Giving Woman Oral Sex

Also, the angles are all wrong - I can't work on a guys cock properly if I'm upside down.

OK, you got me here. I understand the comments about the need for concentrating on your partner, and how 69 just doesn't work out as well as it sounds. But I really am trying to imagine how there is a wrong angle for a BJ. Maybe I'm just missing something here, but it seems like the angles are part of the fun, and I'm trying to imagine how the interaction between lovers is diminished by any of that... hmmmm
 
OK, you got me here. I understand the comments about the need for concentrating on your partner, and how 69 just doesn't work out as well as it sounds. But I really am trying to imagine how there is a wrong angle for a BJ. Maybe I'm just missing something here, but it seems like the angles are part of the fun, and I'm trying to imagine how the interaction between lovers is diminished by any of that... hmmmm

Excellent point well made!
 
OK, you got me here. I understand the comments about the need for concentrating on your partner, and how 69 just doesn't work out as well as it sounds. But I really am trying to imagine how there is a wrong angle for a BJ. Maybe I'm just missing something here, but it seems like the angles are part of the fun, and I'm trying to imagine how the interaction between lovers is diminished by any of that... hmmmm

I dunno ... I just struggle to get it all in if I'm upside down. The arc of a cock seems built to just slide in easily if I'm the right way around ... upside down, my teeth get caught on things, and I end up gagging in a way I don't usually.
 
I dunno ... I just struggle to get it all in if I'm upside down. The arc of a cock seems built to just slide in easily if I'm the right way around ... upside down, my teeth get caught on things, and I end up gagging in a way I don't usually.

I don't generally think of myself as very vanilla in my sexual appetite, and love a lot of variety, but gagging to me just isn't sexy. I really don't understand it, and maybe I'm missing something. Granted I'm working from memory here, but I've had a lot of them enough to know that it really doesn't feel any better by making her gag. My own stimulation comes from a nice tongue on the rim and underside, and a nice set of lips on the head, the shaft just doesn't have near that kind of sensitivity. If a woman gets some enjoyment from the fact she can take it all the way down her throat, I'd hate to be the one to deny that fun, but is it REALLY fun?
 
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I don't generally think of myself as very vanilla in my sexual appetite, and love a lot of variety, but gagging to me just isn't sexy. I really don't understand it, and maybe I'm missing something. Granted I'm working from memory here, but I've had a lot of them enough to know that it really doesn't feel any better by making her gag. My own stimulation comes from a nice tongue on the rim and underside, and a nice set of lips on the head, the shaft just doesn't have near that kind of sensitivity. If a woman gets some enjoyment from the fact she can take it all the way down her throat, I'd hate to be the one to deny that fun, but is it REALLY fun?

I don't usually gag - that's my point. I pretty much never have a problem getting a whole cock in without gagging ... unless I'm upside down. This it's just all wrong, somehow.
It's not something I've really talked to guys about a lot, but my current BF says he literally can feel my throat contracting around it - not like in porn where it seems to be halfway down the throat (and I'm pretty sure that's faked), but whatever is going on, he likes it a lot.
 
Seeing as how oral really is about making your partner your canvas, I'm always wondering what women consider good oral techniques when it's their turn to receive. There are so many more moving parts on a woman, and so many different sensations that can be given by moving with more or less pressure, sucking, nibbling, touching, how much attention each area receives, is she more excited to reach orgasm(s) by internal or external clit attention, is she into toys and of what type....and all of this is about giving HER the oral ride of her life .... so what does the ideal include, and what are the things that just don't perform as good for real as they look to be in the porn flick....I have my own thoughts, and haven't really gotten complaints, but then I don't have the equipment to make a good analysis... if that's the right word.
 
I don't usually gag - that's my point. I pretty much never have a problem getting a whole cock in without gagging ... unless I'm upside down. This it's just all wrong, somehow.
It's not something I've really talked to guys about a lot, but my current BF says he literally can feel my throat contracting around it - not like in porn where it seems to be halfway down the throat (and I'm pretty sure that's faked), but whatever is going on, he likes it a lot.

