always the concern or worry your partner will not like, enjoy, or Judge your fantasies.
Think of it this way. Imagine someone tells you their fantasy. Sit in front of a mirror when you hear it. I am sure there may be some eyebrow raising on your part. No matter what your reaction, your loving partner may take it differently than if you were a stranger.
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There is a series of books that started with My Secret Garden, that is a compilation of letters from mostly women discussing fantasies and secret desires on many sexual issues. I found it very illuminating for a man, both in understanding women's fantasies and my own. I have shared it with women, and it has been great for letting them relax about their particular fantasies and desires, and getting past self judgement for fantasies and desires. Of course, some of the subjects are forceful sex, submission, etc., and it has at least let to experimentation.