I get what you're saying as a guy from the mental part of it... I think oral sex feels different mentally to us guys (as well as physically), but it's more about seeing her reaction to having your dick in her mouth ... seeing her moving her head, looking into her eyes, hearing the licking at the same time she uses her lips and tongue... and there's a lot more attention to one specific area at a time ... when it's in a woman's vagina, it's everything at once, and not a lot of selection on a specific part of the cock... but a tongue on the rim, teasing and working all the sensation of one spot completely... I'm MUCH more turned on by a woman's attention to every detail of her delivery than how much pressure she applies to my shaft. It's a matter to me of where she puts the emphasis and how much attention she pays to my reaction as she tastes each spot... think of it as an ice cream cone of many flavors, and you get to watch her eat and enjoy each flavor.
 
I get what you're saying as a guy from the mental part of it... I think oral sex feels different mentally to us guys (as well as physically), but it's more about seeing her reaction to having your dick in her mouth ... seeing her moving her head, looking into her eyes, hearing the licking at the same time she uses her lips and tongue... and there's a lot more attention to one specific area at a time ... when it's in a woman's vagina, it's everything at once, and not a lot of selection on a specific part of the cock... but a tongue on the rim, teasing and working all the sensation of one spot completely... I'm MUCH more turned on by a woman's attention to every detail of her delivery than how much pressure she applies to my shaft. It's a matter to me of where she puts the emphasis and how much attention she pays to my reaction as she tastes each spot... think of it as an ice cream cone of many flavors, and you get to watch her eat and enjoy each flavor.

Well, you can have both of those things ... the attention to tiny detail and slowness and care ... and then the throat fucky ending.
Just saying.
 
Well, you can have both of those things ... the attention to tiny detail and slowness and care ... and then the throat fucky ending.
Just saying.

Everybody has their own feelings and fantasies, and whatever works is the answer for each and every one. But my strong preference is for the intimacy and details to all my most sensitive spots in the best possible detail in oral... it's so much more specific to be able to use a mouth and to have the all important mental fulfillment of having a woman's face on my cock, it totally does it for me.... but when it comes time to stimulate me to my orgasm, I definitely want to be in her vagina. There's just no way I can be as rough and hard in her mouth as what I can reach in her vagina... and the things that go with that include being able to reach and stimulate her tits and nipples, to suck on them, especially in doggy, to be able to watch them bounce to my thrusting, and to feel the squeezing and warmth, the soft folds that slide so smoothly but firmly in deep, heavy fucking, and to give her manual fingering with my hand on her clit as I force myself in and out of her vagina. It's just an entirely harder and I have to say a more self centered reaction than the more intimate oral stimulation I get.
 
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Well, you can have both of those things ... the attention to tiny detail and slowness and care ... and then the throat fucky ending.
Just saying.

One of my favorite things to do to woman during oral sex is to lift her clit from inside, usually with my index finger, and either use my mouth and tongue to apply pressure downward from the outside on her clit, or sometimes with my thumb and forefinger... and it usually get a good reaction. I tend to enjoy more mouth contact though, for the same sensation as I was describing earlier, to feel my lips and tongue circling on the clit, and feeling the wetness, and to absorb the smell and taste directly. Is this something that I'm enjoying more than my partner, or is it something you find a promising one for both partners?
 
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Our conversation started out talking about the 'bad angles' that doing 69 provides, but are there angles other than just laying with the legs spread wide while a man puts his face between your legs that kind of changes things up for you, without being so convoluted you end up with a contract with Ringling Bros trying to perform them? I'm thinking 'standing' on your shoulders, legs around your mans neck as he stands supporting your weight with his face between your legs, and enjoying the delights before his nose! It's one I like for a changeup, but what's the women's view of this?
 
I find 69 works best when the two of you are of equal height. I had that experience once. I don't know about the cock sucking part though, because I wasn't the one doing that.

I agree, about the "equal height"...be it with a woman or another guy.
For me 69 is a starting point, preliminary before the serious stuff.
I do enjoy a lady sitting on my face, whether she forward or backward...so I can do her rosebud.
 
Personally I don't enjoy 69 as much as just giving or receiving as I feel I can't cum mainly as I am so focused on pleasuring.

There are times when I prefer giving oral than receiving but I think that's just a mood. I love it when I'm like that though as I feel I spend hours giving pleasure. Such a great feeling.

I enjoy oral in just about every position; nibbling, sucking, licking, kissing, biting, pinching, fingering and constant attention to my vulva feels amazing

I'm with you here, I'm not a huge fan of 69's.. I prefer to give oral as well and when in the 'zone', I can spend hours and hours consuming her..

I do love to receive on occasion though, from a passionate woman..
 
Yes Please...

My favorite position for oral is squatting down over the man's face, preferably steadying myself against the wall. Not in a smothering way (alright, maybe grinding down a little but obviously leaving room to breathe :)) just giving me some control while at the same time making it very ergonomic for the gentleman and lots of possibilities for him to use his hands as well.

Delicious. And just a little smothering is fine by me, especially when it shows she's losing control and is getting really turned on by my oral attentions… come on down, smother me in that lush pussy...
 
69 is awkward for actually climaxing, at least for me. I mean, it's fun foreplay and all, but if I am trying to do a good job sucking cock, I can't let my body relax into the sensations from being on the receiving end. I'd rather do oral separately, so it can be fully enjoyed from both aspects, both as a giver and a receiver.
 
69 is awkward for actually climaxing, at least for me. I mean, it's fun foreplay and all, but if I am trying to do a good job sucking cock, I can't let my body relax into the sensations from being on the receiving end. I'd rather do oral separately, so it can be fully enjoyed from both aspects, both as a giver and a receiver.

I agree with Aphroditiac on this, my concentration is better when I am giving or getting oral only and not at the same time.
 
We love the 69 - she enjoys having a dick in her mouth when I go down on her "so she has something to do at first" although pretty quick it gets ignored as she starts to get warmed up. I'm not overly distracted by the simultaneous blowjob, but as I'm over 6' and she's closer to 5' I prefer to be between her legs when she is sprawled out, as I have much more control, and latitude for moving my hands as well. The best part is when she squeezes her legs around my head - I know I'm doing a good job. I don't understand the squirting though - its happened but she says it does nothing for her, not like the concurrent ejaculation/orgasm I get.
 
69 is awkward for actually climaxing, at least for me. I mean, it's fun foreplay and all, but if I am trying to do a good job sucking cock, I can't let my body relax into the sensations from being on the receiving end. I'd rather do oral separately, so it can be fully enjoyed from both aspects, both as a giver and a receiver.

I totally agree with you..
 
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69 is awkward for actually climaxing, at least for me. I mean, it's fun foreplay and all, but if I am trying to do a good job sucking cock, I can't let my body relax into the sensations from being on the receiving end. I'd rather do oral separately, so it can be fully enjoyed from both aspects, both as a giver and a receiver.

To sixty-nine creates the perfect energy feedback loop, the perpetual-motion machinery of delight, too much is never enough...
 
To sixty-nine creates the perfect energy feedback loop, the perpetual-motion machinery of delight, too much is never enough...

And it's especially fun to watch when it's 2 guys...seeing their heads bob up and down engulfing cocks.
 
The Joys Of 69

And it's especially fun to watch when it's 2 guys...seeing their heads bob up and down engulfing cocks.

Certainly two guys seem to slot together, cock-to-mouth cock-to-mouth quite deliciously, and to full interactive satisfaction. But 69 is a game of mutual fun that everyone can enjoy, it's an equal-opportunities game in which no-one is ever the loser, in whatever gender combinations you prefer… it can even be extended into a daisy-chain by inviting more lucky participants, with switch-&-match potential as a bonus...
 
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As old as I am, I have a severe lack of training in this subject. Although I was married (widowed now) for over 44 years, my wife never gave me more than five minutes of instruction so that I could do a better job at this pastime. I have received more instruction in reading this 7 pages than ever before. I greatly appreciated the illustration since I don't trust any of the videos that I see on line (porn) to have accurate information. I'll probably never get the chance to practice anything I learn here since I never had the chance to learn how to approach women properly and I am not interested in paying for 'companionship'. Oh well, education is a reward in itself.
 
Nobody, but nobody, gives a woman oral like another woman can!
Just saying guys, sorry.
 
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